Breakup Advice

September 24, 2009
By Anonymous

After those amazing relationships end, you have to ask yourself how things will continue. If you broke up with your partner, you must either be unhappy with them, mad at them, tired of them, or some other circumstance. So, if it is you who breaks up with the other, stop and think. As one single person, you don't have any idea what the other might go through. One moment to you is completely different that that of another. For example, you might go on a date and have the time of your life, oblivious to that fact that the one you care for is about to slit their wrists in boredom.
Just and example.
But that is something that you can relate to a breakup. You might think that things are better off without the other. They might be tripping and falling behind you, trying to catch up and get you back. It happens a lot, and these breakups are the worst. I myself went through one. And I've scraped my knees so much over these past to years tripping and falling after her(yes, two years. She's so beautiful I can't stop thinking about her). I've found out the the first and most important thing you can do to stay out of those horrible, bad break ups, is to forget. Easier said then done, right? Well, there is only one way to completely get over such a thing. Overwrite the memories that the two of you shared. Now, people call this a rebound, but isn't every boyfriend/girlfriend after the first a rebound? You must make better memories with this person. Have a greater time, and think about the new things you share rather then all the things you used to share with the other. Take it from me, with time, almost everything is mendable.


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on Sep. 6 2011 at 11:46 pm
pageturner PLATINUM, Brooklyn, New York
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Favorite Quote:
It's okay to daydream.. just as long as you get to do some of those daydreams.

You shouldn't do that to yourself. Attraction can work in strange ways. You could be upset over this guy, and not even notice the guy of your dreams walk by. Don't worry there's someone for everyone.

on Sep. 6 2011 at 6:10 pm
BrittDawn PLATINUM, Winnipeg, Other
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Favorite Quote:
And at that moment, I swear we were infinite.

i know i love him now though. thanks

on Sep. 5 2011 at 10:50 am
PrincessSparkle GOLD, Flint, Michigan
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Favorite Quote:
Whoever said Nothings impossible clearly never tried to slam a rotating door.

If you've gotta ask yourself if you love them then its an obvious no. Nobody ever thinks about it. Its something that human nature does for us. We just know.

on Aug. 28 2011 at 12:01 pm
Thanks, singingdetective. I'm glad im not alone. I can see he has changed abit, but, you know how that is, and im not sure if i can take another heart break. We are good friends now, and i guess we will see how it goes. Utill then, it would be nice to get to know someone new. thanks fo the help.  Let's be friends

on Aug. 26 2011 at 12:35 pm
singingdetective SILVER, Sugar Land, Texas
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Favorite Quote:
"Out of a world of laughter,
suddenly I am sad.
Day and night, it haunts me,
the kiss I never had"
--Midsummer by Syndey King Russell

"Chances lost are hope's torn up pages"-- "Chances" by Five for Fighting

:P sorry i have no idea why that posted twice

on Aug. 26 2011 at 12:34 pm
singingdetective SILVER, Sugar Land, Texas
9 articles 0 photos 53 comments

Favorite Quote:
"Out of a world of laughter,
suddenly I am sad.
Day and night, it haunts me,
the kiss I never had"
--Midsummer by Syndey King Russell

"Chances lost are hope's torn up pages"-- "Chances" by Five for Fighting

you wanna read some of my work? i'll read yours!!! :D

random, but i also found out he's a liar. After we broke up the most recent time, we were still in contact, and told him about how i just came home from choir rehearsals. HE asked about the show-- when and where it was. HE SAID HE WOULD COME. I get a txt in the middle of the show with a ":)". At the end of the show, he said "it was nice to see you again. you looked beautiful as always". I ask him what song he liked best. He couldn't remember the name. I asked him if he had a pamplet with all the songs on it-- nope. I went and asked my mom about whether they gave any out. She said they handed them to you WITH THE TICKET. So i texted him "you didn't come did you?" His response: "I'm sorry... it would have hurt too much to see you" WHAT A JERK.


on Aug. 25 2011 at 12:31 pm
xKeli826x BRONZE, Middletown, New York
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WOW! That's insane how alike they are!! i can relate to that sooo much! especially the manipulation after we broke up. For instance a couple days after we broke up we were on the phone becuase we were going to stay friends and he was just like "I can change so your not getting off the phone until you take me back." which was ridiculous cause i was just thinking "wow you saying that proves your not going to change." lol. but were not friends now and I haven't talk to him since last november! which is sweet! :) lol

on Aug. 25 2011 at 9:57 am
singingdetective SILVER, Sugar Land, Texas
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Favorite Quote:
"Out of a world of laughter,
suddenly I am sad.
Day and night, it haunts me,
the kiss I never had"
--Midsummer by Syndey King Russell

"Chances lost are hope's torn up pages"-- "Chances" by Five for Fighting

WHOA. I had an ex just like that too! If i didn't text him back RIGHT AWAY, he would always get upset. If I had any spare time, it should be spent with him-- no theatre, choir, speech team-- NOTHIN'. Even if I loved doing it, he hated it just because it took time away from him. But when I was with him, it was sunshine, rainbows, and daises. Take me away from him even for a second? Don't even go there....... And when I did break up with him, he would always manipulate me and make me feel terrible about doing what i knew was right for me. He would text me NONSTOP. He was just really domineering, selfish, and clingy. Sounds a lot like your guy, too :P

on Aug. 25 2011 at 9:51 am
singingdetective SILVER, Sugar Land, Texas
9 articles 0 photos 53 comments

Favorite Quote:
"Out of a world of laughter,
suddenly I am sad.
Day and night, it haunts me,
the kiss I never had"
--Midsummer by Syndey King Russell

