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New Kid Syndrome MAG

By Amanda M., Franklin, MA

     I loved my school last year. I was top of my class, student body president, in the school musical, into drama and art, on the swim team, and principal chair for band. I knew all my teachers, and I had some really good friends. I was unstoppable, on top of the world, no one could touch me - until I changed schools.

Now I am a freshman (a.k.a. dead man walking). I remember my first day. I was so nervous, but knew everything would be okay ... wrong! It turned out that I was very, very wrong. By the end of the day my feelings had changed quite a bit from the summer. I thought I was going to be calm, cool, and collected by the end of that first day, but instead I felt confused, bewildered, and flustered, and like I was the only one going through this. I was diagnosed with New Kid Syndrome (NKS). I had the common symptoms of NKS: confusion in class, no connection with teachers, lack of friendly faces in the hallway, and zero people to talk to.

For those who suffer from NKS, believe they are suffering, or have in the past, there’s a way out. You too can see those friendly faces in the hallways, and even those little tepee marks on report cards - if you read on.

Know you are never the only one who is new; there are other new kids around, in addition to people who were once new and are understanding and willing to help. Make sure you tell people you are new. Try to get other kids to show you shortcuts only they know. This way you can make your routes to classes much shorter and get around the school better. Also remember that although upperclassmen can be scary, you can ask a sophomore or even a senior for help. They don’t bite ... most of the time.

In the lunchroom try to look for people you know from your classes and people you might like to get to know. Ask nicely if you can sit with them; most likely they’ll smile and say yes. If not, it’s their loss. Simply say, “That’s okay, I see my other friends over there,” and don’t be embarrassed - who cares what they think?

If you are trying to meet new people, getting involved with clubs and sports is a great way to find others with your interests. Making new friends is important, but don’t forget about your grades and your relationship with your teachers.

When starting a new school, there will also be brand-new teachers, which can be good, or bad. Be sure to be respectful and pay attention in class. If you get bad grades at first, ask the teacher for help before a test and do all your homework. Then at least the teacher knows you are trying your hardest. Find out whether your school offers tutoring. Always try to go for extra help right away when you do not understand something, and don’t wait until right before the final. If you can’t go to the teacher, ask a guidance counselor, another teacher, or even a student.

Just remember that everything will be fine. Being the new kid isn’t as scary as it is on TV. Remember, above all, to be yourself.

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This article has 13 comments.

i love this so much!

on May. 17 2015 at 4:37 pm
WordAddict GOLD, Montclair, New Jersey
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Oh, the days of sixth grade...

Lainah BRONZE said...
on Nov. 8 2014 at 10:36 am
Lainah BRONZE, Lahore, Other
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Favorite Quote:
Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall. ( conficous )

So true! I move alot but still can't get over NKS. I really liked the piece. Great job! :)

ananisa said...
on Sep. 2 2013 at 11:21 pm
It happened to me too in the early months i entered my new college. when i read this article, the days pictured in my mind

on Mar. 3 2012 at 9:34 am
aurum_angel BRONZE, Hingham, Massachusetts
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Favorite Quote:
'I’m Nobody! Who are you?
Are you–Nobody–Too?
Then there’s a pair of us!
Don’t tell! they’d advertise–you know!

How dreary–to be–Somebody!
How public–like a Frog-
To tell one’s name–the livelong June-
To an admiring Bog!'
-Emily Dickinson

Bravo! I really like this. Such a true story...

To tell you the truth I have been where I am for about 4.5 years and I still have NKS. It really stinks.

on Oct. 23 2011 at 8:32 pm
austenite77 GOLD, Appleton, Wisconsin
13 articles 0 photos 58 comments

Favorite Quote:
Die my dear? Why that's the last thing I'll do

I like this. I agree with the people who said middle school and elementary school are very different. I've never started a new school, but I did have a hard transition between elementary and middle school.

on Oct. 1 2011 at 8:04 am
SidPusain BRONZE, Kathmandu, Other
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Favorite Quote:
The most skillful flattery is to listen to what the other person has to say without interfering.

Ok guys who posted comments earlier, the writer didnt generalize the idea of NKS instead  he's telling his experience and is trying to help. I think you should acknowledge that!

on Sep. 4 2011 at 11:49 pm
JojoMimi BRONZE, Portland, Oregon
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So true! I was the new kid four times in elementary school and I made friends pretty quick. When I was new in high school, it seemed like there was some rule saying that new kids must be avoided. It was so uncool to be new.

on Jul. 27 2011 at 6:32 pm
CupcakeSaffy PLATINUM, Cochrane, Other
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Favorite Quote:
"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take but by the moments that take our breath away."

The scary thing about NKS is that hardly anyone gets it in elementary. I was new twice in elementary and it seemed to make me more popular than ever - what a breeze! But the four times I've been new in junior high four times and THAT was very different. For some reason, it suddenly switches and WHAM BAM CRASH, NKS kicks in, being new is not cool anymore, and whoop! there goes all that first day confidence you had, especially if you are new (like I have always been) on any day other than the first day of the school year. Oh, well - you offered some great tips! Well done!

HamzahQ SILVER said...
on Feb. 6 2011 at 2:16 pm
HamzahQ SILVER, Carteret, New Jersey
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that was great im not a new kid though i was about 5 years ago but the whole thing is really cool

on Jun. 7 2010 at 4:14 pm
Savvy_ PLATINUM, Houston, Texas
21 articles 11 photos 43 comments

Favorite Quote:
Call up the locksmith,
Tell him we need him quick,
We've got a million keys,
None of them seem to fit.

People exaggerated the way Freshmen are treated. My Freshman year was a breeze, and I never was pointed out for being a Freshman.

I liked this story though :D

on Apr. 20 2010 at 2:55 am
mcpanicfanic SILVER, Cincinnati, Ohio
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I can relate. I have gone to private schol my entire life with the same kids and will go to college soon. This piece is way good.

on Dec. 10 2009 at 8:50 pm
ryangallagher BRONZE, Cincinnati, Ohio
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Favorite Quote:
"Science without religion is lame, religion without science is blind." -- Albert Einstein

I feel like I have NKS everywhere I go. I have all those symptoms, even in familiar places.