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A Hairy Tale MAG

August 18, 2008
By Anonymous

Open your average Seventeen magazine and look at the ads. What are they selling? Razors. I find that perfectly acceptable; people shave and therefore need razors. There is something, however, that I’m not comfortable with: the message. Gillette Venus advertises that shaving your legs will help you release your “inner goddess.” Schick Quattro for Women says that shaving will free you. Nair has its own brand for women called Nair Pretty! What is this saying to the young women of America? They are being forced into an unnatural mold that is ruling their lives and ravaging girls’ self-esteem. What we eat, what we wear, how we act – it is all guided by the ultimate (virtually hairless) woman every man supposedly desires, and I have had enough.

Shaving is an American custom, and a foolish one at that. If we took the time to see the injustice in the social hierarchy our nation is built ­upon, perhaps we could understand beauty in a natural body. I realized how much time I wasted mutilating my body with a razor blade. How can people look positively on that? Whenever I shaved, I cut myself, which isn’t enjoyable. The constant stress of wondering Do I need to shave? is a nuisance. There was no reason for me to continue shaving if I didn’t want to.

So I stopped. The first day of summer, I put down the razor, thinking, Maybe I’ll just try this for a week. At that point it wasn’t even about the media’s incessant pressure, or rebellion against conventional thinking; I stopped purely for comfort. Even though my hair has grown, I realize how comfortable it has made me. It feels as though I’ve opened up a whole new part of my body I didn’t know I had. I feel ­closer to myself and more confident in my body. I wear tank tops and skirts; I’m proud of my body hair. I like to show it off, even for shock value. The choice is mine and I made it.

People talk about it, of course. I’ve lost friends ­because of it, which makes me realize that if someone is ignorant enough to worry about the state of my hair, I shouldn’t be associating with that person in the first place. It hurts to know that those I once valued and cared about are simply conforming clones, and it hurts to hear strangers, even small children, make rude comments about my body hair. I know my friends talk about it with their friends, saying, “She’s the girl with the armpit hair.”

Sometimes I feel like it’s going to prevent me from getting dates, with the way people react to it (mostly teenage boys, howling about how disgusting it is). One of my best friends told me that it was a bad choice. He said the fact that I didn’t shave made him angry, that my body hair made him angry. Needless to say, I don’t speak to him anymore.

Teenage girls judge me just as harshly. Another friend threatened, jokingly, to shave me in my sleep. I know there are girls reading this right now thinking, Shaving ­isn’t that hard. Stop whining and making such a big deal. Body hair is nasty! You were raised to think that way. In your home, on your television, in your bathtub, by your peers, they raised you to believe body hair is gross. I was raised that way too, but I broke through it.

My closest friend tells me that she considered not shaving under her arms, but she would never stop shaving her legs because she thinks she is too hairy. Nobody should judge you as too hairy. I want to scream, “Stop letting other people decide what you are and what you’re not!”

Acceptance is important to people, and yet I don’t understand how some can accept the biggest differences in people – sexual orientation, race, religion – yet find my disdain for shaving revolting and intolerable. You wouldn’t tell Jewish people that their yarmulkes are gross and that they should take them off, so why would you tell me that my body hair is vile and I should shave?

I question the fate of our generation. Think about it: if Miley Cyrus stopped shaving, adolescent girls all over the world would too. Most people will venture to say that they are different from everyone else, but they aren’t.

You can choose to focus on the physical aspect of what I’m doing, and you can point and laugh at my body hair. Or you can take the time to look deep into your beliefs about American culture and see that I have actually freed myself from corporate oppression. You can look down on me for being happy with the natural state of my body, or you can look up to me for thinking for myself and having the guts to say no to peer pressure. The choice is yours.


The author's comments:
I really hope this changed people's mind about body hair. I hope guys don't discriminate against girls who don't shave and I hope there are some girls who decide to say goodbye to their razors. For anyone who does, I have some advice: your old deoderant probably won't work. I suggest you use Ban roll on, because that way it won't (shudder) clump and it keeps the odor at bay.Also one last thing to the guys: you take for granted the sensation of leg hair blowing in the wind. I'm here to tell you that yes it is great and you should appreciate it because most girls can't :D

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Amour said...
on Nov. 30 2009 at 12:20 pm
Awesome article. I shave but I do it because I love the way my skin feels after I shave. I can't stand having prickly hairs all over my body, but that's just me. I really admire your courage and I'm impressed by your writing. Good job!

on Nov. 30 2009 at 9:05 am
dark_roses14 PLATINUM, Mazon, Illinois
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play the music, turn it up loud, dance around, and drown out reality

omg, you are like my hero right now. XD i am discriminated against bcuz i dont shave as much as other girls do and guys think im wierd, well I DONT CARE!!!!! haha its taken me years to become happy with my body and the way i am. thank you so much for outlining the discrimination of the world

on Nov. 30 2009 at 7:42 am
SRobserver GOLD, Montreal, Other
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Favorite Quote:
" Be yourself , everyone else is taken"

You seem to have focused on how gillete advertises razor as beauty products, and tools to improve your image, but left out the part were accumalitive body hair can be unhygenic. Espically in sensitive arreas, sweat can build up, causing bacteria , body odor and fungus. While you may dislike the steryotype that all girls should shave. One cannot argue with hygene. However I must give you extra points for a well written article

on Nov. 29 2009 at 10:49 am
toxic.monkey SILVER, Tashkent, Other
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Favorite Quote:
"Homo homini lupus"

i forgot to mention this but

I DETEST GUYS WHO TELL GIRLS TO SHAVE

it's another thing which i file as "sick" it's just another form of discrimination- we don't tell dudes that they are losers because they can't even shave once a week do we?! and why is hair on girls so bad and so good on guys? freaking sexism!!

