Cambio Network
Magazine, website & books written by teens since 1989

When I Grow Up Magazine

In kindergarten, my class was asked, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” Crayons danced across sheets of ­paper to illustrate our dream occupations. Our drawings were hung in the hallway for our parents to see at Back to School Night. I remember looking down the line and seeing pictures of ballerinas dancing, firefighters putting out a blaze, and astronauts leaping across the moon – careers that were seen as typical dreams of five-year-olds.

My picture showed a stick figure with brown hair holding a carton of orange juice over a large rectangle that was supposed to be a counter. Underneath was my barely legible handwriting: “When I grow up, I want to work at the Market Basket because it would be fun to swipe orange juice across the scanner.” To this day my parents won’t let me forget that out of everything I could have aspired to be, my five-year-old self wished to work at the local grocery store.

When we are young, questions of what we want to be when we grow up are common. Yet we are not expected to respond with an answer that is likely to come true. However, when we become teens, we are asked the very same question twice as often. The difference is, now we are supposed to ­answer with confidence.

Teens are expected to know exactly what we want to be and how we are going to achieve that goal. Not all of us can be so sure. Even though I am in high school, I ­cannot answer convincingly. But I don’t ­consider that a bad thing. How am I supposed to know what I will want to spend my time doing at age 40?

When I think about the future, I definitely don’t see myself working at the Market ­Basket, but in reality, if that was what would make me happy, I would do it. So, the next time someone asks me what I want to be when I grow up, I will simply say “happy.”

Happiness is a destination for everyone. We may want to walk different paths in life, but we all want to be happy wherever we end up. Choose your path, but don’t worry too much about choosing wisely. Make a ­mistake or two and try new things. But ­always remember, if you’re not happy, you’re not at the end of your journey yet.

Magazine This piece has been published in Teen Ink’s monthly print magazine.




You might be interested in this content from TeenSpot:


Join the Discussion


This article has 145 comments. Post your own!

bennyBVIP said...
Jan. 17 at 1:58 pm:

I understand what what the writer is going though and I feel the same way

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
SingingIsMyLife said...
Jan. 13 at 6:20 pm:

some things that will look good on a college application: -R.O.G.A.T.E. -volunteer work -Girl scouts/boy scouts -having a job or work experience Do something good for society on Martin Luther King Jr. day!

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
purpleyobes said...
Jan. 13 at 7:17 am:

I disagree with you by high school you should know what your doing in life. The comment made by Kiersten H. Is a good way to get back on track. Do what the comment says and you should find your way. So like Kiersten H. said good luck honey your gonna need some.

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
Kiersten H. said...
Jan. 13 at 7:14 am:

I disagree with you. By your age, in high school, you should know what you want to do for a living. Im in 8th grade and i already know what i want to do and what college i want to go to. Im already completing projects that will look very impressive on a college application. Also i already have high school credits in middle school. You need to think about your future and plan ahead or else you will ruin your life. Good luck honey, your gonna need some.

 
bennyBVIP replied...
Jan. 17 at 1:57 pm :

I am going to have to disagree with you becasue I am now in the 11th grade and I still do nto know what I want to do

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
WarriorGirl17 said...
Jan. 11 at 8:11 pm:

I can really relate to this article! There has been so many times when people ask me what I want to do for a career when I grow up. It seems like an easy question to answer, but it really takes some contemplating. I think that when I get to high school I will be able to come up with a better answer to that question, because I will have more knowledge to back it up. Nicely written! :)

 
contemplatorVIP replied...
Feb. 2 at 4:58 pm :

To often have I been asked that question. But nobody expected me to know the answer. Only Dad expected an answer. So, I gave him a list of things I don't want to be.

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
emma_rogate14 said...
Jan. 11 at 7:28 am:

I agree with you! I've never had one thing I've wanted to be because I have no idea! But it doesn't matter what job you want to have though, you just need to be happy with your life.

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
teenink987654321 said...
Jan. 11 at 7:19 am:

I think that you were so right! People spend so much time stressing on what they want to be and to make sure its a good plan, but they need to realize that what they are really reaching for is happiness. Children are pressured to be a certain thing but then end up dropping out of college because they hate their jod or profession that much. I love your post!

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
ZeenatRogate said...
Jan. 11 at 7:15 am:

I agree, I wanted to be a Pop Star when I grew up but now I want to be something more within reach but I think that I think about it, I think I should wait.

