My whole family never went to college, nor graduated from high school. I was unsure of what I wanted in my life because I felt pressured, my family decided they would keep the family farm up and running rather than having a successful career and living a better life, there was a constant worry daily. There was this handsome man who had lived across the street from our family farm, his family was very wealthy. We always talked on the phone, day and night. We were the best of friends, then one day he had told me he liked me and that he wishes and plans to have a big future with me.

At first I thought it was a little awkward, I only saw him as a friend but he saw more, “What was I supposed to do?”  I asked myself. That night we talked on the phone for two hours, and when it was finally my time to hit the hay I said goodnight and he whispered softly into the phone, “I love you”.. I didn’t know what to say back so I just hung up the phone and laid in my bed for a couple hours staring at the ceiling curious at what was going on. I was stuck on what to say or do with this situation this man has now put me in. He fell in love with my long blonde hair, he always commented on how he loved my dressy outfits and how I did my makeup. He said he loved everything about me and there wasn’t even one thing he found wrong with me.

I’m already stressed and unsure of what I want to do with school and then this “Love” ordeal is putting even more on me. I always wanted to be wealthy and do the best I can possibly do for myself and my life but right now I was really unsure.
I thought I would give the handsome man Ben a chance and we started hanging out every day and just enjoying each others company. I was stressed out about my life and still really unsure but I knew I was going to get through it with time. Ben and I were spending so much time together that I started to get distracted and wasn’t getting my responsibilities done and started calling out of work. Ben was a huge distraction for me and I was slacking with my goals that I wanted and I just wasn’t getting anything done. I was unsure of what to do because we were both happier than ever and I still wanted him a part of my life.

We had to have a talk, I called Ben that night and let him know that unfortunately we were going to have to start spending less time with each other. He didn’t understand and thought I was about to break up with him, before he thought I was going to do it he did it. He broke my heart, this is not what I wanted at all! I just wish he would understand but he doesn’t because he didn’t let me finish what I was trying to explain. I let Ben cool down the rest of the night and I called him the next afternoon and tried explaining myself but before I could he hung up the phone. I sat there and thought to myself “What if I go over there and tell him?” Angie then got up out of her bed and decided this needed and explanation before it went anymore over the top.

Angie then walked over to Ben’s luxury home and rang the doorbell, anxcious for what was about to go down. The door slowly opened a crack, Ben’s head peaked out seeing who is ringing his doorbell at 12:00 in the afternoon on a saturday. When he saw it was me, Angie he had a glum look on his face like he was disappointed. Then I went to say I need to explain myself, you took this all the wrong way. I explained to Ben that I wasn’t breaking up with him, I just wanted to succeed my goals I had made for myself and my future but that was impossible if I was spending ALL of my time with Ben everyday.

Ben had then come to realization of what I was saying and supported me and my decisions. He said he was there for me when I needed help or advice and that I could come to him for anything and everything, whatever I needed, he wanted to help me succeed these goals I had made, he didn’t want to see me go down the same road the rest of my family had gone down. He said it was a very smart, responsible decision of me to do this. He was happy with what I wanted in life and was there every step of the way no matter what happened between us.
We lived in a town called Elmswood in the 70’s where not many families were wealthy, there were very few. The town was old, worn down and really rugged. The kids around town weren’t dressed in the best clothes either, they were very worn, torn and sometime ripped with holes every where, this showed how much money this towns families really had.

A lot of families had it hard, it was if you were lucky, one parent was bringing in money to support the family or none at all. My family was lucky, my mother had a part time job and my dad worked not only on our farm but other farms as well earning money to support our family. I had decent sets of clothing and my family did always make sure I wasn’t walking around looking like a slob. I also had gotten myself a part time job a couple months back so I could start saving money for college so if I did decide that was actually what I wanted to do. I also put in there a little taking care of myself like buying new clothes, getting my nails and hair done and  etc. I loved to pamper myself with the money I was working hard for but also saving lots of it.

