Parents, boys, girls, and men: Any girl who has survived male manipulation without the ruminating gashes of psychological uncertainty, has stronger will than I have. I do not remember ever speaking with such disgust from the false conception from men, and how they view their quarry, like some prize to be won. A feeling has consumed me, quite disapproving to exercise my opinion, the one who has to grow up in a constant flurry of misconception. The explanation before me is one which requires emotional experience and study for its proper performance. I know that apologies of this sort are more often than not considered dull and insincere. I trust, however, that mine will not be so examined. Should I appear nonchalant, my appearance would not properly embody me. The personal  experience I've had further avails me on the present occasion. 

This certainly sounds immense and out of the ordinary, for it is true that I am young but this does not amend the shame I feel for those who have been failed by the red flags that live inside a man's mind. With my experience conflated with that of my friends who have shared experiences I am able to throw my thoughts imperfectly together; and trusting to your patient and analyzed indulgence, I will continue to lay them before you.

Fellow-women, I shall not presume to dwell on the abuse from the past. The simple reality is that this must change. The concept of man and women has been present since the beginning of time originating from Genesis. So why is it now that the man isolates their quarry while remaining to play the victim? If I continue to condone this abusive behavior men will remain under the impression that gas-lighting, using one's weaknesses against them, constant criticism, withholding affection, twisting words, blame-shifting, guilt tripping, emotional blackmail, passive-aggression, hoovering, triangulation, emotional blackmail, love bombing, and playing the victim is fitting and acceptable. 

In my sophomore year of high school I unknowingly let a boy manipulate me, first he made me feel special by showering me with unrestrained consignments of affection, he would use words and phrases to create a false sense of attachment. When he looked at the top I was wearing and told me to put on a hoodie, I obeyed. I said to myself he just cares about me and is being protective but in reality I was just covering up his toxic controlling behavior. He had a girl who was “just a friend.” despite constant apprise expressing how uncomfortable this made me feel he continued. He used gas-lighting constantly making me question my own sanity. I was told phrases like “your overreacting” and “that never happened” which only contributed to my questioning of memory and self doubt. Once again disabusing his own behavior. When I tried to stand up for myself he would use threats, self harm was a constant theme. 

Men like him go so far in their deception as to pronounce the measures of their actions as just, reasonable, and normalized and altogether such as ought to be quietly submitted to. I scarcely need say, fellow girls, boys, and various parents who failed to teach this generation right from wrong, that my opinion, will forever stand. 

I shouldn’t have to remonstrate against the oppression caused by men. What will happen to society if these ill will boys grow up to be men, their progeny will have the same dishonorable values found within them. Manipulative men only prioritize their own self gain, it is the reason for their initial tactics of emotional blackmail causing women of all ages to face the wrath of self doubt.  When their daughters are the ones crying suddenly there will be a revolution in that same man's mind reminding him of the abuse he once created.