I refuse to waste my time with stupid, meaningless relationships! No offense to those who do.

July 25, 2009
By Manii123 SILVER, West Paterson, New Jersey
Manii123 SILVER, West Paterson, New Jersey
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Favorite Quote:
"Our love is like the wind. I can't see it, but I feel it." -A Walk To Rememeber


Sometimes I wonder. I wonder if everything always has to end up so morbid. Love, happiness, life...it all ends bad. Love, now that's dangerous. I mean, I've never been in love; I'm only a child, but I've seen what it can do. I've witnessed the magic of it, and the danger of it.


I once herd in a movie that people want to find love because it's the closest thing to magic, but I believe that some people just want to feel whole, and that true love is what they might be missing.

Kids my age get to be reckless, stupid, innocent and irresponsible, but what I don't get, is that they all rush. They through the "L" word around like it's just a suggestion or a stupid word that doesn't mean anything. "OH! I Love my Hubby so much," like, come one! Hubby...what is that? We're kids! We don't have hubbies( husbands)! Why would we want to? We get to be free and love holds you down in so many ways. Love is so powerful, that the word is even powerful.


"Oh babe! I love you so much! we're gonna be together forever!" It makes me sick. What fourteen year old wants to spend the rest of there life with there current partner? I'm sorry if this offends anyone, but most fourteen year old kids don't even stay in a relationship for over a month let alone forever! Also, we're all too selfish anyway, including me.


We get to be selfish. To be in a relationship, you have to put the other person before everyone else...including yourself. That means dedicating all your free time and devoting yourself to your partner. What teenager wants to do that? What teenager ever did do that?


I'm sure they're a few who have, but their future's are so limited. They have to worry about going to college, because they don't want to leave their "hubby" or "wifey" behind, they might not even go to college because they think they'll be together forever, and then a week after rejecting college they brake up and then what? What's in their future then? Working at Walt mart?


Why start something so complicated so early if you have your whole life to experience it, and to experience it right? Relationships are not for kids, and fake relationships are annoying and useless; they have no meaning. I want to go to college, and I want to fall in love, but not anytime soon. I refuse to say, " I love you," when I don't mean it, and I refuse to waste my time with stupid, meaningless relationships.



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on Dec. 25 2010 at 7:28 pm
TheShadowsHaveEyes SILVER, Lansing, Michigan
9 articles 1 photo 13 comments

Favorite Quote:
How much dirt I gotta throw in the ocean to make a new island

 I I agree with this wholeheartedly, I think that throwing love around like it's nothing really kills what it can be. That being said, not all relationships even at young ages are fake.  Also,  I disagree with your thought that if you were in a real relationship where you honestly put your partner in front of yourself, I'm not sure that you have to sacrifice all of your time. Because it wouldn't be a sacrifice. I agree still though, it's much easier to pour your life into your friends and activities, and not have the stress of handling a relationship on top of it. Well written, excellent job,

God bless,

 TSHE


crazo SILVER said...
on Dec. 14 2010 at 1:00 pm
crazo SILVER, Deer Island, Oregon
5 articles 0 photos 6 comments

Favorite Quote:
"Father to daughter Heart to Heart
No Matter were we are we are never apart" my dad made that for me when i was little=) its not really true though

there is no point in love all it dose is hurt u and nomadder what u do it will ALWAYS hurt uu eventualy weather u cant live with out or something happens and u too just fall apart i know what love is and im only 14 but still it is stupid over rated and shouldnt matter!!!!!!

on Dec. 14 2010 at 12:55 am
xxhannahbluexx BRONZE, Applegate, California
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Favorite Quote:
"People seem not to see that their opinion of the world is also a confession of their character." -Ralph Waldo Emerson

I'm only fourteen (going on fifteen and a half... driver's permit here I come!) and I know what you mean.

It used to bug me immensely when my friends and their boyfriends/girlfriends started with the whole, "Babe, I love you so much."

At first it was irritating. I mean, were fourteen! Our hormones are riquocheting all over the place; we don't know what love is!

But I realized... there's many various shades of love. Though I don't agree in saying, "I love you." within the first week of being together, I do believe that at this age we have the ability to know what love is. It's just a different kind of love.

Marriage revolves around love, yes, but a different sort of love. This is a very, deeply commited love that you know is forever and ever.

But at this age... what's not to love about love? We've all fallen in love at one point or another. At this age, you just get that feeling of pure happiness, that feeling of kinship and newfound joy.

It's a stage that everyone goes through, and I don't think it's something that we should avoid.