I basically supported myself once I got the part time job at the town clothing store. I bought almost everything I needed and wanted including saving a lot of the money I made as well. I made sure I walked around how I wanted to look and had an attitude where I didn’t care what anyone else thought. I dyed my hair a lighter blonde, started using different makeup and just switched up my whole look to an even more of a girly look. I wanted a change, I needed something different for once. It was time for a change in my life, everything has been the same inside my family for decades now. I thought it was my turn to finally change it up and have a positive outlook on my future and also as a person and to make goals for myself that I would soon like to make true over time.

I decided I would like to graduate high school and go onto college to pursue a successful career that will make my future better than ever. My parents were not very fond of my plan because there idea for my future was to take over the family farm and I wanted no part of it. I wanted to get out of this old, worn down town and to be successful in life and some day be wealthy after getting a great career that I’m interested in. I’m still stuck on what career I would like to pursue but I know I will figure it out and be happy with my decisions.
I was enlightened to see what my life was going to turn out like after I made these positive decisions for myself and my future. I didn’t care what my parents had to say and I ignored their input because they will never understand because they never had this experience.  I thought this was huge and it was a once in a lifetime experience and I can't ever go back, it would be too late. I wanted positive things for myself and my future, I still planned to help out with the family farm when needed but I also wanted bigger and better things in my future.

I also have now been in a relationship with the wealthy boy across the street, yes I decided to give things a chance. So far things have been great for me, everything is going as planned and I couldn’t be happier. Ben the handsome man I decided to give a chance is actually supporting my future goals as well. My parents aren’t a huge fan of him for that but we both brush it off because it shouldn’t matter to them. They always want there way and they're upset because this time they aren’t getting it and I won’t give up. I’m doing what I wanna do, it’s time for me to do my own thing and make my own decisions.

It was finally time to fill out applications for college, I needed them done and sent in next month. I have just started the process and knew I didn’t want to go too far so I was taken away from my family completely as well as Ben. I decided to go into the college a town over, an hour and a half from where I lived so I wasn’t that far and it didn’t make things impossible. I knew I didn’t wanna stay at home either so I didn’t hear the constant nagging from my parents about how this wasn’t a good idea. This was what I wanted and what I’m doing for sure, no matter what they think or say, they weren’t going to let me down and pressure me into what they wanted for me in life.

I got a letter in the mail from the college a town over that I wanted to go to and I opened it up right there at the mailbox and I was nervous, my hands were sweating, my legs were shaking, “was this good news?” “or bad?” I was so unsure but I opened it and it read Congratulations Breanna!  I couldn’t have been more ecstatic, I was jumping up and down! I was so happy I got into the collage I truly wanted to go to so I was able to pursue my career, nursing I had finally decided. I decided to hide it from my parents till I was ready to talk to them and hear the nagging I have been getting. I decided to wait because I didn’t want to hear the nagging I was getting tired of it. I move into the college in less than a month! I’m more than excited to start my life and move on into the real world and do what I truly want in life.

I was done listening to what my parents had to say, I was doing my own thing and I was delighted with the decisions I had made for myself and I wasn’t going to let anyone destroy that for me. My life was going right on the track I have wanted it too, My relationship is going well, I’m doing great in school as well as enjoying myself and loving the new friends I have around me, I was also finally away from my nagging parents who clearly never wanted this for me. This was what it took for success though and I didn’t want to have to worry about struggling like they have been my whole life. They never made the right decisions and I”m happy I decided to. My life was amazing and honestly couldn’t be better. I was excited to see what my life was going to be like after I was done with school, I have a feeling it’s going to be better than it is now although it’s going really well.

Ben asked to marry me, I couldn't be happier and I answered with yes, I wasn't stressed out at all, I was happier than ever that my life was going so well, I couldn't wait to see what my future was going to be like now with Ben being my husband. We both agreed that we wouldn't get married till I was at least done with school so I didn't give up on it, which I never planned to do. I plan to graduate, start my career, buy a house and then marry Ben and to start living my own life without my parents input on how much of a bad idea they think it is just because they aren't getting what they truly want. I was doing my own thing and that’s all.