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
FIDDLESTIXS said...
Jan. 11 at 7:12 am:

I agree. If you are happy you can accomplish anything. I love your childhood story. JUst keep being happy and you will be anything you want to be

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
Balletgirl6 said...
Jan. 11 at 7:08 am:

I completely agree with you! The sad thing, however, is that when people now ask me what I want to be when I grow up, as a teenager, I'm expected to respond with a boring proffession, and a logical plan. Society expects younger children to dream, but scolds teenagers who have a dream. More than half of us won't become what we expected, so why not dream?!?!

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
K-Berg13 said...
Jan. 11 at 7:06 am:

I thought your child hood story was hilarious, i also think your absolutly right about happiness. Happiness can get you anywhere.

 
nickknackpattywack replied...
Jan. 11 at 7:12 am :

i believe that you are completelyright happiness is the way to go

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
Samantha H. said...
Jan. 11 at 7:04 am:

Exactly. I wanted to be a singer when I was little and after almost 10 years of lessons I don't want to do it anymore and I don't need my parents pressuring me to stick with it so I don't give up my dream

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
screename4 said...
Jan. 11 at 6:39 am:

i totally agree. I know people who feel the same way. This was really cool.

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
linkinparkrcks said...
Dec. 16, 2011 at 11:00 pm:

<3 da quote....! =)

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
Book_addictVIP said...
Dec. 8, 2011 at 9:25 pm:

Cool thoughts!  I think this is the sentiment that 99.9% of us feel.  You put it together fabulously =)

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
Nora2012VIP said...
Dec. 3, 2011 at 10:32 pm:

I feel the same way sometimes and my sis wanted to be a garbage woman :D i feel like you sprung the cheesy cliche "be happy" trap. i love the meaning and the unique story but try turning the meaning less common

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
SkittleCookies said...
Nov. 29, 2011 at 1:08 pm:

Hahaha! Thats what my little sis wants to be! :P

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
Hobbit@HeartVIP said...
Nov. 17, 2011 at 2:23 pm:

Great piece!  I know I want to write when I grow up, but when and where; I just don't know...

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
TwinklingTrinket said...
Nov. 17, 2011 at 12:34 pm:

"When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down 'happy'. They told me I didn't understand the assignment, and I told them they didn't understand life."

 
AspiringauhorVIP replied...
Dec. 3, 2011 at 6:57 pm :

John Lennon. I love that quote.

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
kairi.kaylynVIP said...
Nov. 17, 2011 at 10:09 am:

It's true. We have to choose to make up our mind but who knows? Maybe our minds aren't made up. I wrote a forum "What does it mean to live?" and that kind of shapes into your article.

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
Madeleine J. said...
Oct. 26, 2011 at 3:24 pm:

Very well done! You worked the narrative into the story well, it flowed, and was so true. Thanks for sharing your work!

 
ErecuraVIP replied...
Oct. 26, 2011 at 7:17 pm :

Wow, i liked this. I have absolutely no idea what i want to be. i have wanted to be a veterinarian for ages, but now i dont know...

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
JillianNoraVIP said...
Oct. 26, 2011 at 7:59 am:

I remember wanting to be a ballerina astronaut:) beautiful piece. Great job!

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
MoonFireVIP said...
Oct. 26, 2011 at 7:35 am:

i have wanted to be a cop for most of my life but now i have no idea. all i know is i want a family. maybe a writer, a nurse, or even an artist. we still have time to make up our minds.

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
Montserrat.Alvarenga said...
Oct. 9, 2011 at 4:33 pm:

The essay flowed well in terms of ideas. The story at the begging not only made the story relatable but was the perfect introduction to her essay. Also, the topic she was writing about is something all teenagers are worried about. We are always being bombarded with the thought of growing up and the monumental decision we must make of what we will do once we are adults. I have had a lot of trouble deciding this myself but reading this has made me realize that I am not alone.

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
lzcelloplayerVIP said...
Oct. 9, 2011 at 3:11 pm:

I'm really happy that you wrote this. This makes me feel like it's okay to not know who you will want to be when you grow up yet. I still don't know. And I think it's also just about finding who you are, as you grow up. 

Congrats on getting it in the magazine! 

:D

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
BeatleMania16 said...
Sept. 14, 2011 at 8:28 pm:

i said i wanted to be a mommy

great writing!!

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
Rina-with-a-kVIP said...
Sept. 14, 2011 at 6:40 pm:

It's like a John Lennon qoute: 

When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down ‘happy.’ They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life.

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
porybowsVIP said...
Sept. 14, 2011 at 4:34 pm:

I wanted to be a bunny.

.___.

Nicely done.

