Understanding in a Relationship

June 8, 2011
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A poll from a social networking site asked what the most important thing in a relationship is. The choices are trust, communication and sex. Let’s examine each of them and decide which is correct.

The number one in the votes is trust. Trust is when you have faith and confidence in the fact that your lover wouldn't betray you, hurt you or something. It keeps you from having doubts on him and from being paranoid. This makes a relationship strong because it gives both of the lovers the assurances that they are trusted and reliable – everyone needs to feel trusted and reliable.

The one that has been second in the votes is communication. Communication, in my opinion, is not just the phone-calling or meeting in a park or a house. It is more than hello’s, how-are-you-doing’s, I’m-fine’s or any other kind of conversation. It is the way of expressing your thoughts to your partner and his/her thoughts to you. And it is important since it is the way you can express your trust to your partner.

The one who got the least votes is sex. Well, from my point of view, sex is for physical intimacy only. Even though some people say that it’s as well an emotional one, I say that there are better ways to express your emotions. For me, sex is not that important in a relationship between a boy and a girl or homosexuals. It is only important in making a baby – if you know what I mean.

It took me days before realizing that none of these three choices is the most important. The most important part of a relationship is understanding. Understanding is the when you weigh if someone’s reason is reasonable enough for doing what he/she did. It is when you put yourself in his/her situation and ask yourself what you would do if you’re in the same situation. It is when you accept a person for what he/she is. It is what keeps a relationship strong no matter what kind of relationship you have – be it friendship or sexual or something. If you cannot understand a person, you wouldn’t be able to forgive, show sympathy or accept.

I’m not saying that trust, communication and sex are not important in a relationship; I’m just saying that the most important thing, in my opinion, is not included in the choices because the most important thing is understanding. But we all have our own points of view and opinions. So what, in your opinion, is the most important thing in a relationship?

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musicispassion said...
Jul. 3, 2011 at 1:53 am
can i ask what social networking site? all the reasons that were in this are important sweet job
Alon_Freevoice replied...
Jul. 3, 2011 at 2:49 am
In FaceBook...
YOu know, there are like question in that site and I stumbled upon one that asks what the most important thing in a relationship is. The choices are trust, sex and communication and I couldn't even add something... so I write this...
AvengedJasonfoldForever said...
Jun. 29, 2011 at 7:40 pm

See, I read on your profile that you're not 100% confident with English. So I don't know how to be 100% confident in giving you harsh feedback :P

As someone who is trying to learn Spanish as my second language, I know my writing voice in Spanish isn't the same as my voice in English. That's just because I don't know the language all that well. Let me say this--I've read a couple of your articles and your English is very good. Better than my spanish anyway :P

That said, I think i... (more »)

Alon_Freevoice replied...
Jun. 30, 2011 at 4:16 am

Well, thank you..

Oh, and sorry if "in my opinion" bothered you..I'll work with it..:)

AvengedJasonfoldForever replied...
Jun. 30, 2011 at 10:36 am
see that's what I'm saying don't worry if what you write bothers people so much :P
Alon_Freevoice replied...
Jul. 1, 2011 at 1:11 am
haha.. ill work with it :)
thank you so much...
"in my opinion," i should really work on it... :)) i think it's much better without the my-opinions thing.. :)
AvengedJasonfoldForever replied...
Jul. 2, 2011 at 12:15 am

I think you're definately on the right track. You sure do have a sense of humor and wit.

In my opinion, you can never go wrong with the ability to make someone laugh >:D

JoPepper said...
Jun. 24, 2011 at 11:14 am
This is pretty good and I do agree with you!!!!! Although I kind of think they are all kind of important.   Very good job!!!!! :D
i lov u said...
Jun. 21, 2011 at 7:35 am
i think this essay is not enough for the topic wrong choice.i think this is the writer's wrong choice.not good,u should try again.
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