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Why are boys so confusing?

September 2, 2009
By VirginiaHeart BRONZE, Torrance, California
VirginiaHeart BRONZE, Torrance, California
2 articles 12 photos 4 comments

Favorite Quote:
Good Girls are just Bad Girls who DON'T get Caught! <3

Why do boys always go for the pretty girls? They have to have the blonde hair and blue eyes! But what about the girls with dark hair and green eyes? Aren't they pretty too? Boys always go for the pretty girls, they want to look popular with those girls and be considered cool cause they go out with the "cute" girls! What's so cute about a ton of blonde cheerleaders thinking they're better then everyone else? In all the movies the blonde cheerleader has the guy at the beginning but then, in the end, the brunette get's him. Why can't it be like that in reality? Boys are so confusing. One moment they are together with the geeky girl, the next moment they are dancing at prom with a cheerleader. Why can't the girls that make sense and are beautiful in there own way be loved. Why are boys so cute, yet so hard.

The author's comments:
This was dedicated to a close friend of mine who feels this way.

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on Apr. 28 2014 at 1:34 pm
WOWriting SILVER, Broadstairs, Other
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Everybody falls for the attractive guy/girl once or twice. Everybody will either think 'WOW' or 'Oh...', but it's the people that stop and look past the 'good' looks or the 'bad' looks that really matter. Hope you find someone special for you, but in the meantime, just enjoy being you and single :) That sounded so cheesy but oh well...

on Apr. 4 2014 at 11:57 pm
FilmLoverandWriter14 BRONZE, Oakville, Other
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Favorite Quote:
"No matter where you are from... your dreams are valid"

- Lupita Nyong'o

I totally agree!!! I always wonder why it's the girls with the blonde hair and blue eyes. I'm a brunette and I always feel like the guys at our school always fall for them. And it's all about the looks! They never look for the personality, only all the "popular" cool girls. Finally someone understands how I feel! Thank you for this well written article that has made my night!

on Mar. 14 2014 at 1:51 pm
Lexxiiee BRONZE, Lake Ariel, Pennsylvania
1 article 0 photos 3 comments
I do agree, boys are so confusing. They fall for looks alot instead of personality. Thats what screws things up from the beginning. The boy realizes that he doesnt like anything beyond the girls looks after some time has past and ends up distancing himself from the girl he showed and interest in. This is not how all guys are but it happens alot. Many guys do not know what they want.

Thalion SILVER said...
on Mar. 12 2014 at 11:06 am
Thalion SILVER, Peoria, Illinois
9 articles 3 photos 53 comments
I don't think that we (I am a girl, just so you know.) should stereotype boys in this manner. It's like saying that all blondes are dumb (which is abolutely not true!) While there are definetly some guys who only like a girl for her looks, there are also many who can see part blonde hair and blue eyes! Many of my friends are guys, and I can only think of one or two peole that I know who think this way about girls.   Also, guys are wired differently than girls (understatement on the year, right?) Girls are mor emotional and guys are more visual. So appearences can catch a guy's eye more than for a girl, but that does not mean that all guys are only interested in pretty girls. 

bballnumbr21 said...
on Mar. 1 2014 at 2:57 am
bballnumbr21, Hayden, Alabama
0 articles 0 photos 1 comment

Favorite Quote:
leed by example

i completly agree.Not all guys act this way thats like saying all girls want is the boyfriend with money and good looks we dont like to be sterotyped either. we get just as upset when the girl goes for the jerk instead of the guy who is actually there to listen to them. but we learn that this is going to happen and has probably happened to every guy. So in return we adopt the same strategy in hopes of making that same girl that hurt us notice us. Everyone wants to make things so difficult but the truth is we all fall under a different catagorey not because of gender but because of our life experinces chances are if a guy doesnt want a long term realationship its because he has been hurt and thinks they dont exist for him anymore. so dont jsut go hating on all guys cause its very possible that the negative feelings you generate towards guys will drive the ones that actually do care away. i have realized that if your lookng for a realationship you never find it buut when you just live your life that special someone jsut happens to run into. i jsut got out of a three yr realationship and im only a jr in highschool. after that my ex girlfriend became my best friend and a girl i never has talked to before or hardly notice one grade belowvme ended up being my new girlfriend. all im saying is you never find what your looking for is you constantly search so take a deep breath and the i mean after all thats what life is all about.

Riz568 said...
on Feb. 22 2014 at 3:13 am
I disagree too well I'm brown skin most boys look at me like I'm pretty one in particular tells me that I'm pretty put doesn't act on it I knew him since 4th grade and we use to be best friends I'm lost ?

on Feb. 19 2014 at 10:30 am
KenzieWolf BRONZE, Louisville, Nebraska
2 articles 0 photos 2 comments

Favorite Quote:
"I may look happy, but dear the only way i'll really smile is if you cut me ear to ear."
-Bring Me The Horizon

This is so true the only thing guys look for is big butt and boobs all of the time and they never look past that. Guys will tell you different but its always a lie. Always. I say dont trust em. I guys that i liked for a long time just backstabbed me for another girl and diddnt even have the guts to tell me himself. I found out over Instagram!!! Like what? So anyway this articles totally relates to my life

shykk.shykk said...
on Jan. 19 2014 at 6:49 pm
wish i am there to witness it myself. :)  

GageSayles said...
on Dec. 30 2013 at 5:48 am
This is ridiculous; all of the assumptions you made are based off of your perspective. By the sounds of it, YOU find yourself unattractive, and that isn't any way to go about nabbing guys. I am a guy, and I can tell you that most guys don't care about looks unless they're looking for a short, stinted relationship. Anyone can deal with other's problems, because they have problems themselves.

on Dec. 19 2013 at 1:13 pm
BlondeLies GOLD, St. Thomas, Other
11 articles 1 photo 5 comments

Favorite Quote:
"What ever happened to Romance? Sappy, soppy, longhand love letters..."