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
AddieDayVIP said...
Sept. 12, 2011 at 9:00 pm:

I love the way you capture the idea that it's ok to change your life's dreams--and how ridiculously we answered when we were little. When I was four, my cousin, whom I loved and tried to copy in all things, was in elementary school. My life's amibition was to go to elementary school myself. My parents will never stop teasing me, saying that I have already reached my life's goals. So yeah, we're all a little crazy at that age!

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
CupcakeSaffyVIP said...
Sept. 12, 2011 at 2:46 pm:

This was a brilliant piece. To my shame, my answer was much worse than yours. I was four, and I said I wanted to be an alien. No joke... And now, when I say I want to be a writer, people look at me as if that is just as ridiculous. It's awful being asked that question, "what do you want to be when you grow up?". I like and completely agree with your answer.

 
soldoutVIP replied...
Sept. 14, 2011 at 4:29 pm :

That IS funny, bt don't feel bad. You're allowed to be wacky when you're little, it's practically a law! So, ok, the author of this piece? You're right! It's crazy that you wanted to work in a grocery store, and that as you get older there is more pressure on exactly what our life ambitions are. Some people have dreams from the beginning of their lives, others like you and me are still thinking about it. You're not alone in this, I can tell u that!

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
JusticeLibertyVIP said...
Aug. 21, 2011 at 1:31 pm:

I love this article! It really captures how you feel... and how a lot of teens out there feel as well! The last two paragraphs were so strong and so inspiring! Keep up the good work!

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
jesus_savesVIP said...
Aug. 21, 2011 at 10:50 am:

I like your article and I like where you were going. But the last 2 paragraphs cauhgt me off guard.  Do you think that life is all about being Happ?

 
Clear_SkiesVIP replied...
Aug. 21, 2011 at 11:59 am :

Well, what's the point of life if you don't enjoy it? Why live when all you are going to do is try to be successful?

 
Sara D. replied...
Aug. 21, 2011 at 12:15 pm :

That was exactly the point I was trying to get across! Everyone wants happiness and success does not always give that to us.

 
jesus_savesVIP replied...
Aug. 21, 2011 at 2:20 pm :

Yes. I see what you mean, but don't you think the point of life is to live for Gods Glory?  Lets say I would be succsess ful if I corked for Coca Cola, but I really want to work for sonic cause it make me happy, but Jesus wants me to work at Target. I would work for Target because its what Jesus wants me to do.

 
Sara D. replied...
Aug. 23, 2011 at 3:54 pm :

Some people wouldn't agree with your views on God, or even the existence of a God, so that's up to each individual person.

 
Luz64 replied...
Sept. 14, 2011 at 3:44 pm :

Isn't God all about love and being happy? God wants us to be happy. He would want you to do the thing that makes you happy. Just saying. :)

 
teeninkwasspilledhere replied...
Sept. 14, 2011 at 6:33 pm :

Just to settle the argument right here, I think you all have different versions of what the word "happiness" means, and that's wonderful. Happiness is different for every person. The religious one becomes happy by doing jesus's will, which is great for him/her. The atheist has something else to bring him/her satisfaction...To each his own- different streaks for different freaks :)

 
jesus_savesVIP replied...
Sept. 14, 2011 at 10:05 pm :

But the deal is even thouhg both belive that they are experiencing "happiness" only one is truly experiencing pure Joy. And that is the one thatfeels jesus casue with out jesus then no one can truly b joyful.

 
teeninkwasspilledhere replied...
Sept. 15, 2011 at 3:59 pm :

Ok, Ok. So you're experiencing true joy. enJOY it.

The other people are experiencing "happiness" but they are ignorant of the TRUE JOy. Well, ignorance is bliss. Let them enjoy their bliss and enjoy your joy.

And I'll enjoy mine. THE END.

 
jesus_savesVIP replied...
Sept. 15, 2011 at 5:04 pm :

i guess. *sigh* but it makes me sad to know that others are ignorant of the elation i am feeling...

 
teeninkwasspilledhere replied...
Sept. 15, 2011 at 7:03 pm :

Oh. That's pretty cool, that you can experience deep sadness and elation simoltaneously. Why don't you just focus on your happiness? Speaking from a religous point of view, I think that's pretty important! All the best!

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment
 
cookiegirlVIP said...
Aug. 21, 2011 at 5:09 am:

Well written article:). It's really hard to pick what you want in life when you're a teen. I'm in my final year of school and still not sure what I'm going to study. It takes risks to decide.

 
Brin11VIP replied...
Sept. 12, 2011 at 4:18 pm :

it takes even more of a risk to not decide at all....but it is a hard choice. 

 
Reply to this comment Post a new comment