Walking around the school halls people talking about who's hot and who's not. Chatting about who they like and who they dislike, who they want to date and who they don't. I'm in middle school and already people my age are talking about dating! I think we are too young to date in my opinion. Recently my friend got a boyfriend and she's only 11!!! I think we need to live in the moment of our age. Have fun playing soccer and keep crushes, crushes until you're older. I understand kids liking the oppisite sex, but dating? I keep telling my friends that we're young and she be running around and playing sports. They just ignore me and shake it off. What do you think?
Young Love
You might be interested in this content from TeenSpot:
Vanner96
I think you are exactly correct. Even high school is the "fall in love" stage but why prepare your self for heart break? Set your goals and live them! Don't let anyone distract you at any age! :)
anet53 said...
Feb. 9 at 9:44 pm:
Feb. 9 at 9:44 pm:
well crushes and boyfriends have been going on since pre-k and i do see your point but being young includes finding who you like
HannaBanana123I can see your point here.... Most relationships my age (13) last maybe a month or two... however, I'm in a relationship at the moment with a boy I've been with for a year so.... But, yeah i totally see where you're getting this from. Some times, I wish for the days that boys were still icky
aem312I had my first "boyfriend" when I was 10. I really liked him but we never really talked... we always talked through my best friend. We "dated" for a long time but then we parted ways and I was devastated and he bullied me throughout the whole next school year. He left my school in 8th grade but then he transferred to my high school in 10th. I thought I was over what happened but seeing him in this place that I thought had been safe caused me to panic. I've had to deal with it for a long time but... (more »)
StarryRossUm, okay this here is a very warped reality that scares me, to be quite honest. I am a die hard romantic with a best friend boyfriend of 8 months, so don't think i can't relate, but i think that all these children are trying to date and not listening to what we have to say for a couple reasons. 1) when we say "you're too young" it is NOT that you're too young to have strong feelings for somebody and have them also be your best friend and yada yada yada. But the other part is what you're too youn... (more »)
OozeworldGood God, what is this thread, a Shaker compound?
Waka $inamon said...
Sept. 7, 2011 at 9:08 am:
Sept. 7, 2011 at 9:08 am:
Girlfriends aren't really girlfriends until you kiss them.
Uh, in your opinion, but I never said they didn't kiss.
MalloryR.I'm in middle school, and I used to agree. Starting from 4th grade, people had "boyfriends" and "girlfriends". that is wrong. However, in my middle school, people don't actually go out on dates. they say they're "going out", which means holding hands and walking together in the hallways and texting each other frequently, which isn't so bad. I think as long as kids know they don't really love the person, then its just infatuation, which is ok.
birdcage2ok i like this but when you said kids likeing the opposite sex. wow homophobia in here! kids or teens or adults don't always like the opposite sex sometimes they like the same sex. kk you might want to change that. before someone gets really mad!
its just a general comment, but i honestly don't think mentioning "the opposite sex" is a homophobic discrimination. Its okay, most of us very much know and respect people liking the same sex, let's not get defensive over an article about premature dating in mid school
She can write what she wants. She shouldn't have to change it because someone has a problem with it or is offended. JUST DON'T READ IT!!!
ashley1012 am sorry but i amin highs school and i have a bf and i dont tell him i love you becuase we dont know te menaing of i love you
i am sorry but that is so true what you said becuase i am in high school and i just recently got out of a relationship so yeah and i am sitten here crying becuase i really loved this boy so yea. can a 11 year really know what love is i dont think so!
NinaQWhat makes me mad is how stupid teenagers use love wrong and make us all look bad.. I personally know what love is all about, at this age teens always believe love is about boyfriend and girlfriend than when they break up they suddenly dont feel anything. THOSE people make us look bad for those who know the true extent of love at such a young age are gifted
Archangel1410No one in Middle school should ever really actually go out with someone. Wait till High School like where I am to do that. Its not right. We look at these kids and think "they are to young to even think of going out." I can understand thinking about it in 6th and 7th grade and then maybe 8th grade. It only causes trouble because as you get older you are able to handle different situations better. I agree 100% with this article. Enjoy middle school while you still have it. Great Ar... (more »)
Now if two kids are ACTUALLY in love, then most of us will be fine with that. But if they go out simply because they can and because it looks cool to their friends. Then and only then do we strongly disapprove.
