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December 11, 2010
By laleonlit SILVER, Princeton, New Jersey
laleonlit SILVER, Princeton, New Jersey
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Favorite Quote:
It wasn't said by me, but my favorite quote is: "Critics are like eunuchs in a harem; they know how it's done, they've seen it done every day, but they're unable to do it themselves." - Brendan Francis

On my first day alone in this country,
it was you who cried
my tears came later, when it sank in
that my self-imposed separation
was permanent.

I missed you too much
to comment on the criticism.
Five minutes out of the airport:
hug, kiss, and “Why is your coat
dragging along the floor?”

Back then it was playful threats
of charm school, and nicknaming
me “Grace.”
Then I turned 13. Things changed;
I know they do for everyone.

Shouting, on both sides, and tears.
The criticism started to gouge
holes in me, and I told you so.
You said I was hurtful. Alone
in my room, I cried.

Not out of sadness. Because
You were right, and I
had been wrong.
But, like most things,
it was too hard to admit.

I whined to my friends
and you bought a book on
How to deal with your angry
teenaged daughter.
I wondered why I bothered
missing you, because seeing you
was so hard.

But I did miss you.
Just like I had
nine years old and scared
in a big building filled
with children who disliked me.

Time changes everything
even the fractious relationship
between a mother and daughter.
I've started to lean on you again.

Sometimes you call
even though there's nothing to say.
There are fewer angry phone bills.
Fewer fights. We live a cautious dance
between too many open doors
and too few.

Six months ago,
I found something that
made me smile. That book
you bought? You never even
cracked the spine.

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kait94 BRONZE said...
on Oct. 4 2011 at 12:33 pm
kait94 BRONZE, Newport, North Carolina
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wow!! this is great, it made me tear up.  Keep up the good work