Cambio Network
Magazine, website & books written by teens since 1989

Breakup Advice

By , Putnam, IL
After those amazing relationships end, you have to ask yourself how things will continue. If you broke up with your partner, you must either be unhappy with them, mad at them, tired of them, or some other circumstance. So, if it is you who breaks up with the other, stop and think. As one single person, you don't have any idea what the other might go through. One moment to you is completely different that that of another. For example, you might go on a date and have the time of your life, oblivious to that fact that the one you care for is about to slit their wrists in boredom.
Just and example.
But that is something that you can relate to a breakup. You might think that things are better off without the other. They might be tripping and falling behind you, trying to catch up and get you back. It happens a lot, and these breakups are the worst. I myself went through one. And I've scraped my knees so much over these past to years tripping and falling after her(yes, two years. She's so beautiful I can't stop thinking about her). I've found out the the first and most important thing you can do to stay out of those horrible, bad break ups, is to forget. Easier said then done, right? Well, there is only one way to completely get over such a thing. Overwrite the memories that the two of you shared. Now, people call this a rebound, but isn't every boyfriend/girlfriend after the first a rebound? You must make better memories with this person. Have a greater time, and think about the new things you share rather then all the things you used to share with the other. Take it from me, with time, almost everything is mendable.



You might be interested in this content from TeenSpot:


Join the Discussion


This article has 460 comments. Post your own!

Whitney S. said...
Apr. 23 at 1:17 pm:
I think most people can relate to something like this. I can very well. It can also be related to a break up with a friend so many different people can relate. Very well worded.
 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
kimberdawnThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
Apr. 23 at 10:37 am:
My bf and I just broke up after being together for 3 months...its been hard...I find myself constantly thinking about him and looking at him...I have tried to talk to him and work this out so that we can at least be friends but he wont respond....but I catch him staring at me...I don't know how he feels about me but I know I still care about him. I have given him his space in hopes that he will work his problems out but I can't help but see his pain. I don't know what to do....should I confront ... (more »)
 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
Elena L. said...
Mar. 31 at 6:13 pm:
d recently broke up with me .. Well my ex.. We still talk and its really confusing , he tells me he still loves me, but i ask myself if he still does why did he break up with me. He thinks im heart broken, well actually no one truely is heart broken, their hurt. If someone really was heart broken they'd be dead. But i miss being able to tell him i love him, i miss being able to tell the world he's mine. Everything is hard, but one advice i got in 4 simple words helped me through .. " it will get... (more »)
 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
swimmergirl328 said...
Mar. 6 at 6:52 pm:
I reacently broke up with my boyfriend and he still wants to be friends. but i am not sure if i can take him back. the moment i broke up with him he ran off with my friend, but when i talk about seeing other guys he gets mad. im not sure what to do. i really like one of his good friends, but i dont want to hurt my ex. yeah, sometimes life is confusing
 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
DifferentTeenThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
Feb. 17 at 1:03 pm:
Well, I've never been through a break-up so I don't know how they feel. I'm fourteen and never had a boyfriend, I try not to stress it because I'm still young and I focus on my schoolwork anyway. But its hard not to think about it when all of my friends have one. (Not kidding here. Maybe I should find some new friends) But I think what's worse is an unrequited love, especially when you see them so happy with someone else. That's what kills me.
 
rhxcrunner97 replied...
Feb. 20 at 9:23 am :
I definitely agree. It's terrible when you like someone and they have no idea you exist. It helps us realize that sometimes things are meant to be a certain way.
 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
TyTy22 said...
Feb. 15 at 8:55 pm:
my ex.....best friend in the whole world dumped me...we haven't talked in forever and I am not even mad at him for dumping me I am mad at him for deserting me though! Bu basically I realize I never was good/pretty enough for him...but the thing I miss most of all was us just talking. But it feels like ripping a band-aid off to soon. Just hurts
 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
drishmThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
Dec. 30, 2011 at 12:56 am:
its really nice, but what you've written is easier said than done. a rebound??????? i have a friend, and she dated a guy for a year and a half. they broke up, and she went on a rebound. the thing is she still loves the first guy. rebounds don't always work. :) but great piece of writing!!!
 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
muna.najihahThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
Dec. 18, 2011 at 11:10 am:

my break up advice, go bungee jumping after you got dumped or do anything extreme but safe to lose it in the moment of shock

check my work too, comment and rate it whenever you are free.

