What Adults Don't Understand

February 15, 2009
By , Bon Aqua, TN
My mom was reading one of the poems of this magazine the other day, and she did something that really irked me. She was reading a poem from the February issue, Nothing Like. When she was finnished reading, she let out a 'humph', like she didn't actually belive that "kids" like us could know what love is yet. Like love is only for responsible adults. Well let me say something right here and right now: By the time you are thirteen, you have probably been in love. There I said it. Now people can argue about it.

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NinaQ said...
Apr. 24, 2011 at 4:06 pm
Dont blame your parents, blame all those stupid teens who overuse the word love like they know it all and they make us look bad 
KC <3's JS replied...
Dec. 6, 2011 at 1:58 pm
Well what if we don't use I love you enough? We'll regret it, well wish we said it one more time to that one person, well never forgive ourselves... What is wrong with saying I Love You, there are so many different meanings like there's saying it to a friend and then there's saying it to a guy you're truly in love with... What is wrong with, "I Love You"?
owl-girl replied...
Jan. 19, 2012 at 9:22 pm
I think NinaQ was more refering to those teens who are with someone new each time you turn around, and are all like "OMG I LOOOOOVE 'EM SO MUCH" about everybody. And I agree with that.
ashley1012 said...
Apr. 22, 2011 at 8:40 am
i think that this article is soo true you really dont know when you fall in love i am 14 and i dont know what true love is or means i mean i flirt with boys and they flirt with me but i dont say i love you so yeah
OliviaOblivious* said...
Apr. 19, 2011 at 8:01 am
no i have to totally disagree. i dont know any teen by the age of thirteen who has been in love. it might have been a crush, lust or infacuation, but never love. thirteen is way too young anyways. were still maturing at that age and even at my age i am right now. i ddnt get a bf til i was 15. i can honestly say i was not in love with him. i did love him and i still do, which is way different than being in love, although i have never been in love, im sure i will know when i am, but dont put ... (more »)
Suzana J. said...
Apr. 8, 2011 at 6:42 pm
Absolutly true!!
countrygirl98 said...
Mar. 17, 2011 at 8:00 pm
I believe love has no age, & no limits <3
SweetandSour101 said...
Mar. 17, 2011 at 6:05 pm
OMG!! i totally agree with this. ;)
TeaCat said...
Mar. 8, 2011 at 7:11 pm

I have never been in love.

Hard to believe, but 100% true.

Even so, I believe that  no matter how young you are, you can fall in love. 

Adults say that teens confuse love with lust, but really, I think it's the other way around.

AshyBaby said...
Feb. 26, 2011 at 9:58 pm
We do love. Adults may not believe it because we fall hard, and we fall fast and we don't really know how to understand the way we feel some of the time. And we don't always know how to maintain a relationship well. When we get hurt they may say its because we are "over emotional teenagers" but its because we loved and lost. And don't people say that it's better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all? <3
NeicyAmor replied...
Apr. 30, 2011 at 11:39 pm
beautiful point
Zeeba13 said...
Feb. 23, 2011 at 1:12 pm
There are a bunch of different kinds of love. Love changes as we change. :)
heartgirl22 said...
Feb. 23, 2011 at 7:50 am
We do fall in love. Sometimes we just don't realize how far or how hard we are falling. As for me I have had my first love this year at the age of 13, but as much as I say that I regret it all, consitering that he was my first kiss all the way to my first slow dance, I know deep in my heart that I will never regret a single second with him. <3 love it!
KayKay:-) said...
Feb. 5, 2011 at 6:16 pm
We do fall in love. Obviously. Parents grew up, like, 5000 gazillion bagillion years ago, and dating was sorta different. It was slower. No we just move ahead faster and don't wait 5 years to get married after we get engaged. Just that in teenage years you aren't really  emotionally ready for exactly that - marriage. Of course we fall in love, we just do it faster.
KyleGarbacz said...
Feb. 1, 2011 at 7:40 pm
Yes, I believe that teens DO in fact fall in love. For them love is the feeling that they have someone there that will understand them and like the REAL person that they are on the inside. Us teenager want the feeling of being wanted and loved for who they are. NOT just because they are a son, daughter, cousin, neice or any of that. They WANT to have people there for them because that person WANTS to be there. Teens fall in love becaus... (more »)
heavenleimonkey said...
Feb. 1, 2011 at 4:11 pm
I understand some parents don't think us teens can fall in love. But there are the parents like mine who do. But i do have to argue to the point that i am sixteen years old and have no clue what love "is" and doubt i will find out soon. I find it ridiculous how  some teens i know that are in same age are "in love" with someone new every single week! i dont care for teen relationships!
musicprincess This work has been published in the Teen Ink monthly print magazine. said...
Feb. 1, 2011 at 3:50 pm
I do believe that teenagers love. Sometimes it seems that parents forget their teenage years. Love does not have an age requirement. We simply love differently than they do.
forevergirl8080 replied...
Feb. 16, 2011 at 2:22 pm
First of all, let me say, I really wish TeenInk had a "like" button for comments because there are so many comments on here that I wish I could like. And Teenagers CAN be in love... love is for all ages.
musicprincess This work has been published in the Teen Ink monthly print magazine. replied...
Feb. 18, 2011 at 4:40 pm
It just kill me that they dont think we do love. It is love, its just a learning experience for us. They dont get that i suppose.
OpenHeart13 said...
Feb. 1, 2011 at 2:20 pm
teenagers are just as capable as love as any adult. yeah there is drama but that not all there is. everyone on the entire planet is capable of love. yeah i said everyone and it doesnt matter who yu are or how old yu are because everyone finds someone at a different age. the only reason adults would probably say teenagers cant love is because that person either hasnt had luck with love or they are too old to remember what it was like when they were a teenager.
Lucky707 said...
Jan. 10, 2011 at 3:20 pm
I think ur mom was right highschool is pure drama nothing real and at first u dont love the person ur with u just like the thought of the person so its true ur to chilish at a young age to understand wat love is especialy from what u wrote.
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