on Nov. 29 2009 at 10:46 am
toxic.monkey SILVER, Tashkent, Other
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Favorite Quote:
"Homo homini lupus"

hearing that ppl SHUN u cause of body hair is just SICK. while i personally find it really kinda ugly, no offence, most of my (girl, and certainly not guy) friends don't shave and i'm fine by it. in fact, one was shocked when she heard I shave :P and those ads really are totally moronic

on Nov. 26 2009 at 1:41 pm
ElisabethElizzLiz BRONZE, Brookpark, Ohio
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Love is the flower you've got to let grow.
-John Lennon

Oh by the way not to be a spammer but you should read my poem called "This Damn Addiction"

on Nov. 26 2009 at 1:40 pm
ElisabethElizzLiz BRONZE, Brookpark, Ohio
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Favorite Quote:
Love is the flower you've got to let grow.
-John Lennon

Although (no offense) i would never go without shaving for even a week, i hate to shave. And i think that if people had a different outlook on this natural feat, then sociaty would be more accepting of natures beaty.

on Nov. 25 2009 at 11:25 pm
caitlin.calamity BRONZE, Houston, Texas
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Favorite Quote:
Action and reaction, ebb and flow, trial and error, change - this is the rhythm of living. Out of our over-confidence, fear; out of our fear, clearer vision, fresh hope. And out of hope, progress.
-Bruce Barton

I think you are a courageous young woman. I personally HATE the feeling of wearing pants and having my leg hair feeling all picky. It irritates my skin. I've gone weeks without shaving my legs before and I just didn't like the feeling. Now if only everyone else was as openminded as you.

GiSELA SILVER said...
on Nov. 24 2009 at 8:40 pm
GiSELA SILVER, Escondido, California
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Life is about doing things people said you couldn't do.

I meant brave woman!(:

GiSELA SILVER said...
on Nov. 24 2009 at 8:40 pm
GiSELA SILVER, Escondido, California
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Life is about doing things people said you couldn't do.

Wow this is so GOOD! And i completely agree with you about shaving(: You are a brace woman!(:

on Nov. 22 2009 at 7:53 pm
tippytoetapper BRONZE, Oakton, Virginia
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All I was saying is that do what makes you happy because it makes you happy, not because it doesn't make other people happy. Nonconformity is awesome if the unusual thing you are doing makes you happy, but if you are doing it just to be different that bothers me.

on Nov. 22 2009 at 7:52 pm
IsobelFree DIAMOND, Hamilton, Other
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"As long as there is open road, the familiar has the most formidable competitor." - Anonymous

You should read my article "The Eye of the Beholder." I love yours! Even though I do shave and like it, I understand your point and wish I was as strong as you to rise above conformity.

on Nov. 22 2009 at 7:51 pm
IsobelFree DIAMOND, Hamilton, Other
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Favorite Quote:
"As long as there is open road, the familiar has the most formidable competitor." - Anonymous

I disagree. Conformity isn't nessecerily a good thing. It's okay if you want to conform, but "the norm" is simply what some people feel you have to adhere to. And I disagree with your point about society being created and everyone liking the boundaries. Says who? I think that if someone wants to stand out, then that's great, otherwise the world would be exceptionally boring.

ambermarie<3 said...
on Nov. 20 2009 at 9:01 am
inspiration.

rosy said...
on Nov. 13 2009 at 8:18 pm
yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeees u are soooooooooooooooo my role model. i hate that crap about all those girls who say their different but their not like the care bears on fire song "i dont wanna be like everybody else". But they dress like frickin rockers with the gay skinny jeans n the bangs to the side.
im sorry for the exaggeration n rudeness but all i wanna say is thank u for being different even though this is creepy cuz i dont even know u
but i can DEFINETLY relate to you
no offense to the rockers i do love to listen to rock i just dont like the style

on Nov. 10 2009 at 3:14 pm
Caroline35 GOLD, Bain De Bretagne ( Britany), Other
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Favorite Quote:
"There's never one of anyone"

Your piece is amazing and very true. I myself never shaved my leg but I'm blond so noboby sees it. People around me tell me I'm lucky. I do think some people must do that for the wrong reason. And I do understand that, when you stopped shaving, you felt plain, but you can also admit that sometimes, it's just a taste people have. I sometimes think of my hair as anoying. It has nothing to do with the media, it's just me, thinking something about myself. Like trying another hair cut or a new style. Honestly, when I shave under my arm, I don't think of any advertisement, I think of myself as different. Just different.

on Nov. 9 2009 at 9:16 pm
spontaneous09 BRONZE, Dallas, Texas
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Shaving should not be a thing about what society thinks. It should be what you think. I personally shave but only because I like the feel of smoothness of my legs. I wanted to shave far before I heard about the mold of beauty that people try to place you in.

on Nov. 8 2009 at 8:04 pm
BillyJoeBobKellyGeorge PLATINUM, Gardena, California
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"Life is what we make it, always has been, always will be." ~ grandma moses

I think this article was very insightful in something as trivial as shaving. but then again, if you think about it, people shave for beauty although they should accept their inner/outer beauty regardless. Personally, i don't shave my legs at all. ;]

on Nov. 8 2009 at 5:57 pm
firstsnowfalls DIAMOND, Marcellus, New York
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I'm so proud of you for doing that! Takes a lot of guts!

on Nov. 8 2009 at 2:02 pm
Joanna.S SILVER, Wilmington, Delaware
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I give you kudos for writing this article. It really makes me think of how girls are, and how shaving products are advertised.