there is a compelling absence in this post: a guy.

haha yeah...

anyways, i always appreciate deep thinking and when somebody is willing to accept a problem that they or their peers have, and do agree with most of what is said here. i refuse to comment much on the topic of manhood because i am one of the rare specimen who is straight but not at all afraid of losing his man-card (in fact, i think i lost it, like... years ago... but i digress)

it's honestly somewhat troubling to be a complex male. for the most part, it's a lot like i'm just the girl in the relationship; in fact, two of my three girlfriends have teased about it at least a little bit. however, whether i'm a guy or girl, the past affects the present, definitely. my first girlfriend, who i dated for the longest time yet (like, six months, but the whole drama of it all lasted fourteen); she'd like, hide things and talk behind my back yet was able to say it straight to my face that she wasn't hiding anything and wasn't lying. i believed her, and my heart was broken doubly when i found out i was right (and then she started dating the guy who i thought was my best friend, proving me further right.)

now, i've grown up, and i know that my current girlfriend is not that same first girlfriend, but still, i see myself having issues with trusting her. i trust her with my friends; that isn't it; no, i have good friends now. my struggle right now is just when i ask if something's wrong and she says there isn't. the first gf - i'd ask her that all the time, because i just couldn't get off of it. there was something wrong, i'd find out; but she always said no.

i plead one thing from all of you girls for us guys: honesty. i know that bluntness is rarely in you, but at least try to help your boyfriend know how you feel if he's willing to open up sensitively and try to help you. please.

wow - that was long.

Hmm...interesting. Your comment made me think even more about the topic.

Sweet.

Very good question. Hm, I guess we're also afraid of the consequences. It's often that we don't trust guys because of our past which in return, ruins the future forming us into "bitter shrews". Of course, that doesn't happen all the time.

And guys in the other hand, like you said, want to find a girl who they know trust them - and they trust back - before showing the sensitive side they may be hiding...

So, I guess we're all just afriad of our fellings...what do you say?

Ah...manipulation...our number one weapon, don't you agree?

And yeah, I guess we underestimate their feelings too much and become stereotypical. They can be sensitive too - just try not to be...

yeah i agree :)

Some girls have a tendency to be manipulative. In all honesty, it's easier to understand guys sometimes 'cause they're blunt (for the majority). Can avoid alot of confusion and hidden poison darts when you simply ask the guy what's up (in a gentle sort of way or else he'll get defensive)

Yeah, I think you have a point. We do have issues, although we might never ever admit it out loud. 

So, we may blame the guys for most of the problems but really, we're just as bad as they are.