Candy Apple: I totally agree with you that young people may not be mature enough to realize "true" love; it' ridiculous when we hear 9-year-olds saying, "omg, I love him sooo much", or anything of the sort.
But then again what IS "true love"? How can someone define it?
I think you can "fall in love" at any age. Most people get love mixed up with lust, and that one of the reasons why no one ever trusts teenage/preteen love. But my cousin's best friend "fell in love" when sh... (more »)
Wow, that's impressive. XD Yeah, maybe you can fall in love young, but I don't think 9 year olds could handle it as well as an older person since they aren't mature yet.
I lost my virginity when I was 9 years old, who are you to tell me I can't be in love when I'm young!!!
MangoMadnessO.O WOW. That's messed up, I would NEVER have done it that young I didn't even have those urges until I was 11, I'm now 14 and still a virgin. I've never even dated. Creepy...
I agree with wassacracker123, I lost mine when I was, like, 8-9, imk not sure which. I loved him. I also agree with CandieApple, but this is opinions.
There nay be such as young love, my brother met this girl two years ago, he is 19 now and they got marrried October 15!!!! Young Lve
WriterGeek<3 said...
Feb. 21, 2011 at 1:05 pm:
Feb. 21, 2011 at 1:05 pm:
I think it is an individual thing. I know someone who truly fell in love at 13 years old. So some people don't date until college some date in 6th grade. It should be your own desicion.
deafening_silenceI agree on the part that 11 is too young to date. It pointless because you still don't understand love at that age, and relationships built on peer pressure and young feelings never seem to work out. [Of course, nothing is black and white.] I do have to say I disagree with you on the part about not dating in middle school. Dating isn't frowned upon or bad in any way. Sometimes, its a part of life that helps you grow and understand what kind of person you're looking for and just makes you who you... (more »)
EmilyMichelle
I think we need to clear up our definition of love here...dating someone does NOT mean you are "in love" with them. I think that love takes time to grow and you really need to know someone for quite a while and know their true self before you can ever really say you love them.
TayLor said...
Jan. 27, 2011 at 12:28 pm:
Jan. 27, 2011 at 12:28 pm:
Disagree With This Statement. Its Okay To Date Young, It Better To Date Young Because Tjat Tell you That Guys Like You For Who You Are.
But you also have to realize that when you're young you're not fully mature. So, they don't really truly understand what love is yet. So dating young is not...in my opinion, a good thing to do..
Yurriane
FireandWateragree very much. at 11 you're not emotionally capable of loving someone, but tiny bits of your heart attachments get tangled up. eventually, if you're on your 4th boyfriend at 17, you'll give about 1/2 your heart to your husband. i've already had a really bad crush and given a teensy bit of my heart away, and it feels now like i'll be giving only 90%of me to my future husband. you can wait. be pure.
ok i see what all you guys mean but im almost 13 and i have a boyfriend.i just started dating him and we have been best friends for a long time ,i risked it all teling him that i was in love with him and he felt the same way.now we are happy but i always think about him .it is NOT puppy love,so u can date at a young age and experience love but you have to be careful.
In some ways i agree, young girls can feel love, it is programed into their brains. But some girls just go out with a boy because they feel pressure by their piers. I did that, and i wasnt happy in that relationship. Still friends w/ him, but i learned from it.
