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6 Ways To Be Yourself

June 29, 2010
By MumblingMelanie DIAMOND, Jackson, Missouri
MumblingMelanie DIAMOND, Jackson, Missouri
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Favorite Quote:
Don't be a victim; be a titan.

God, save us: another freaking article about the forsaken BEING YOURSELF?!
Yes, everybody. If you’ve made it this far, I congratulate you. So, read on and be amazed...

I guess telling you to be yourself and then be weird is kind of uncalled for. But, if you ask me, everyone, hidden deep under their masks and façades, is weird. So, show the world your true weirdness! Dress like a bird then jump off a tree low to the ground in the middle of the park. Swim in a pool of bronze paint then stand on the ledge of your local Barnes and Noble and freak people out. Throw flowers in front of a government building and hold a peaceful protest (me = not responsible if you get arrested for doing these things; beware). Whatever you do, make sure it’s extraordinary (and within the legal limits, please). Make people stare and make them wonder. They might think rude thoughts about you, yes, but they’re jealous on the inside, I promise.

Don’t fit in. If I could offer you any piece of advice (or cheesecake) for the future, I would tell you not to be a sheep. Not in the literal sense, fool, but in a philosophical sense. People, in general, are total and complete sheep. They go with the flow; they follow the herd; they do not have minds of their own. That is where we get the American population (loves the country, questions authority). So, stand up and declare your freedom. You are alive and your eyes are open. If your greatest desire is to follow blindly, go ahead and partake in such activities. But, I’m telling you now: you’re wasting your life being like everyone else. What’s the fun of meeting the same person over and over and over…just with different hair?

Your mom’s a Conservative Republican (ooh, politics, scary!). That means you have to be one too, right? I mean, you have to make your parents happy, don’t you? WRONG! You canNOT live your life to please other people! We have minds, do we not? They’re not only for deciding which lovely bag of chips to eat, I swear! We have minds of our own because we are meant to have thoughts of our very own! I mean, think about it: how many times have you been arguing with someone you hoped to impress? They say something you disagree with, but you agree anyway for the heck of it. It’ll get you some extra points in their book, sure...but it’s not YOU you’re getting points for! We’re supposed to have open minds and free thoughts...so why oh WHY don’t we just say what we feel and move on? If people don’t like you because you prefer the chocolate ice cream over the strawberry, then they can go rot in a hole. Respect yourself. You have an opinion, and it is the most important, most dangerous tool you will ever possess.

So maybe it SOUNDS like I’m encouraging you to go spray paint your initials on the nearest brick wall, but I am NOT. I’m saying that you shouldn’t believe everything you hear. This goes along nicely with the “THINK FOR YOURSELF” category, but it’s cool enough for a section of its very own. Anyway; people lie. They tell you what you want to hear, and if you accept every random opinion and unaccountable fact you hear, you’ll never know what’s real and what’s fake. So think about everything. If your principal tells you something, chances are he’s telling it to you for your own good. But, just because someone with a fancy shmancy college degree told you something does not mean you should believe it. Usually it’s the people who are young and haven’t been quite as polluted with society’s endless rules and regulations that have the most interesting, honest thoughts. Listen to everyone and question everything.


Story time! (Yaay!):
Very recently, I went on vacation with my family. It was a tourist trap of a place, let me tell you, but really awesome. So we were at one of the most tourist-y places around and there was a group of people about my age wandering about. They were texting, giggling, flirting, y’know: stupid teenager crap, ignoring what they’re not used to for what they are used to. All of a sudden I hear this girl say something, and she sounded EXACTLY (without fail) like a girl from where I’m from. Her voice, her laugh, her WORDS. I whirled around, startled, only to find the girl looked nothing like girl I know. Okay, yeah, they had the same general shorts and a t-shirt look, but it clearly wasn’t her. I was honestly frightened. Are people so much alike you can hardly decipher one from the other? Yes, yes they are.
You have a unique, unheard of personality under all the things the world has tried to change about you. So scrape away the makeup, lose the insecure thoughts, and stop worrying! Forget what people are thinking about you and let lose! You’ll make some honest, real friends in the process, and lose some that weren’t really friends in the first place.

Dress how you want, eat how you want, listen to what music you want, laugh how you want, talk how you want (even with a fake accent!), dance how you want, sing how you want, read what you want, write what you want, draw what you want, and just LIVE HOW YOU WANT TO!!! I am so sick and tired of people being the same! Start a controversy, cause a riot, cut your bangs weird, recycle a can, pick up trash on the side of the road, go hiking, survive in the woods without help, learn to play a ukulele, go skydiving, change the world!
You can do whatever you want, as long as no one (including yourself) is hurt in the process. Have fun, make friends, love your enemies, and realize this common phrase is all truth: Life is short. We, as the youth of the world, ARE the future. How about we show the coming generations that people are not meant to be the same?

The author's comments:
I love starting controversies...=D
Hope you liked it; I was in a ranting, rally worthy mood...

"Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined."
--Henry Thoreau

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on Aug. 8 2010 at 8:01 pm
MumblingMelanie DIAMOND, Jackson, Missouri
79 articles 0 photos 210 comments

Favorite Quote:
Don't be a victim; be a titan.

