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Breakup Advice

September 24, 2009
By Anonymous

After those amazing relationships end, you have to ask yourself how things will continue. If you broke up with your partner, you must either be unhappy with them, mad at them, tired of them, or some other circumstance. So, if it is you who breaks up with the other, stop and think. As one single person, you don't have any idea what the other might go through. One moment to you is completely different that that of another. For example, you might go on a date and have the time of your life, oblivious to that fact that the one you care for is about to slit their wrists in boredom.
Just and example.
But that is something that you can relate to a breakup. You might think that things are better off without the other. They might be tripping and falling behind you, trying to catch up and get you back. It happens a lot, and these breakups are the worst. I myself went through one. And I've scraped my knees so much over these past to years tripping and falling after her(yes, two years. She's so beautiful I can't stop thinking about her). I've found out the the first and most important thing you can do to stay out of those horrible, bad break ups, is to forget. Easier said then done, right? Well, there is only one way to completely get over such a thing. Overwrite the memories that the two of you shared. Now, people call this a rebound, but isn't every boyfriend/girlfriend after the first a rebound? You must make better memories with this person. Have a greater time, and think about the new things you share rather then all the things you used to share with the other. Take it from me, with time, almost everything is mendable.


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DEMON said...
on Dec. 15 2009 at 7:26 pm
"RAZED EXPECTATIONS" It continues...

Her lovely green eyes shifted into hard emeralds.

“What do you know about me, Dare? And what’s so wrong with having dreams? And why are you talking to me like that? I was simply commenting on the sunset.” She tossed her red curls, clearly miffed.

I lifted my chin, and blew smoke in her face. It was easier on me when she was angry. I don’t know why she bothered with me. Why she was brave enough to confront me. Why she didn’t follow the laws of the superficial high school we both attended. Why she didn’t stay away from me, like everyone else.

“You’ll die from that smoking, Darian.” She glared at me. We’d had this argument a lot. I lifted my eyebrows, and turned away from her, signaling that the conversation was over.

She didn’t obey, and I sighed.

“You know, Dare, you could let yourself feel. You could understand it.” Her voice was soft, a whisper in the darkening air. She was air. My air.

I reviled the potency of the emotions I could feel pulsing through me. I ran a hand through my black hair nervously, my body skidding with strange, unfamiliar energy. I didn’t want to answer her. Why didn’t she leave?

I made a fatal mistake when I looked at her. Every nerve inside of me screamed, as though my body and internal organs were recharging hurriedly in the rare moment of my awakening.

I think I felt my heart beat hesitantly.

My voice seemed like that of a stranger. It had a rich, deep tone to it. It had color.

“Understand what?”

Something in my expression changed the way she was looking at me. It may have mirrored the arrangement of my own features. She became vulnerable in that instant.

“Kiss me.” She whispered brokenly.

Surprise jolted keenly through me. God, I wished I was numb again. Everything felt electric-too intense and too vivid. Emotions scattered across my being, a mutinous invasion of the raging war against myself. I was defenseless and an easy prey to her request. I breathed jaggedly, and there was a husky vibe to it. Want. I recognized it more clearly as it bloomed vibrantly through me.

And she was waiting. For me.

I destroyed the walls I had so warily built as I leaned towards her. She lifted a creamy hand and laid it tenderly against my cheek, the expectation making her bold. I moaned, and closed my eyes. My own hands loosened, and reached for her face greedily

Something hot-burning-ignited against my skin. I wrenched myself away, dazed by the unpleasant sensation. Had a spark traveled through our bodies? That’s when I noticed the cigarette kindling like a faint ember beside my marred hand. It had burnt me. The throbbing pain brought a wave of consciousness through me. Reality. And I stared at her face, inches from mine, and something clicked inside of me. Gears that began humming smoothly, like a tuned clock. I pulled back, and tossed her hand away like it stung. I grimaced as the vitals within me slowly resumed their state of nothingness, and shook my head to clear it of its nonsensical ideas.

She watched the change take possession of me, and tears began to collect in her eyes.

I found that I could care less.

I grinned at her, and mocked, “I taste of cigarettes, Clara.”

She got up shockingly to her feet, and backed away as if understanding for the first time what I was. Tears stained her nondescript face.

I smiled, that careful replication of a smile, and said acidly, “Did I humor your silly fantasies well?”

Her face crumpled entirely, and she pivoted away and ran sobbing from my scathing ridicule.