I started dating when I was eleven and had 4 girlfriends at once. Ocasionaly still hook up with one of them. any guy who feel love is a soft wimp and Ill beat them up
where on earth did you get that from? call me a girly girl, but love is not for wimps. If you're gonna love someone, it's gonna take all you have. really. it's not infatuation, it's not passion or liking, it's not interest or obession. love is it's own catagory and I can promise you that it's one of the hardest things to do.
thebestdaysofyourlifeI agree with HisPurePrincess... love isn't for wimps and I don't know about all girls but I like guys who are emotional, that way I know they're not just rocks.
Friggin_DaisyI agree but then disagree. I was dating Juniors and Seniors when i was say, 12? Idk, I was in the 7th grade. Yeah, it hurt ALOT. Alot of drama that I DIDNT need at that age. But also, dating..isnt bad. Dating lets you 1, get to know people..2, helps you decide actually what kind of guy/girl is right for you. 3, makes you who you are. So for me, it was drama and it hurt, but it made me who I am today. I am 15 years old, and for once I'm dating someone my age. Who I dated in the 7th and 8th grade,... (more »)
:O Juniors and Seniors??! And yeah you're right, but to think about even 5th and 6th graders dating seems wayy young XD
random person said...
Dec. 24, 2010 at 3:11 pm:
Dec. 24, 2010 at 3:11 pm:
i agree love has gotten out of hand in middle school. at a party, 5 sixth graders were crying in the girl's bathroom becouse some boy broke up with a girl....So much unnecessary drama.
*%Hidden Beauty%* said...
Dec. 13, 2010 at 3:34 pm:
Dec. 13, 2010 at 3:34 pm:
younge love usually gets on my nerves i find my self asking why doesnt anyone like me when i should be focusing on academics trying to find my place in this world having to deal with things like im not goood enough or even that pretty i have a question what is younge love???
scoot413I agree with you but i disagree with you.
Yes, live in the moment with your age, have fun, and be carefree, but they can still ahve crushes and dream about guys/girls. I had a bf at 11 but we weren't serious. i think it's that rush of "omigosh, he/she's perfect" is what you guys seek for.
I agree with you!
I can understand liking a boy/girl when you are in middle school, but to call it dating is a little extreme. Kids have the rest of their lives to date, keep your childhood while you can..and for girls...boys are nothing but drama and you will have plenty of that in high school...so stick to sports and being young...boys arent worth the drama or tears when you are young.
IncitataI agree as well, to an extent. I think it's more a measure of your maturity than your age. I know some middle schoolers who aren't dating, but the practically are, they just don't call it that.
Also, I'd say it's a different time for everyone. I dated a guy when I was 14, and it was probably my biggest mistake. But I learned a lot, and now I know better.
I'm going to wait until college, but it's cool with me if other people date in highschool - some... (more »)
Thanks guys for keeping my article alive! :) I've never had so many comments or responses to my article than this! I'd like to thank everyone that has read this!
Look, I am 17 and when i 10 i started dating this guy up until last year when he cheated on me. Does it hurt? Yes it does more then anything.
But every one has to make their own mistakes. so when she gets her heat broken just be there for her thats all you can do
I'm sorry that he cheated on you. : ( I detest cheaters. If I knew who he was, I'd tirade him for you.
But some boys are so young and filled with awe of the power of the "dating" title, that they think that they can do anything. It's ridiculous, really. So in a way, girls are more emotionally mature when it comes to young "dating".
DragonscribeI agree with the 15 and older rule, although relationships before then could be used just as experiments - as long as they're appropriate. Really, whenever you are mature enough is good. And usually that's not in middle school, people.
Gmoney10 said...
Oct. 15, 2010 at 1:58 pm:
Oct. 15, 2010 at 1:58 pm:
Oh girl i agree, tell her keep her mind on kicking the balls on that soccer field. and also just remind her that there is so much time for that in the future i am in high school and sometimes i wonder if we are to young to even be dating. but i guess that is something you do in high school. you will have time to have a date to the school dance, and have plenty of time to introduce a guy to your parents. just live it up because i wish i can go back and live my childhood over. i remember my child ... (more »)
Join the Discussion
This article has 127 comments. Post your own!