Don't be quiet at school otherwise people won't like you; be kind but don't be too kind otherwise it'll come off as desperate; you have to be yourself but you also have to be what other people want you to be in order to fit in; you can cry yourself to sleep at night when things are hard but you have to smile when people ask if you are okay even if you're not; you have to keep up with your work but don't go too far ahead otherwise you are a “goody two shoes”; when your “friends” are bullying you, you have to stay quiet if you don't want to be alone and friendless; "Aren't you the quiet kid in school?”; you have to be in the loud and not shy away otherwise that's weird; you have to be nice to everyone even if they don't treat you right; “I have to be quiet because if I stand up for myself, I will get shut down”; you have to be loud and proud otherwise no one will hear you; “You are doing everything wrong!”; you have to smile for the picture even if where you are smiling is purgatory; you have to keep your cards close to your chest but not too close otherwise people will think you are hiding something; you can't dress in black otherwise people will think you are emo but you can’t dress too colorful either, otherwise people will look at you like a little kid; you have to follow the trends but you can't be too invested in them because it's not cool the next day; “I’m trying!”; you have to stay and not cry because if you do, they will get pleasure; you have to be perfect, you just have to be; if you make one little mistake, you’re a failure; one bad mark can damage your grade forever; one misstep can send you to the hospital with a cast on your leg; one wrong move and you lose the game; one new friend and you lose the whole friend group; one public embarrassment and no one can be seen with you; one wrong thing and it’s over.