Everyone deserves to fall in love at one point, no matter what age.


on Nov. 27 2010 at 4:49 pm
nolongerinuse SILVER, San Antonio, Texas
8 articles 0 photos 60 comments

Favorite Quote:
“Love has no desire but to fulfill itself. To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night. To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving.” - Kahlil Gibran

Clearly you ARE just a kid, maturity wise. I'm fourteen, and have loved the same person for over a year now, and wish I could dedicate my entire life to him. I cannot begin to describe it, but it is anything but stupid and meaningless. It's the best part of my life. Maybe one day you'll know what love really means, and that it's available to everyone, should they desire it.

jkjk123 said...
on Nov. 22 2010 at 4:50 pm
jkjk123, New York, New York
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Favorite Quote:
yesterday is history tomorrow is a mystery
today is a gift and that is why it is called the present




- Alice Earle

i dont hear hubby either or wifey i hear omg thats my boyfriend or my girlfriend

i also hear ya we r dating or going out so it really depends on how far along in the relantionship u r but we r kids we can be far in a relationship but we will never be married for a LONG LONG LONG time


jkjk123 said...
on Nov. 22 2010 at 4:45 pm
jkjk123, New York, New York
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Favorite Quote:
yesterday is history tomorrow is a mystery
today is a gift and that is why it is called the present




- Alice Earle

really?!?! u may choose the bf/gf over your friends and i can respect that but if ur friend doesnt like ur bf/gf thats something to think about. yes ur friends have to get used to ur bf/gf but u should also think about your friends

 

friends are like stars

u might not always see them but u know they r there

 

a bf/gf is like the moon seen when u unexpect it

or when u dont want to see it


jkjk123 said...
on Nov. 22 2010 at 4:39 pm
jkjk123, New York, New York
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Favorite Quote:
yesterday is history tomorrow is a mystery
today is a gift and that is why it is called the present




- Alice Earle

love is also knowing u dont want to leave said person.

but there are 2 different kinds of love

 

 

 

there is the love like when a parent loves u

 

 

then there is love like when ur in a relationship and u fell that this person u r with is the right one

 

 

-jkjk123


jkjk123 said...
on Nov. 22 2010 at 4:34 pm
jkjk123, New York, New York
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Favorite Quote:
yesterday is history tomorrow is a mystery
today is a gift and that is why it is called the present




- Alice Earle

thats true

people say "omg i LOVE him" they mean " omg i REALLY LIKE him" or "omg i think he is A NICE GUY"

 

 

people also overuse hot

they would say " oh he is hot"

 

but they mean " oh i think he is attractive but odds are i wont date him"

 

but if a couple is like 15 or 16 they truly dont know what LOVE or HOT

 

 

 

people wreck lives for a couple but they dont know what they are getting themselves into

 

im young i still have a long way to go but there is danger in LOVE 

 

read between these lines of LOVE

 

 

 

L da O ng V er E!!

 


on Nov. 5 2010 at 12:27 pm
Chitra.I PLATINUM, Dubai, Other
44 articles 2 photos 131 comments

Favorite Quote:
Everything makes sense if you think too much about it.

Thanks....for that. I know that love is rarely what it seems to be. And as for your case...I don't really know how that went, but I do know that letting go is the best thing in my case too.

Thanks again. =)


on Nov. 3 2010 at 9:06 pm
jesus_saves GOLD, San Antonio, Texas
10 articles 2 photos 57 comments

Favorite Quote:
You know somethings wrong when you can't share your thoughts with your self.
-Sadie P. Jackson

i can respect that, and I am not trying to put you down but love isn't what it seems.  I thought I loved a guy and then let him go and weel, our relationship has improved!! Well, gtg and I don't want to codem you becasue you may very well be in love!

your frind

phoenix


on Nov. 3 2010 at 12:33 pm
Chitra.I PLATINUM, Dubai, Other
44 articles 2 photos 131 comments

Favorite Quote:
Everything makes sense if you think too much about it.

Oh, and, I know that it's not just about physical desires or feeling special. That's what I meant by I don't WANT the person.

on Nov. 3 2010 at 12:32 pm
Chitra.I PLATINUM, Dubai, Other
44 articles 2 photos 131 comments

Favorite Quote:
Everything makes sense if you think too much about it.

Is that the only thing that qualifies if what I feel is true? Because the answer is a resounding yes.

My God, I wish.


donna BRONZE said...
on Nov. 2 2010 at 7:17 pm
donna BRONZE, Thornwood, New York
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Favorite Quote:
-Some say holding on is what makes us strong. Sometimes, it takes more strength to let go and move on.
-Don't go where the path may lead; go instead were there is no path and leave a trail behind you.

i agree in one aspect. i think that if you're married and have childen, than you put your family before yourself. but if you're still in the bf/gf stage you deserve some time to yourself.

also, LOVE  is a very overused word that is taken too lightly. people don't realize the seriousness of what love actually is and think they are in love and end up making terrible mistakes.


bea =] said...
on Oct. 15 2010 at 2:26 pm

"To be in a relationship, you have to put the other person before everyone else...including youself.That means dedicating all your free time and devoting yourself to your partner."