"Chances lost are hope's torn up pages"-- "Chances" by Five for Fighting

and just some food for thought, every time I forgave him, I wondered if he had changed, too. In the end, he hadn't. There are two ways to see if this person has changed-- 1. You get back with them. Wait a while. If they go back to their habits, they're NOT WORTH IT.  or 2. You don't get back with them. Stay friends/stay in contact. Still wait a while. If their demeanor seems to have changed, go with option 1. It is ALWAYS best to give someone chances. Keep giving them chances until you're sick of it. :P It sounds paradoxical, but think about it-- if you HAVE to give someone THAT many chances, are they really worth it? Two or three chances? Maybe. Six or Seven? Not worth it.

on Aug. 25 2011 at 9:46 am
singingdetective SILVER, Sugar Land, Texas
9 articles 0 photos 53 comments

Favorite Quote:
"Out of a world of laughter,
suddenly I am sad.
Day and night, it haunts me,
the kiss I never had"
--Midsummer by Syndey King Russell

"Chances lost are hope's torn up pages"-- "Chances" by Five for Fighting

I know EXACTLY what you're talking about. My ex and i were on and off for about 8 or 9 months.  We "broke up" about a total of 6 times. He was too domineering, clingy, and selfish, but time after time, I gave him more chances. I forgave him because I honest to God DID love him and if you love someone, you don't want them to go through that kind of pain and you don't want to give up those dreams you had with them. But I realized a while ago that he's not worth another chance even if he did ask me for another chance. As a response to this article, the best way to move on is to realize that if they broke up with you and they don't see that they're making a mistake, let them go. If they're REALLY worth it, they'll realize how stupid they were and come back to you. That's how you know they really love you. BUT don't wait around for them forever. If they don't come back, then it wasn't going to work out. But you have to experience life in its fullest. So take advantage of all the people who wouldn't/won't break up with you. Have fun with them, have fun with life. :) 

on Aug. 25 2011 at 7:24 am
starrynightangel BRONZE, Muscat, Other
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Favorite Quote:
Nostalgia is a seductive liar.

i went through the same thing. Its been four years now. I dont hurt as much but I'm still not completely over it. Love sucks!!

on Aug. 18 2011 at 7:48 pm
BrittDawn PLATINUM, Winnipeg, Other
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Favorite Quote:
And at that moment, I swear we were infinite.

doesnt matter. :p maybe people love eachoth when theyre totally dramatic

on Aug. 9 2011 at 1:31 pm
SomethingLikeFire BRONZE, Mchenry, Illinois
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Favorite Quote:
"Pippin: What about elevenses? Luncheon? Afternoon tea? Dinner? Supper? He knows about them, doesn't he?" -
-- The Lord Of The Rings: The Fellowship Of The Ring

i love to tell you but i have no idea...  my two best friends dated each other for about 6 months then they broke up. they fighted a lot and i was always caught in the middle of it. i didn't really knoq what to tell them cuz both would get upset if i said something good about the other for a while. they got over it but i wish i could have told them somehing along these lines. kinda unrealated........

 


on Aug. 1 2011 at 5:55 pm
PhoenixCrossing GOLD, Tinley Park, Illinois
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I never really went out with the guy but he was my best friend and we had a fling that lasted about two years. We'd write love letters to each other and he taught me how to be an expert at basketball and always let me win when we played board/video games. For one reason or another we grew apart. It was the hardest thing I ever went through and I'm still trying to get through because I feel that I really did love him. Now, if he felt exactly the same way, I'll never know. Even though I'm in a real relationship with a guy who could really be the love of my life, it's getting easier to forget about what we had. But it's still always there, creeping at the back of my mind.

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on Jul. 31 2011 at 12:38 am
my ex is still inlove w/ me but im not inlove w/ him. so i chose to break up w/ him. i dont know if he moved on.

on Jul. 17 2011 at 11:46 am
Free_One PLATINUM, ????, Ohio
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"I am not invincible or unstoppable, but I stay strong because it is the only way to survive in this world."

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on Jul. 16 2011 at 6:37 pm
BrittDawn PLATINUM, Winnipeg, Other
23 articles 0 photos 45 comments

Favorite Quote:
And at that moment, I swear we were infinite.

my boyfriend was in love with his ex for 2 years, after she dumped him. i'm not so sure about him. he says he loves me and i do believe him. but i just dont know how to tell if I love HIM. i've started asking random people. but i havent gotten any good answers. IF YOU WANT TO LET ME KNOW YOUR OPINION ON HOW TO TELL IF YOU LOVE YOUR GF/BF LET ME KNOW PLZZZZ!!!

Eggie94 BRONZE said...
on Jul. 15 2011 at 1:02 am
Eggie94 BRONZE, Palmdale, California
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Favorite Quote:
"With great power comes great responsibility" --Bruce Wayne

He was a year younger than me. Too immature and not ready to love like I was. I broke up with him a little more than a month ago. He was my first boyfriend and I would have done anything for him. It hurt soooo bad every single day and I still think about him but it's getting better. I've finally excepted that it's over now and slowly I'm learning to move on.

on Jul. 14 2011 at 7:13 pm

my story, however, is a bit long. I was trying to go after this guy that was not really worth it after all. now he wants me back and I am severly doubtful that he has changed. I know how it feels to go through a bad break upo and only Recently have been able to go on with someone new. i havent met that someone new yet but, you know, im hoping. Should I post my whole sad story here to read?

 


on Jul. 14 2011 at 7:08 pm
this is simply amazing. Thanks!


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