Ever look into a burning flame? Just staring into it and get completely loss in thought. Its energizing really. It gives you a place to think and a magnificent sight while you are lost in thought. The heat is welcoming and calming. The different colors of yellow, orange, blue, and all the hues between, are enough variety to keep your mind in reality. Watching the wax melt and run over the sides is exactly what the time is doing. Melting away the problems, even if its for only a few moments in time. The pull that you feel to just stick your finger into that flame gives you a sense of power and dominence. Then when you feel too powerful, too vulnerable, or too lost, you just blow the candle out and resume the day.