I refuse to waste my time with stupid, meaningless relationships! No offense to those who do.

July 25, 2009
Custom User Avatar
More by this author
Sometimes I wonder. I wonder if everything always has to end up so morbid. Love, happiness, life...it all ends bad. Love, now that's dangerous. I mean, I've never been in love; I'm only a child, but I've seen what it can do. I've witnessed the magic of it, and the danger of it.

I once herd in a movie that people want to find love because it's the closest thing to magic, but I believe that some people just want to feel whole, and that true love is what they might be missing.

Kids my age get to be reckless, stupid, innocent and irresponsible, but what I don't get, is that they all rush. They through the "L" word around like it's just a suggestion or a stupid word that doesn't mean anything. "OH! I Love my Hubby so much," like, come one! Hubby...what is that? We're kids! We don't have hubbies( husbands)! Why would we want to? We get to be free and love holds you down in so many ways. Love is so powerful, that the word is even powerful.

"Oh babe! I love you so much! we're gonna be together forever!" It makes me sick. What fourteen year old wants to spend the rest of there life with there current partner? I'm sorry if this offends anyone, but most fourteen year old kids don't even stay in a relationship for over a month let alone forever! Also, we're all too selfish anyway, including me.

We get to be selfish. To be in a relationship, you have to put the other person before everyone else...including yourself. That means dedicating all your free time and devoting yourself to your partner. What teenager wants to do that? What teenager ever did do that?

I'm sure they're a few who have, but their future's are so limited. They have to worry about going to college, because they don't want to leave their "hubby" or "wifey" behind, they might not even go to college because they think they'll be together forever, and then a week after rejecting college they brake up and then what? What's in their future then? Working at Walt mart?

Why start something so complicated so early if you have your whole life to experience it, and to experience it right? Relationships are not for kids, and fake relationships are annoying and useless; they have no meaning. I want to go to college, and I want to fall in love, but not anytime soon. I refuse to say, " I love you," when I don't mean it, and I refuse to waste my time with stupid, meaningless relationships.

Join the Discussion

This article has 102 comments. Post your own now!

I dunno...meh said...
Nov. 19, 2011 at 9:10 am
I'm a teen and I agreed with everything. I refuse to date this young (about to turn 14) because relationships at our age never seem to last. So what's the point? Out of all of the teen relationships I've seen, not one has lasted more than a few months. I've got better things to do. I really don't EVER want to date. People.my age have told me stuff like "Oh, you'll change your mind!" "You'll be the first one to end up married with kids!" Yeah, no. Not trying to offend any teens that do, this is j... (more »)
_SusanDenise said...
Nov. 12, 2011 at 9:26 pm
This is so true! We are so young with great futures ahead of us! Love never needs to be rushed.  We have plenty of time for that, so let's take our time.  When we truly love and honor ourselves, real love will find us. In the mean time, we should focus on our future, schoolwork, and enjoying the perks of being teenagers.
Ps'Monet said...
Sept. 26, 2011 at 10:06 am
I Lovee This Articlee It Is So Truee. And Ii Hope To See More Like This Because The First Sentence Caught Myy Attention
Ashleymar Zayas said...
Sept. 16, 2011 at 8:55 am
LovelyNotes said...
Sept. 4, 2011 at 11:42 pm
I agree. I don't believe in it all-it does always end bad. Either a break up or death. They're both goodbyes.
vero1432224 said...
Jun. 8, 2011 at 2:19 pm
i know that this is rael and that it happens to a lot of people
ashley1012 said...
May 5, 2011 at 10:41 am
i so agree with this article i think it is so true
coldfish said...
Apr. 26, 2011 at 11:25 am
this made my day. it's nice to see mature and logical people for a change.
SaMiLoVe97 This work has been published in the Teen Ink monthly print magazine. said...
Apr. 25, 2011 at 10:02 am
I completely agree with everything you said. And this peice is amazing. But. You would understand much better if you have experienced love. Love is happiness. Love is perfection. Love is beyond amazing. Im in love. Ive been with him for about 6 months and i wouldnt trade it for the world. Yeah i probably sound retarted but its the greatest good ever. and no one can say much about anything unless theyve been there
Aliescha said...
Apr. 3, 2011 at 12:11 pm
I agree with you love does end badly most of the time. I also hate it how teens are throwing around the Love word, it's like come on your in high school chances are you will break up. Yes love is stupid, but I also believe some people will find love forever.
Lenah said...
Mar. 12, 2011 at 11:10 pm
i'm 14. i believe love is really what makes the world go round, but it's annoying when i hear about kids my age 'dating' and they can't even drive. it's like, "my mom is going to drive us to the movies, okay?" pathetic. not many people take love seriously, though, and that's what bugs me too. my definition for true love is that you can be around the person without feeling as though you need to impress them, and still be happy. 
C.Cee replied...
Apr. 2, 2011 at 4:00 pm

You are 14! What do you know about life or love? Other than waking up, school, and sleep. Don't attempt to preach life lesson until you can at least be independent. You only learn through experience which you haven't had any. 


To the original poster (xoxbabygirl123):

Hey, have you ever thought about proofreading before publishing? Your grammar errors are so painfully apparent it completely distracts from the entire concept of the article.

ilovedayna replied...
Apr. 5, 2011 at 7:52 pm
surprisingly, i have had experience with love (strangely, me being such a little tyke- mockingly said), not with dating or any of that nonsense but through my feelings of dedication towards another person. i know, honestly, what love is. i have had a lot more experience with life than you would think. as i stated clearly before, you don't know me. and if you do, you are being extremely wacko. but you can't disagree with my "life lesson" though, right?
ilovedayna replied...
Apr. 5, 2011 at 8:09 pm
I know i love someone when i feel it. love isn't all that complicated. sorry if it's hard for you to grasp that a fourteen year old would understand love. i guess that i must be wise beyond my years. you can't argue with my "life lesson" though, right?
DifferentTeen said...
Jan. 27, 2011 at 12:33 pm

I've never really agreed that kids don't know what love truely means. Well, some do anyway. I think to love someone means that there is a person you care deeply for, someone that you want to protect, and keep them safe. To love means to want to spend the rest of your life with someone because you couldn't live without them.

And thats where I think you're right. Most kids don't want to get married these days, they don't want to have a life with someone and have kids. Because they d... (more »)

wannabeaphotogirl said...
Jan. 5, 2011 at 4:01 pm
i agree with you. ive been with my boyfriend since i was 14, im now 16. i love him. and we've been through just as many challenges as some adults. we are admired by adults, especially in the school.
TheShadowsHaveEyes said...
Dec. 25, 2010 at 7:28 pm

 I I agree with this wholeheartedly, I think that throwing love around like it's nothing really kills what it can be. That being said, not all relationships even at young ages are fake.  Also,  I disagree with your thought that if you were in a real relationship where you honestly put your partner in front of yourself, I'm not sure that you have to sacrifice all of your time. Because it wouldn't be a sacrifice. I agree still though, it's much easier to pour your life into your ... (more »)

xxhannahbluexx said...
Dec. 14, 2010 at 12:55 am

I'm only fourteen (going on fifteen and a half... driver's permit here I come!) and I know what you mean.

It used to bug me immensely when my friends and their boyfriends/girlfriends started with the whole, "Babe, I love you so much."

At first it was irritating. I mean, were fourteen! Our hormones are riquocheting all over the place; we don't know what love is!

But I realized... there's many various shades of love. Though I don't agree in saying, "I love you." within the ... (more »)

MangoMadness said...
Nov. 27, 2010 at 4:49 pm
Clearly you ARE just a kid, maturity wise. I'm fourteen, and have loved the same person for over a year now, and wish I could dedicate my entire life to him. I cannot begin to describe it, but it is anything but stupid and meaningless. It's the best part of my life. Maybe one day you'll know what love really means, and that it's available to everyone, should they desire it.
FireandWater This work has been published in the Teen Ink monthly print magazine. replied...
Jan. 14, 2011 at 8:59 pm

at 14, i thought i loved someone too.  he was perfect, amazing, and shared all my beliefs and values and i'd known him forever.  

i'm 17 now, and know a whole lot better.  i didn't know what being "in love" meant!  i had a major crush, obviously, but at 14, our emotions are so hyped up that we can't rely on them.  it will just end of hurting your heart in the end.  

i don't mean to offend, but just think about it.  thanks.

bRealTime banner ad on the left side
Site Feedback