I'm blonde and I have never had a boyfriend or boy-toy.  All the boys in my school go after the Latina girls or the girls who's daddies have more money.  Girls may be blonde, but they're not always the girls boys want.  I'm an ugly blonde so although I like this writing, I also do not agree with it.

on Dec. 16 2013 at 10:49 pm
transparantspirit434 PLATINUM, Farmington, New Mexico
40 articles 0 photos 40 comments

Favorite Quote:
I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee. -Hebrews 13:5

Nice ideas, but here's one to chew on; Why do girls go for the cute guys? The ones with the skater boy hair cuts? The popular ones? With the blue eyes? The nice bodies? The full package? It isn't just guys; it's girls too. And if you don't go for this type of guy? Well... see? Not all girls go for the pretty guys, just like not all guys go for the cheeleader-type girls. Sometimes, we just... go for who we like. And this guy you are writing about, if you are writing about a specific guy? Believe me, you deverve better. You'll find a guy who sees just how beautiful you are, even if you aren't the cheeleader you described. I promise.

Sky-sky said...
on Oct. 10 2013 at 3:43 pm
Sky-sky, Lasalle, Illinois
0 articles 0 photos 2 comments

Favorite Quote:
Good girls <3 bad boys!!!!

This is so true your great at the stories

on Oct. 10 2013 at 2:34 pm
Lexi_the_bullied_girl BRONZE, Lasalle, Illinois
1 article 0 photos 1 comment

Favorite Quote:
Don't take my KINDNESS as a sign of WEAKNESS

That is so true there's thisboy I like but he likes a different girl-she's blonde-what do I do

on Aug. 29 2013 at 9:09 am
DawnieRae BRONZE, Lancaster, Ohio
3 articles 0 photos 218 comments
I like this article, a lot. I think that we all sometimes like people who are attractive. I do too, but its really sad because they never like me back.... The other thing i wanted to say is that boys and/or girls are not confusing. I think its because we are different from each other and we cant understand the way the other thinks. Of couse that's only my opinion. :)  

bcakex1 said...
on Aug. 19 2013 at 12:00 pm
all of these comments are correct. i personally think that the guys you are talking about are simply stupid. a girl can be pretty, but does she really care about a guy or anything? most times not. i see girls everyday that date guys just to be able to say "i have a boyfriend." i mean, i respect your opinions just like everybody else, but i just dont feel the same way. when i like a girl i ask myself "does or will she even care?" looks are not what defines a person. a nice personality is what you should look for. not some jerk who is pretty and knows it and walks around like shes better than everybody else. i hate those people.

bcakex1 said...
on Aug. 19 2013 at 11:50 am
thats true!

Niquel said...
on Jun. 14 2013 at 12:19 pm
Niquel, Lipan, Texas
0 articles 1 photo 44 comments

Favorite Quote:
If you don't design your own plan, you'll fall into someone else's plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.

-Jim Rohn

Yeah, you don't sound arrogant. Trust me, some the attractive guys I do are as dumb as a box of rocks, and I can't stand them no matter how handsome they look.

Niquel said...
on Jun. 14 2013 at 12:16 pm
Niquel, Lipan, Texas
0 articles 1 photo 44 comments

Favorite Quote:
If you don't design your own plan, you'll fall into someone else's plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.

-Jim Rohn

While I agree this is true, it's the same on our end, too. As people, we're unconciously more attracted to "attractive" people. I feel increasingly bad for nice guys who aren't attractive that dote over twig-thin girls who won't give them the time of day. In this scenario, it's equal on both end. The guy goes for the pretty girl, but she doesn't want someone who isn't handsome. I think all people are like this to at least some degree.

IMSteel BRONZE said...
on May. 20 2013 at 4:26 pm
IMSteel BRONZE, Wallhala, South Carolina
2 articles 0 photos 128 comments

Favorite Quote:
"Learn from Yesterday, live for Today, hope for Tomorrow" - Albert Einstein

"Brevity is the Soul of Wit" - The Which

I am homeschooled, and so I have no idea what you mean by, "boys always go for the 'cute,' girls."  It is the character inside that determines a person, not the outer shell.   

AliMotamedi said...
on May. 18 2013 at 2:03 am
AliMotamedi, Ampang, Other
0 articles 0 photos 21 comments
now as a guy i can't help but feel the same about you girls. but over time i have learned many things icluding the fact that you can't judge a group of people by the actions of one or a few members. i get it for a girl it must be very difficult to understand the psychology of a guy. but lets be a little fair to each other once in a while! :D