A TRUE FRIEND IS......

Ya’ll know that I’ve written about friendship before, but this time I’m gunna talk about the people…not the act.


What is a friend?
How do you treat them?
Do you have many? –if not…..have you figured out why?

Most people think that these questions are mainly for kids and their friends, but it’s a lifetime topic.

A friend is typically a non-relative that either shares the same interests as you, or you just enjoy being together so much that you don’t bother with the fact that you’re perhaps opposites. Normally if you are opposites, you won’t stay in a healthy relationship; you’ll start fighting, disagreeing on morals and standards, and just contrasting on everything! A true friend though, should have respect for your beliefs, so then you shouldn’t be bickering. Now if you completely disagree then you shouldn’t remain friends; you can stay cordial, but not friends. Example: I am a Christian. If I were to go to a public school which thankfully I do not, but if I were, I shouldn’t make strong ties with non-believers if my faith is new or if I struggle a lot; because those friends could cause me to stray away from my faith. If however I do have a strong faith and testimony which I believe I do, I would be able to have non-believing friends and keep my faith by standing up for it and calmly proving that friend wrong with Scripture.
A friend is someone who shares your emotion. If you’re sad and they love you, they’ll be sad if anything just at the fact that you’re sad! And the same for all the other emotions.
A friend sticketh closer than a brother(-Bible) as I have already written before. I mean really…who tells their siblings more than what they tell their friends? Not many. Not only is that how close they are, but it says that they stick with you closer than a brother. Well a brother is a brother till death! They can’t just stop being your sibling by doing anything technically, because they have your same blood, name, and DNA. (disownment doesn’t count) If that’s how close a brother is, just imagine how much closer a true friend is.
A friend is one who even through a fight as I have experienced still wants to call or txt or hang out. They just can’t stay mad at you forever. They love you and they need love back.
A friend is so many other things that I know that I could write for days in length with my personal experiences and examples and truths that I won’t….for your sakes lol.

Well now that we know what a friend is, how do you treat them? Is your idea of a friend becoming the leader of your little clique and having people who follow you around because you’re cool, pretty, smart, buff, whatever and not even care about who you guys really are? That’s just ludicrous! And not true friendship at all! The Bible says to treat others as you would have them to treat you. Now if you would like them to treat you the way a ruthless leader of a clique normally does than you’ve got some problems. I haven’t met anyone who’s ever wanted to be treated that way. The way you should treat your friends is by telling them things about them that make you like them and make you want to be their friend. You should treat them with respect, love, compassion, honesty, and conductive criticism. If you would want your friend to help you mature and grow then you should do the same for them.
This is probably the most difficult question to speak the truth about amongst the three. Think about it….do you have many friends? If so are they the right kind of friends? Friends that love you and you love them; friends that call when they haven’t heard from you in a couple of days or so; friends who still talk to you even when you’ve had a fight. If so then you must be somewhat of a good person lol and you are blessed. Your reward from God is true, good friends. If you don’t have many….I need to ask why? Look at your life and incidents where you’ve been around people and go through the scenario. Did you treat them the way you’d have wanted to be treated? Did you choose the right crowd of people? And ask any more questions that fit the specific scenario. If you did any of these wrong then…there’s your answer as to why you only have a few if any friends. I’m sorry to say, but it’s true…if you’re a jerk to people you’re not going to be liked. Would you like someone who was a jerk to you? I should hope not….

I hope these commentaries on these questions have helped. I hope you take my advice and use it. If you would like me to pray for you just comment on this and ask and I will be glad to pray for you. Some of you may be like ‘ok I agree with that so I’ll use that, but oh that’s Bible stuff…I…I...I won’t believe that.’ Well I want to ask this and I want you to think about it very hard.
Just because you don’t believe in the Bible, don’t you agree that it seems logical? Doesn’t it make sense? Doesn’t it seem like it would work?
Please think about it and just give it a try…if it works, maybe even consider giving God a try. I’m here for any more advice about anything or any questions you may have. (my dad is a pastor so I’m well knowledge lol)