I understand we all need someone to talk to, but it doesn't mean you have to tell that person, like your best friend, EVERY-SINGLE detail of your relationship. I learned that during the summer. Sometimes you just need to figure things out on your own, or better yet, your partner.
Towards the end of my junior year last year, I met this girl named Jessie. We turned out to be the best of friends and I loved how great she was to talk to. Whenever I would have problems with Leo, my boyfriend, she was always right there to listen. Most of the advice she gave was helpful, but some were not because she's never had a serious relationship.

Every time Leo and I had an argument or disagreement, I would call Jessie. She would always say "You're his girlfriend; he needs to hear from you everything you tell me." Now this is very true, but it was really hard for me to open up to him. Jessie eventually started telling me what to do and how to handle my relationship. I felt like a puppet on a string. Everything she taught me did not work. It was making my relationship worse! It seemed like my boyfriend suddenly hated me, and I felt like I was losing interest in him.

During the summer, I broke up with Leo. Nothing felt right. I felt like I was forced to break up with him. After the break up, we would still text each other. He was lost and wanted to know why I called it off with him. I didn't have an answer for that myself. I just did it because Jessie led me to. She was putting strange, negative ideas and observations in my head.

In late September, Leo and I got back together and I ended my friendship with Jessie because she was becoming a bully. She was saying horrible things about me and even took her hatred for me to social networks. It was devastating. I told my mother and she was nothing but supportive of me. She encouraged me to not stoop down to Jessie's level, ignore it, and carry myself as a young lady, so I did.

A day later, I decided to tell Leo what happen between me and Jessie. It was hard for me to tell him because I didn't want to bore him the drama. I showed him the messages and when he finished reading them he said, "I knew there was something strange about her." He gave me pretty much the same advice my mother had given me. It was great, and I felt much closer to him. From that day on, I knew that I could open up to him and he'd be right there to listen. It was such a relief when I let go of Jessie. My relationship with Leo grew stronger and stronger as the days went by.

To this day, everything's been going just fine. Yeah we still get into little arguments here and there, but it's nothing like before. I'm happy and I can definitely see how happy he is. This lesson taught me to not tell everyone and anyone, even your best friend every little detail that goes on in your relationship. People get jealous. It's best to figure things out on your own, or talk to the person you're in the relationship with. That's the best person to talk to.