ok sorry to say but i strongly disagree with this quote.. ok people arent getting married first of all you're making it seem that they have to be with that person for the rest of their life. its not that way at all... being in a relationship doesnt have to be just about that person either.. boring!.. A real meaningful couple wouldnt hold one another back from going to college and accomplishing their goals.. a bf/gf is there to support and give you that little push to succeed. And if thats not the case then hey maybe you really arent ready for a relationship.. but dating should be during your high school years not anything serious or anything but just there for fun.. i mean if you dont like to have a companion thats on you but some maybe find their true love.


on Oct. 15 2010 at 2:12 pm
Everything you wrote about is what I always tell myself and many of my close friends. When it comes to love, it is something I never take likely. I guess it is because I do not (well not really) believe in love. I think it is because I have yet to find someone who deserves the best of me.

Miley Cyrus said...
on Oct. 11 2010 at 4:48 pm

I completly understand this. I mean, I am 17 now and I have NEVER had a boyfriend..and never even loved anyone. I mean, I do have crushes but i dont want to be that person. I just like them until it fades.

I hate all the mushy and cheesy talks and it bugs me when i see 12 year olds telling me that they are MADLY in love. i mean, come on..have you got nothing better to do? Breaking up because he didnt make you a bloody card on your birthday or gift you your favorite crayons!

I obviously want to fall in love. I want to experience how it is but now, seems too close..or too scary perhaps. I cant let anyone hold me down and tell me what to do..what to wear.

I dont want to get into a fake relationship, get cheated and then fear to fall in love ever again all my life.

Though sometimes, seeing my friends i wish there was someone who kept calling me just to say he cares but then i have friends who call me at 4 in the night to help me with my homework indirectly showing me how much they care and meaning it too.

Life is like that. You gotta live in the moment :)


on Oct. 9 2010 at 5:29 pm
jesus_saves GOLD, San Antonio, Texas
10 articles 2 photos 57 comments

Favorite Quote:
You know somethings wrong when you can't share your thoughts with your self.
-Sadie P. Jackson

DreamingOutLoud-

Love is more amazing than you could ask or imagine. Love isn't finding someone to talk about, satisfy your physical desires or make you feel special. Love isn't fitting in or feeling something for a person.

In Genesis, when God created Adam and Eve he loved them. He intended for them to live forever with him in perfect harmony because his love would last longer than eternity. Of course, Adam and Eve made a terrible mistake and though they didn't lose Gods everlasting Love. They lost the intimacy with him.

So when God first designed love he made it so it was forever, something that went beyond death and sins. That conquered everything.

I am not denying that you are in love because this love may very well be forever.  But i hope that you'll realize the quantity of true everlasting love.

I have never been in love-I always thought I was until I stopped and realized how i really wasn't.

I am not condemning you or what you call love. Think about this, would you marry the person you are in love with?

Thnx

Syd


wiinga BRONZE said...
on Sep. 18 2010 at 12:19 am
wiinga BRONZE, Kwigillingok, Alaska
3 articles 0 photos 20 comments

Favorite Quote:
Never give up, no matter what you go through.-Anonymous

not we my age..lol..*were* ....some keys on my keyboard are broken..gota press em hard.lol

wiinga BRONZE said...
on Sep. 18 2010 at 12:09 am
wiinga BRONZE, Kwigillingok, Alaska
3 articles 0 photos 20 comments

Favorite Quote:
Never give up, no matter what you go through.-Anonymous

i totally know what u girls mean..i mean i just turned 20...so i hope u dont mind me replying to this... imean i just turned 20 and i got my teenink account when i was a teenager.lol...so i hope i can still reply to this....well anyways..i totally get annoyed of all the 11-15 year olds here all saying they are inlove!and they actually fight over this one guy!! like omg!when i was that age..i just didnt care what ppl think....i mean like..all the kids that we my age when i was around that age all had like boyfriends..and i didnt..i just didnt want to!they would say they are in love..and now i look at them...and like think OMG I THOUGHT THEY ALWAYS SAID THEY ARE IN LOVE..and now that they are "adults" they are like...not with them..argh..it just gets so annoying when 11-14 year olds..or more like 11-15 year olds say they are in love...well..i am now....i have been since i was 18...and i now know what REAL love is..im so glad i waited to fall in love...in my opinion..it was much better to wait to start datin and fall in love as an older teenager..

7Ariel7 BRONZE said...
on Sep. 17 2010 at 3:47 pm
7Ariel7 BRONZE, Plymouth, Massachusetts
3 articles 0 photos 36 comments

Favorite Quote:
All it takes for evil to triumph is for good men to do nothing.

also you can learn from the experience of others. bc sooo many other people are screwing up thier own lives with relationships too young. we are too young to even comprehend the sacrifice and all other aspects that come with love...


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