Hi! First, I'd like to say thanks for commenting; I really appreciate it. :)

And, on the first part (about the bronze paint deal and stuff), yes, I was being a little extreme to get my point across. :) But if that's truly what someone wants to do, then hey: let them do it! And forget if anyone else thinks bad about you. =D

And on the having a career and your life planned out, I somewhat agree. I think people change their minds very often, though, so they shouldn't be disappointed or lost if they don't achieve everything they've ever wanted.

And from one future writer to another, good luck! You seem like an intelligent person bound for success. :)

Thanks again!

on Jul. 20 2010 at 6:23 am
alaskatrailmutt, Jefferson, Maryland
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I live kinda near DC in theroy anyway so yeah it was cool. (don't worrie everything the have is basiclly at other museums and like the aquraium XD feel good bout that.)

It is creepy and unfortunate people would rather be a stero type tha a real indulvidual.

Thanks! Colours.:D Ever since I first sawl it like that I was like "this is mine now" XD Drives my friends crazy!!!! :P Well there mostly sterotypes to so hah hah. I win XD

Your welcom for the comment.I really only do it when I feel it's needed. :)

on Jul. 19 2010 at 9:57 pm
MumblingMelanie DIAMOND, Jackson, Missouri
79 articles 0 photos 210 comments

Favorite Quote:
Don't be a victim; be a titan.

I've always wanted to go the Smithsonians...*jealously*


It's creepy, I know. And unfortunate.

Thank you (tons!) for commenting!

PS...I like how you spell colour. :)

on Jul. 19 2010 at 9:56 pm
MumblingMelanie DIAMOND, Jackson, Missouri
79 articles 0 photos 210 comments

Favorite Quote:
Don't be a victim; be a titan.

Awwwww, you're too nice.

Thank you!!!

on Jul. 19 2010 at 9:55 pm
MumblingMelanie DIAMOND, Jackson, Missouri
79 articles 0 photos 210 comments

Favorite Quote:
Don't be a victim; be a titan.

Yeah; it's SO frustrating.

These fake people are wasting their own lives...it's a tragedy. (no sarcasm, which isn't normal for me :)

Thank you!

on Jul. 19 2010 at 9:54 pm
MumblingMelanie DIAMOND, Jackson, Missouri
79 articles 0 photos 210 comments

Favorite Quote:
Don't be a victim; be a titan.

That's what I was aiming for. :)

Thanks a bunch!

on Jul. 19 2010 at 9:54 pm
MumblingMelanie DIAMOND, Jackson, Missouri
79 articles 0 photos 210 comments

Favorite Quote:
Don't be a victim; be a titan.

Thank you so much!

I'd be glad to look at your works of art. :)

on Jul. 10 2010 at 7:29 am
Still_Waters26 SILVER, Ladysmith, Wisconsin
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Favorite Quote:
"We few, we happy few/we band of brothers/For he to-day that sheds his blood with me/Shall be my brother"
-Shakespeare, "Henry V"

I agree with you on all six points.  And I understand completely what you mean by not being conformed and just being yourself.  But I don't think that means you have to necessarily do werid haircuts, start a riot, and swim in bronze paint.  No offense but to me that kind of sounds like wanting to get attention.  I think the better alternative would be to find a goal (being a writer, doctor, artist, etc.) or a cause (like caring for your community or a belief) and live for that goal or cause your whole life.  I've noticed many young adults don't really have their life planned out and just live it ad-libbed, never setting real goals and not living for anything or anyone but themselves.  But finding a goal or cause and running for it and towards it passionately and nonstop your whole life, you will find the real you.  My goal is to be a writer and to save as many people as I can to Christ Jesus.  So I'm not slacking off and just leaving these as dreams--I'm taking writing classes, reading my Bible, praying and writing like CRAZY!!  And I think that's a better way to live your life rather than just doing weird things because nobody else does.

on Jul. 5 2010 at 9:01 pm
alaskatrailmutt, Jefferson, Maryland
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I know exactly what you mean!I was on a field trip at the Smithsonian they where all the same!!!! omg it's really creepy people act like that! I agree with you 10000000% all the way!Colourout side the lines!!!!!

on Jul. 4 2010 at 11:00 am
NeverFallTooHard PLATINUM, Hartford, Wisconsin
24 articles 5 photos 98 comments

Favorite Quote:
Reason is powerless in the expression of Love.~ Rumi
Realisim, in painting, is what one wants to see, not what they really see. ~ Janet Fish

ah-mazing job. 5 stars. This is how everyone should live. ♥ it!

becca said...
on Jul. 4 2010 at 3:03 am
YOU ARE SOOOO RIGHT. i have always been tired of people trying to fit in and be like others. why cant they just be themselves?

Sliva23 BRONZE said...
on Jul. 3 2010 at 7:35 am
Sliva23 BRONZE, Melbourne, Other
3 articles 0 photos 58 comments

Favorite Quote:
Love to faults is always blind, always is to joy inclined. Lawless, winged, and unconfined, and breaks all chains from every mind.

This was soo what i needed...u made me feel more myself and i really thank u for that. good job :)

on Jul. 3 2010 at 6:26 am
Chinadoll BRONZE, Dallas, Texas
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Very nice! Never seen it quite like this though. Somebody needed to say it and you did in a funny, but serious way. Everyone even the ones who are being themselves by fitting in needs to realize this.  I wish I could show this to my school.  Thank you for making my day.  5 stars

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