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
XpaintmeablueskyXThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
Dec. 16, 2011 at 1:27 pm:
u want some break up advice? eat chocolate and ice cream. BAM problem solved ;)
 
GrellThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Jan. 4 at 2:09 pm :
lol good one. Great piece btw.
 
kimberdawnThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Apr. 23 at 10:38 am :
I wish that worked....
 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
Tracey L. This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
Dec. 5, 2011 at 5:24 pm:

The most hurtful thing is that me loving someone, and they don't return the favour :(

I currently like this guy, even though we only met at an online game (but he knows my BFF irl). I was attracted to him when i first talked to him, and more as I know more about him. We are really similar in personalities except hes more better than me. I tried to give him the hint that i like him (i guess he thinks its a joke) but he never did anything that convinced he likes me back more than a frien... (more »)

 
XOXOhaloXOXOThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. This work has been published in the Teen Ink monthly print magazine. replied...
Dec. 13, 2011 at 11:46 am :
I actually wrote a poem about loving someone when they don't love you back. It is pending approval right now. It's called A One-Way Love. I'll let you know when it gets on the site so you could check it out if you wanted=]
 
XOXOhaloXOXOThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. This work has been published in the Teen Ink monthly print magazine. replied...
Dec. 13, 2011 at 11:47 am :
I have actually written a poem about this kind of situation. It's called A One-Way Love, and it is pending approval right now. I'll let you know when it makes it on the site so that you can check it out if you want=]
 
XOXOhaloXOXOThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. This work has been published in the Teen Ink monthly print magazine. replied...
Dec. 13, 2011 at 11:48 am :
Sorry it posted that twice... My bad...
 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
truewriter324 said...
Dec. 1, 2011 at 1:08 pm:
oh and please look at my work people Im really trying to improve more feedback is needed thank you :)
 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
truewriter324 said...
Dec. 1, 2011 at 1:07 pm:

 

Hi i love this! It actually gives me an actual inlook on what Im going through. My ex and I have been dating eachother for a year and we were eachother's first in everything but me i want to focuz on school and not be tied down so early because I havent really finished high school but he has already so i could use the help, please write back :)

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
MremkThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
Nov. 21, 2011 at 5:47 pm:
The same sorta thing happens with me. I'm soooooo confused! So I have this neighbor who like is super weird and will never leave me alone. he's told me several times that he's insanley in love with me, but I only want to be friends. He doesn't want except the fact of that. I actually trusted him, when I shouldn't have, he asked my crush out for me and I think he messed with the answers just to make me upset and needy. I want help and I'm not getting any help from my friends or my parents for tha... (more »)
 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
LifesIllusionThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
Nov. 21, 2011 at 4:18 pm:
Haven't we all been there? It sure feels like it. I know the pain seems unbearable but we can all get through it. It took me months to get over my ex after he just suddenly became a different person. Sometimes I still don't understand what happened but it was devestating at the time. Well I LOVED your article:) CHECK OUT MY WORK! thanks.
 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
musiclover114 said...
Nov. 21, 2011 at 10:37 am:
I spent the most amazing 9 months with a guy. He was the only guy id ever loved. Then out of the blue he dumped. we didnt talk for 3 months, but saw each other every day. then we slowly started talking again recently, and all those walls i had built back up fell back down. I fell in love with him all over again, i had my very best friend back. but last week he started ignoring me, so when i confronted him he said his mom had told him to stop talking to me, and it was like losing him all over aga... (more »)
 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
SmilerThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
Nov. 6, 2011 at 4:16 pm:
Breakup sucks. I can relate. I went out with a boy for a year. Everything was going so well and he randomly broke up with me. When I asked him why he told me he was in love with my best friend that has been my friend sinces first grade. I was the one to introduce them. I can't help but wish I never did.
 
StarChildThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Nov. 21, 2011 at 12:19 pm :
The same thing happened to me about four months ago. I'm still recovering for the unbearable pain it caused me to hear about EVERYTHING they did. I had known her since kindergarden and she stole him away... I relate... If you wanna talk you can talk with me.
 
MremkThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Nov. 21, 2011 at 5:31 pm :
My cousin actually dated a guy for a year and then he dumped her for HIS cousin. She's so confused at the moment, she has no idea weather to like him or hate him. I vote against hating him. But she thinks against it. I'm confused why she doesn't want to hate him. Her sister says his twin brother likes her. She likes him back. So I personly think this is a super super small world.
 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
rachelwilsonThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
Oct. 25, 2011 at 1:21 pm:
I've been there, went through that. I've heard all the promises, all the compliments. In the end he ended it because I won't "do stuff" with him. Guess his defintion of love was different than mine. Check out my work. You'll find two peoms I wrote to channel my pain with about the break up! Thanks.
 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
mikkigirl2012 said...
Oct. 21, 2011 at 12:24 pm:
I can relate... I fell in love with my best friend and we were happy for about 9 days before he broke up with me telling me that his heart wasn't ready for another relationship... But in just those 9 days, I'd been the happiest I'd been in years and was slowly becoming more confident in myself. Its been a month and a half since then and its touch and go between  me and him... some days he'll talk to me like the old days, some days he's mad at me, some days he ignores me, and others it seems... (more »)
 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
icee girl said...
Oct. 20, 2011 at 9:06 am:
me to  me and my ex was together  for 8 months and he  chested  on me wit 2 girls man i was so brokon hearter for  along time but it is what it is no matter what so i had to get over it
 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
IcecreamgirlThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
Oct. 17, 2011 at 11:52 am:
I am with you my x and went and cheated on me and said the same things
 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
paperandpen said...
Oct. 16, 2011 at 8:56 pm:
me and ex were together for ten months before he broke up with me. i thought he was the one..he made so many promises, and he said he loved me. i've been so hurt because i found out he lied..about everything. i found out he cheated on me and didn't even care for me the way i wish he did. love hurts so much, especially when it never lasts.
 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
TheDanceThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
Oct. 3, 2011 at 5:16 pm:
I went through exactly that with my boyfriend, in a short time of only 5 months. We were on and off and every time he wanted me back even after i had hurt him and he had hurt me. Every time he either took me back or i took him back. Now we are together, again, and we will stay together for as long as we can. THis time I wont let him go. Breakups suck!
 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
CrazyBroadwayGirlThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
Sept. 23, 2011 at 5:15 pm:
Well obviously he isn't the nicest sweetest best guy ever if he would be so mean to say that! There will be another guy out there for you! And he will love you back, and respect you.
 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
yanaz said...
Sept. 23, 2011 at 12:25 am:
I am dating a guy who is too awkward, reserved, and unemotional to the point where he's boring. I know those seem like trivial reasons because he is super nice, but after 5 months it's become almost unbearable. Which leads me to my main question: I want to break up with him, but we go to different high schools so seeing each other is really rare. I feel bad breaking up with him in person cause it means that it took us an hour of transportation to see each other, just to hear me say that I don't ... (more »)
 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
yanaz said...
Sept. 23, 2011 at 12:10 am:
I love teenink! I've noticed there are a lot of bullies and trolls on the website now, which makes me really sad.
 
yanaz replied...
Sept. 23, 2011 at 12:12 am :
Hey, I'm sorry, I wrote this on the wrong article. :P I did have a question about this though. I'll just write it as a seperate thread.
 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
cristiano ronaldo7 said...
Sept. 16, 2011 at 11:15 am:

this is a good poem because.like if you really love someone you can indadiocate this poem to that person

 

