Virgin Lips

October 12, 2009
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V.L. Stands for Virgin Lips. It’s a term that should be far more widespread and is the status your lips should hold for more than the first ten years of your life. People don’t seem to realize that once you give your first kiss away, there's no going back. Once you give it, it's gone for life. No over-sized eraser can fade the marks of crimson lipstick. This applies not just to the virginity of your lips, but of your body... When you start young, you end young. No refunds. No exchanges. Final sale; take it or leave it. Once it's gone, it's gone. Forever. When learning this lesson in life, you get no second chances, just one shot. Take it or leave it? I choose to leave it. Call me old-fashioned, but I'm waiting until marriage, waiting for Love. True Love. Not the deception of Lust, Love's shadow; she who wanders dingy streets, ambling with outstretched hands, ever-searching for something clean and pure to defile with her filthy hands... Sugar has a substitute: Splenda; glasses have a substitute: contacts; Guitar Hero has a substitute: Rock Band! But when it comes to Love, there is no substitute. So save your lovin’ for the one you really love, the one who you’ll spend the rest of your life with. And hey, no worries!—you’ll have ample time to practice kissing when you have the rest of your life to do so.

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SoulxFinder said...
Dec. 5, 2010 at 7:56 pm


While in some ways I agree, it could be that first kiss that makes you realize who you truly love. You have to connect in different ways to see if you really trust that person enough to go further.
In short : A first kiss could LEAD to marrige... and just because you're married doesn't mean you're in love, even if you loved them on the day of the vows.

Gina M. replied...
Jan. 17, 2011 at 9:38 am
yaa,but i have been ready to kiss him and he has tried to kiss me before but he sorta chickened out he got really mad at himself -i had to reassure him it was ok.
AwaitingRescue replied...
Jan. 18, 2011 at 9:26 pm
Why do you guys make it seem like a kiss with someone who you like is a serious  commitment? It's an experience to learn from.
Lilliterra replied...
Jun. 21, 2011 at 6:52 pm

Yeah but you want it to be perfect, right? So that you can safely think and reminisce about it later and not have to try and push it out of your mind. You want to at least try and make it the person you're gonna be with for the rest of your life, right?

Because no one can truly say their first kiss was wonderful when it belongs to an old boyfriend they've been working to get out of their head for years.

jesus_saves replied...
Jul. 29, 2011 at 12:50 pm

A kiss is a powful thing. Why do you think the cuple kisses in the wedding ceremony? A Kiss is almost as binding and crucial as s-x. Meaning that the importance of staying pure till marriage is so big that we need to really watch it.  If you read Song of Solomon you see the passion that Solomon and his beloved have for one anopther both intellectualy and sexualy. Its because they waited till marriage, and now they are glad that they didn't lay all the cards on the table. 

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AaronLawrence said...
Nov. 30, 2010 at 1:20 pm
Dang-i don't even remember my first. 
mariaa replied...
Dec. 23, 2010 at 9:04 pm
I remember mines, it was behind the gym, with a pushy 10 year old. I WISH I can't remember mines.
Katie S. said...
Oct. 22, 2010 at 3:54 pm
Agreeed, waiting till marriage is the safest, most mature option.
KiKi_2011 replied...
Oct. 27, 2010 at 9:36 am

like i said earlier, some people don't have a choice. they get it taken from them. so does that mean that because it was taken and they didnt get the chance to wait that they should be critized for it?


Katie S. replied...
Oct. 27, 2010 at 4:22 pm
No, thats not what I meant. If someone chooses to wait, but has it taken, then it obviuously isnt there fault and shoudl be treated as though they are still waiting, becasue they are.
jesus_saves replied...
Jul. 29, 2011 at 12:52 pm
You give your first kiss away. If it was taken from you then it wasn't your first kiss, because it wasn't done in love
Taylor.Sangria This work has been published in the Teen Ink monthly print magazine. said...
Sept. 12, 2010 at 10:33 pm
I disagree completely, but I feel this little article  was well-written anyway so you get five stars from me :)
dancerforlifex replied...
Dec. 5, 2010 at 7:35 pm
Me too! Five *s
marissa159ilovetexas replied...
Dec. 5, 2010 at 11:01 pm
yes i had many besos but the guy im with now idk i kiss him and its like being five again when i would eat poprocks and feel the tingle jumps in my mouth but this is a great article
Stormythrone said...
Sept. 8, 2010 at 7:56 am
I felt the same way about this. Although, saddly, I gave mine away. Course you couldnt blame me, I spent two years of my life with the guy and we were already past talking about marriage. But, I dont regret it. I gave it up to my first love, but I do regret he wasnt the one. Anyways! Great job!
KiKi_2011 replied...
Sept. 8, 2010 at 12:11 pm
Some people don't have a choice in the matter...should the same kind of rules and expectations apply to them and myself? the higher expectations are the worse it is when those expectations fall short. 
Stormythrone replied...
Sept. 8, 2010 at 5:53 pm
I agree with yah
seekingFaith said...
Aug. 17, 2010 at 9:24 pm
No longer do I feel alone on that topic... Thank you!!!!
pageturner This work has been published in the Teen Ink monthly print magazine. said...
Aug. 17, 2010 at 5:07 pm
I agree with you on making  sure to wait for someone you love before sex. But I don't really agree with you on waiting till marriage. I'm not saying people should have lots of sex, but how do you know you're really compatible with someone until you really get close to someone?
inkblot13 replied...
Apr. 8, 2011 at 2:39 pm
so by being compatible with someone implies something physical? For example: really great guy/girl, makes you laugh everyday, etc... but a bad kisser. So you'd break up with them because you aren't compatible for each because of that? Anything physical shouldn't have a base in a relationship, that's called lust.
pageturner This work has been published in the Teen Ink monthly print magazine. replied...
Apr. 9, 2011 at 10:55 pm
I'm not saying that. I don"t believe in lust, it's only based on hormones. But if you don't even have passion with someone, with love and trust, then what's the point of staying together when there's no spark
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