Do We Have The Right To Happiness?!

November 18, 2010
By , Lincoln, NE
What's one problem that you can think of that isn't as serious as all the others us Americans are facing, but is still fought just as hard? No, I'm not racist and I'm not referring to the Mexican-Texas border that we for some reason thinks needs to be even tighter. I'm talking about gay rights. It is almost ridiculous how important such a trivial issue is to people that are "straight". We have bigger fish to fry and leaner meats to shake-n-bake, yet this "problem" is still being fought like some sort of brutal war, but this war has more layers than some.

Yes, there are people that don't believe that gays should be allowed to get married. There are even people that say that we should wipe out the gays, bi-sexuals, and lesbians, but what have they, or more correctly put we, ever done to those people fighting us. Yes, I'm seventeen and I'm bi-sexual. Some people think that my sexual preference is what makes me say, "Just let them [gays] have some peace and happiness." That is not why I'm saying this though. I'm saying it because I have seen and felt the struggle from the other side of the looking glass. The gay side.

My sexual preference has been a struggle for me since the second grade. Should you believe this? Well, that is your choice, but I believe that many people would be surprised to find out how young people are when they realize that they are attracted to the same sex, or both. Now, a few people may be wondering why I'd want to be what I am if it is a struggle. The answer is simple. Deep down, I know that I am attracted to both sexes, that is what truly makes me happy, but the struggle comes from the homophobes that I deal with from a day-to-day basis. Since I am bi, I do not have as many hardships and sad songs to sing as those that prefer only the same sex, but what I have been through has marked me just the same.

For example, my freshman year in high school. The most exciting and invigorating school year I've ever lived through is also one of the most mind-stimulating years. That year, I learned to become open. I made friends with others that were like me and we soon became close. We were our own little group of misfit brothers and sisters. They helped me open up and we helped each other through tough times. If it wasn't for them, I would have been too scared to celebrate the annual Day of Silence. That day I wore rainbow stockings and anything else that was rainbow that was hanging up in my closet. I wore my colors with pride as if I was a cheerleader on a game day. That Day of Silence was enjoyable. I was proud and happy. The only problem I had that day was a debate having to do with gays that caused me to break my silence, but even then I was proud to stand up for myself and my gay friends.

The next year's Day of Silence was a whole other story. I, of course, dressed in my colors again and held my head up high. In fact, I held my head up so high that a class mate decided to throw a rock at my head during P.E while me and a bi-sexual friend of mine were walking around the school's tennis courts, minding our own, happy business. That's right! I had a rock thrown at me because I was wearing rainbows!

Things only got worse. That same day I had to listen to people saying that gays didn't deserve a day. Apparently we haven't done anything spectacular enough to deserve a day. To put it into the words of one of my close-minded classmates, "The Mexicans don't even have a day! Why the heck do the gays get one? They haven't earned it." This remark saddens me. We don't want a Day of Silence. We don't want to mourn the deaths and suicides caused by gay hate crimes. Why does anybody think that we WANT to have a day where we show our true colors just to get attacked, beaten, or bullied. We may be different sexually, but our veins and blood all work with the same hearts and minds. We hurt to! So why bother hurting us more on such a sad day?

Why is this day sad? It is sad because we have to think about why we do it. We have a Day of Silence in honor of those that are gay or transexual that have been beaten, bullied, or discriminated against. Just look into it. You would be amazed at what you find when you open your eyes to the things people say and do to those that are different.

Have a heart and just treat people that are different with respect. You don't have to like it, but don't treat them like they are bad people. Give them a chance.

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Weston H. said...
Jan. 10, 2011 at 9:36 pm
I'm not even trying to suggest any of that. If you don't want encouragement then I won't give any. Are u sure I am trying to force my religion on you or are you just hating me for my beleif. Would you still hate me if I was atheist and trying to encourage you?
Weston H. said...
Jan. 7, 2011 at 4:01 pm
Oh and I forgot to mention the fact that you do have a right to happiness. You just can't let people take that away from you. Its yours to have.
Weston H. said...
Jan. 7, 2011 at 4:00 pm
The older you get the more you will come to realize that people don't care what you are. Some will waste their time hating, but there comes a point when you no longer care what people think and people will no longer care. God loves you. Don't be afraid to have faith even though you are what you are right now. Do whats right and look for gods will.
CharleeVan replied...
Jan. 9, 2011 at 6:36 pm

Okay, please don't be offended, but don't preach or try to feel like you are somehow wiser than me. This is just an article. Okay? I don't care what people think! If I did I'd still be living with my mother. One thing I can assure you is that I know a lot more about all of this and not caring about what people think than you do. Alright? Don't think that you know me because you read my article.

Second. In my book, there is no god. There is faith in what is real and yourself.

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Weston H. replied...
Jan. 10, 2011 at 12:58 am
I don't know you and I don't feel like anything I expressed above should have appeared like I did. I only meant to try and encourage you, not to make you upset. I have faith in God and even if you don't I still pray he truly blesses you.
CharleeVan replied...
Jan. 10, 2011 at 3:10 pm

I don't need your encouragement. As I am sure I've said before, I am not having any problems. The article was just to make a point. It was to help people see what's going on, not to talk about non-existing problems

And you really do need to stop trying to force your beliefs onto other people. Don't pray for me, don't tell me I need to have faith in god. Don't say any of that. Okay?

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