 
LazyDaisyLovesYouThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Oct. 8, 2011 at 8:40 pm :
this isn't a poem..
 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
thatclarinetgirl said...
Sept. 16, 2011 at 9:36 am:
I cannot aree with you more, my friend
 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
clumsyteardropperThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
Sept. 16, 2011 at 8:08 am:
My story wasn't exactly break up... well here goes: years ago, this guy charmed me and swept me off my feet, so to speak. He was great, amazing... and i loved him. until the rainbows faded and the butterflies died.......... he wasn't who I thought he was. he became abusive, he manipulated into doing unspeakable things. i can barely even talk about it. *sigh*.... anyway.... one night he tried to "take advantage of me", ya know, (btw, hes 6 feet and 7inches tall :O with musles) but somehow, by... (more »)
 
hejlna replied...
Sept. 16, 2011 at 12:13 pm :
wow. thats a story. i think u should write about it.
 
CrazyBroadwayGirlThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Sept. 17, 2011 at 6:49 pm :

Wow. Thats sad!

 

 
clumsyteardropperThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Sept. 17, 2011 at 10:36 pm :
yeah... i know.  but im making it through.  everything still... hurts........ he made me to hate myself..... so im damaged emotionally, phisically, AND mentally.  but, like "hejlna" said... i might write about it.  you guys should check it out whenever it gets post (thts if i do).  just remember... i'm "clumsyteardropper" :)
 
hejlna replied...
Sept. 19, 2011 at 3:01 pm :
:) smile. hating yourself won't get you anywhere. you need to slap away the tears, banish the memories, and be the strong, brave, beautiful girl that you are.
 
clumsyteardropperThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Sept. 19, 2011 at 5:43 pm :
thanks :)  i really appricate that... I find, tho, that writing about things that have happened to me help me to move on and live my life.  the recent thing that i wrote is not exactly about that guy i talked about, but all the emotional pain it caused me in the future.  this past March, I went through a really rough time... but i'm okay now.  i wrote about my experience.  it's called "Iron Box" by me :)  you should check it out... i would love the fe... (more »)
 
Helen Cunningham replied...
Sept. 22, 2011 at 6:09 am :
Good for you! I'll definitly read it. I havn't written anything yet, but I'm working on a couple things.
 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
PumpkinscoutThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
Sept. 11, 2011 at 7:32 pm:
This is non fiction! Good article though, I just am surprised it's under fiction. It's the truth
 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
MoraleAshThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
Aug. 1, 2011 at 5:55 pm:
I never really went out with the guy but he was my best friend and we had a fling that lasted about two years. We'd write love letters to each other and he taught me how to be an expert at basketball and always let me win when we played board/video games. For one reason or another we grew apart. It was the hardest thing I ever went through and I'm still trying to get through because I feel that I really did love him. Now, if he felt exactly the same way, I'll never know. Even though I'm in a rea... (more »)
 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
eunhye3030 said...
Jul. 31, 2011 at 12:38 am:
my ex is still inlove w/ me but im not inlove w/ him. so i chose to break up w/ him. i dont know if he moved on.
 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
writerfreak21231This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
Jul. 17, 2011 at 11:46 am:
I loved the story! and was impressed! Great job! (Sorry for the advertizing!) If any of u coulld read my two stories called the beast and nightstalker, that would be great! Also please post comments saying if u liked it or not. Thanks! And keep writing! :D
 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
BrittDawnThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
Jul. 16, 2011 at 6:37 pm:
my boyfriend was in love with his ex for 2 years, after she dumped him. i'm not so sure about him. he says he loves me and i do believe him. but i just dont know how to tell if I love HIM. i've started asking random people. but i havent gotten any good answers. IF YOU WANT TO LET ME KNOW YOUR OPINION ON HOW TO TELL IF YOU LOVE YOUR GF/BF LET ME KNOW PLZZZZ!!!
 
rEMEMBERtHErIOTThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Aug. 9, 2011 at 1:31 pm :

i love to tell you but i have no idea...  my two best friends dated each other for about 6 months then they broke up. they fighted a lot and i was always caught in the middle of it. i didn't really knoq what to tell them cuz both would get upset if i said something good about the other for a while. they got over it but i wish i could have told them somehing along these lines. kinda unrealated........

 

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment