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Do you believe in love in high school? Could it possibly exist?

No way, kids don't know what true love is... But, how many people do you know that dated in high school that are currently married and happy? I personally know about 4 couples very very well that are now happy after being high school sweethearts. Did they just like each other as teens and grow to love each other? When did the "like" change to "love?" In college? Age 21? 22?23? Or could they possibly have loved each other all along?

How can you put an age on love?

I, personally, believe in teenage love. I truly think it exists. Adults that did not fall in love till they were, in fact, adults, will most likely dismiss it. However, some - like my mother, for instance - do not dismiss teenage love. Do you?

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NeverSayNever said...
Dec. 21, 2009 at 7:17 pm
I'm young, 14, and I don't know whether or not I believe in teenaged love. But that's because of my personal situation with my ex. We both still have feelings for eachother, even though we've put eachother through hell time and time again. Basically I try and tell myself that it's nothing, that I only like the idea of someone liking me and that's why I have those feelings. But then I see him, and his smile and I can't help but fall for him again and again. My mom isn't much of a romantic, actu... (more »)
Rachel_Beth said...
Dec. 20, 2009 at 3:28 pm
i think teenage love is possible. However only a certain few ever get to experience it. I think this because to truely love someone you have to let your gaurd down and let your insecurities be known and be willing to let your heart get broken. Not many teenagers are mature and strong enough to let this happen. The people who are to weak never got to experience young love, therefore they do no belive it exist ;)
bamboom212 replied...
Dec. 21, 2009 at 7:31 pm
i think it's possible. No one can put an age on love because everyone's different.
If people fall in love, I think you should hold onto it with both hands & not let go.
Many people think that teenage doesn't exist because the word 'love' is thrown around alot at that age. That's true, but I think it's one of the things you have to experience to believe in.
So yes, I believe it exists. :)
D.Force14 replied...
Dec. 21, 2009 at 9:38 pm
I think that it is true if u love that person and they love u and no one can come between u. I believe in teenage love as a matter of fact it is the cutest type of love to me because it is so genuine and true.
AndersN said...
Dec. 18, 2009 at 11:56 pm
I absolutely do believe in true teenage love. It's not like teens don't have the ability to love.
Dating, though, I don't usually think it's true love. Sometimes, like in justinie_the_weenie's case, it could possibly be true love.
At my school, I have a good friend. She's nothing more than a friend. She has had four boyfriends in the past two weeks, and all of them she's claimed she loved the heck out of.
justinie_the_weenie said...
Dec. 18, 2009 at 2:47 am
Thank you. I am 13 and I'm in love with my boyfriend VERY much. I gave up on trusting people and he taught me how to care for someone again. Four months long and going strong <333 We have plans on a REAL wedding and REAL situations. We don't want a fairy tail, just each other. I know it's cheesy sounding, but him and I are ... Perfect for eachother. Teenage love is a BEAUTIFUL thing!
The~crayon~in~my~heart said...
Dec. 17, 2009 at 6:59 pm
You know i suppose teenage love could be real, but how would guys know that- ugh they drive me crazy
Reagan said...
Dec. 14, 2009 at 7:30 pm
Don't forget, love is a verb, not just a noun--and action, not just an emotion. True love is constantly sacrificing and giving of yourself to put the needs and desires of the other person above your own.
BookWorm579 This work has been published in the Teen Ink monthly print magazine. said...
Dec. 13, 2009 at 2:17 pm
Meredith, I agree with you that love is an emotion not defined by age, but I'd like to make a slight critique on the writing of the article. The point where you present the argument against teen love isn't clearly identified as a position you oppose. When I reached your personal opinion I was very confused by what seemed to be a 180-degree change of heart. Just make sure that your opinion is clearer next time.
le_dolly69 said...
Dec. 12, 2009 at 10:50 am
actually i do believe in teenage love...
i mean i have dated several guys and it did not end up well, but just because it isn't going well for me does not mean that other people can fall in love. and tha fact that high school sweethearts sometimes do end up together only proves that teen love is real
lalalalove! said...
Dec. 11, 2009 at 6:21 pm
Thank you for posting this! I am a teenager who is very much in love.. It may seem odd to say since our 2 month anniversary is in 2 days, but My boyfriend and i are very close, and very in love. We have future plans. SERIOUS future plans, not little fantasies. My mother married her high school sweetie.. She went through 2 failed marriages first, but her and my step dad are very happy together. This is actually quite an issue in teens lives. Especially mine because I have been badly hurt, physica... (more »)
mylifeisjustnoise said...
Dec. 11, 2009 at 7:46 am
Why it's true that teenagers can be truly in love, I think the issue people have with it is that teenagers are notoriously bad at identifying their own emotions, and can easily mistake infatuation with love. I'm sure you know/have known teens who are 'madly in love' one week and 'completely over him/her' the next. It's kids like this that adults are thinking of when they give their token 'You're too young for love' speech.
erinzombie said...
Dec. 8, 2009 at 12:52 pm
I think because its your first love it endures. The idea of losing something so important is terrifying and I think that makes young love stronger somehow.
smurfit said...
Dec. 8, 2009 at 12:16 pm
i think there is no age in true love. anyone can be in love in highschool or in middle school. like a friend once told me age does not matter when your in love!<3<3 {cindy was here}
LavenderStone said...
Dec. 8, 2009 at 11:46 am
I think teenage love is real, but doesn't necessarily happen for everyone. I, personally, don't think I'll fall in love now because the guys around me are still growing into their skin. Love takes some level of maturity. Otherwise, it could be mistaken for something else.
cheywan♥♥ said...
Dec. 6, 2009 at 4:57 pm
i think that it is you that decides if its true you subconciously just know from the beginning wether it will last.i believe that true love can be from when your 1 years old to when your 99.
photographer_author_artist_lover replied...
Dec. 7, 2009 at 12:23 pm
i agree. I love my boyfriend, even though I have some people who tell me, "Oh its just a phase, you'll be tired of him in a couple of months." My mom tells me serious relationships at this age are bad, and that I shouldn't have one. But I truly care about im and love him, and that's all that should truly matter.
photographer_author_artist_lover replied...
Dec. 7, 2009 at 12:26 pm
But then again they're may be teens who mistake other feelings for love, and there are others who just love the idea of being in love, rather than actuall love for the person. You just have to think about how you really feel and make sure its love.
loveexists replied...
Dec. 25, 2009 at 7:23 pm
oh my boyfriends parents did this! ive been with him for 3 years .. im currently 16 .. and we broke up twice but realized during those times we had to grow up and now we're happy .. hes a year older than me .. but its awesome .. he got me a promise ring ... and sure sometimes that promise is bbroken but love is real you just gotta believe it is ! :)
Scripted said...
Dec. 3, 2009 at 5:34 pm
I think that to be able to know and feel what love is, goes hand in hand with the level of maturity. I am not dismissing the idea that teens can fall in love, but I am saying that a lot of preteens mix love up with such powerful feelings as lust, infatuation, and obsession. I know many people, I for one, that dated in high school or earlier who thought they were in love. When they finally break up with that person and find someone else they suddenly feel and experience more feelings toward this ... (more »)
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