The sun died, and all was dark.

on Dec. 15 2009 at 4:19 pm
Sissybug2012 PLATINUM, Union, Missouri
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Favorite Quote:
"the greatest thing you'll ever learn, is just to love and be loved in return." -MOULIN ROUGE (song lyrics)

break ups are so bad. this advice is definatly a boost for me.

on Dec. 11 2009 at 1:35 pm
White_Shadow BRONZE, Putnam, Illinois
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Favorite Quote:
"A life without cause is a life without effect." - Unknown

That's a pain that i know. I hope you will find someone that will keep with you, more or less not let you go with such rudeness and cruelty.

lil smilez said...
on Dec. 11 2009 at 9:46 am
im only 15. and he ment alot to me. it is easier said than done. he lied the whole time and now dating an ex. so pretty much i got played but he ment the world to me and for him to tell me im nothing hurts.

on Dec. 10 2009 at 1:45 pm
TamaraN PLATINUM, Kalispell, Montana
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hehe ya you should check out my storys when you get the chance

on Dec. 10 2009 at 1:40 pm
White_Shadow BRONZE, Putnam, Illinois
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Favorite Quote:
"A life without cause is a life without effect." - Unknown

thanks! i'll try! haha

on Dec. 10 2009 at 9:35 am
TamaraN PLATINUM, Kalispell, Montana
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its really good advice u should make a second one

on Dec. 9 2009 at 11:17 pm
White_Shadow BRONZE, Putnam, Illinois
2 articles 0 photos 110 comments

Favorite Quote:
"A life without cause is a life without effect." - Unknown

i think i will! lol. and thank you

on Dec. 9 2009 at 4:15 pm
InkBlot1 BRONZE, Co Springs, Colorado
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Favorite Quote:
"But soft! What light through yonder window breaks? It is the east, and Juliet is the sun! Arise fair sun, and kill the envious moon, for she is sick and pale with grief.."-Romeo, from Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet.

i think you should =) A second one would be great! if you write another one, let me know, i'd love to read it

on Dec. 8 2009 at 10:57 pm
White_Shadow BRONZE, Putnam, Illinois
2 articles 0 photos 110 comments

Favorite Quote:
"A life without cause is a life without effect." - Unknown

it's hardly long enough to tell i've got talent dear! but thank you, really :D i've considered making a Break Up advice #2...but i havent gotten around to it. I'm sure i'll throw something together haha

on Dec. 8 2009 at 9:33 pm
InkBlot1 BRONZE, Co Springs, Colorado
2 articles 0 photos 15 comments

Favorite Quote:
"But soft! What light through yonder window breaks? It is the east, and Juliet is the sun! Arise fair sun, and kill the envious moon, for she is sick and pale with grief.."-Romeo, from Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet.

I really enjoyed this! it helps people who have gone through bad break-ups (like myself) =) keep writing, you've got talent

on Nov. 29 2009 at 10:46 pm
White_Shadow BRONZE, Putnam, Illinois
2 articles 0 photos 110 comments

Favorite Quote:
"A life without cause is a life without effect." - Unknown

so, now what is the subject to your 5 short stories?

on Nov. 28 2009 at 10:18 am
loveibanez BRONZE, Maumee, Ohio
4 articles 1 photo 63 comments

Favorite Quote:
"When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on!" -Ben Franklin

haha, good! And same here...

on Nov. 28 2009 at 12:23 am
White_Shadow BRONZE, Putnam, Illinois
2 articles 0 photos 110 comments

Favorite Quote:
"A life without cause is a life without effect." - Unknown

ha. yah, i know what you mean. and i reply any time that i check my email (which is at least once a day) i don't mind at all!

ajparker said...
on Nov. 27 2009 at 7:40 pm
How do you twilighters turn every situation into something related to twilight?!

It annoys the heck out of me!!!

on Nov. 27 2009 at 1:30 pm
loveibanez BRONZE, Maumee, Ohio
4 articles 1 photo 63 comments

Favorite Quote:
"When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on!" -Ben Franklin

No! haha, i don't want you to stop replying, I am just saying that if you want to, feel free to stop. ((Sorry, it did kinda stound like I was saying that, but that's not what I meant!))

on Nov. 27 2009 at 1:06 pm
White_Shadow BRONZE, Putnam, Illinois
2 articles 0 photos 110 comments

Favorite Quote:
"A life without cause is a life without effect." - Unknown

ok. and you want me to stop replying to you?

on Nov. 26 2009 at 10:29 pm
loveibanez BRONZE, Maumee, Ohio
4 articles 1 photo 63 comments

Favorite Quote:
"When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on!" -Ben Franklin

*This Is Life.in.Plaid, I just got a real account now!* I know exactly how you feel, I have been woring on a series of 5 short stories for a while now, and it's taking forever! and I just got done with the third one, they seem to be progressivly getting worse and its really hard to keep coming up with new ideas... it's quite depressing. but I am keeping at it and hopefully they will get better. ((Also, you may stop replying to my posts at any time (: ))

on Nov. 26 2009 at 9:22 pm
White_Shadow BRONZE, Putnam, Illinois
2 articles 0 photos 110 comments

Favorite Quote:
"A life without cause is a life without effect." - Unknown

ha. i guess it sorta is. i'm pretty humble about everything i do. so i wouldn't say its awesome. And its been slow work. with school and all..

on Nov. 26 2009 at 3:22 pm
Thankyou, thats probably a good idea... I might write some thing random like that and put it on here too... I wish i could read your story though, I bet is purdy coo' ^^)