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Failing Successfully This piece has been published in Teen Ink's monthly print magazine.

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My day in the sun had arrived – my magnum opus would be revealed. I had just delivered a memorized speech that I had labored over for weeks, and I was about to learn how the panel judged my performance. The polite but sparse audience leaned forward in their folding chairs. A hush fell across the room. The drum rolled (in my mind, anyway).

The contest organizer announced the third-place winner. Alas, the name was not mine. Then he read the second-place winner, and once again it was
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not me. At last, the moment of truth came. ­Either I was about to bask in the warmth of victory or rue the last several months spent preparing. While neither of these came to pass, my heart felt closer to the latter.

Losing is a part of life, and I have dealt with the emotional baggage that travels shotgun with it on more than one occasion. However, it was an indescribably underwhelming feeling to drive 200 miles round trip, get up obscenely early on a freezing Saturday morning, and yet still finish fourth out of four contestants. After Lincoln lost the 1858 Illinois Senate race, he reportedly said, “I felt like the 12-year-old boy who stubbed his toe. I was too big to cry and it hurt too bad to laugh.” Oh yeah, I could relate.

I had spent many hours in front of a computer and in libraries doing research for the Lincoln Bicentennial Speech Contest. As I pored over several biographies, one notion stood out: Lincoln was handed many sound defeats, but he never allowed them to (permanently) hinder his spirit or ambition. While I believe many history lessons can be applied to modern life, I hadn’t considered “the agony of defeat” as a historically valuable learning experience. I never dreamed I could relate to Lincoln! A president no less, and the greatest at that. I thought “failing ­successfully” was a very appropriate topic, given the many letdowns Lincoln experienced, and so this became the title of my speech.

After not placing in the first year of the speech contest, I really wanted to compete again. Lincoln had been the epitome of persistence, so I was not going to give up on a contest about a historic individual who did not give up! I reworked my speech for the following year, and while I did not come in last, again I did not place. Some days you’re the dog, and some days you’re the hydrant, and this was ­definitely a hydrant day that brought me down for a while.

I couldn’t accept the fact that I had failed twice in something that I had worked so hard on, until I contemplated the individual whom I’d spent so much time learning about. Never mind the lost prize money (ouch, major) and praise (ouch, minor) – I had learned, really learned, about a great man who had experienced failure and disappointment, and had many chances to give up. We remember Lincoln because he didn’t take this route; he didn’t throw lavish pity-parties, and he persevered to ­become, according to many, the greatest American president.

While I did not earn monetary awards as a result of this contest, I did gain a new perspective. Through learning about Lincoln, I discovered that I can fail successfully, and that it is possible to glean applicable wisdom from the lives of those who have come before us. Now, whenever I’m faced with a setback, I remember what Lincoln said after his unsuccessful 1854 Senate race: “The path was worn and slippery. My foot slipped from under me, knocking the other out of the way, but I recovered and said to myself, ‘It’s a slip and not a fall.’”
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iiiht said...
Mar. 8 at 11:54 pm:

After not placing in the first year of the speech contest, I really wanted to compete again. Lincoln had been the epitome of persistence, so I was not going to give up on a contest about a historic individual who did not give up! I reworked my speech for the following year, and while I did not come in last, again I did not place. Some days you’re the dog, and some days you’re the hydrant, and this was ­definitely a hydrant day that brought me down for a while. <a href=" h... (more »)

 
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Davidhoebbel said...
Jan. 13 at 1:32 pm:

This was very good.

 
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DaveyWavey;] said...
Jan. 11 at 8:17 am:

I thought that this was a wonderful article. The imagry was very vivid. I imagined myself in your place, and I am glad that you won in the end.

 
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sasssgirrrl22 said...
Jan. 8 at 3:39 pm:

luv the writing style. gr8 perspective, also. niice

 
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69blair69 said...
Jan. 6 at 8:21 pm:

the irony is that he placed first in this out of thousands

 
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kathreneforyou said...
Jan. 6 at 9:35 am:

your outlook on your situation indeed makes you triumph as a human being of great understanding--the ultimate area where we must all aim to be at. it was very eye-opening & uplifting, especially because of how you provided a lot of imagery to your readers. thank you so much!

 
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Emmalee said...
Jan. 5 at 10:56 am:

Wonderful. :)

 
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Meera said...
Jan. 3 at 5:22 am:

Fresh and vivid- it's interesting that this person's "failures" were related to the competition in the first place. Nice!!

 
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Megan Anne S. said...
Jan. 2 at 10:27 am:

Nice job! I love your writing style. You were so vivid, and that is always a great thing to realize when reading a story.
amazing!

 
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Nickis'sissygirl89 said...
Dec. 31, 2009 at 10:08 pm:

Simply incredible. As I was reading, I absorbed the crisp, vivid words that reffered to so many losses, but yet, you win anyway. Just the sound of the intelectual story line was awesome, and the way you put it was complex, so the reading of it made me want more.
The losses count as winning, and yet by winning, you might as well have lost, though the feeling of victory was empowering, the taste of winning tought you nothing. : )

 
Candace M. replied...
Jan. 3 at 10:28 pm :

I really think you captured the essence of the piece. Thanks for the feedback!

 
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Stina said...
Dec. 30, 2009 at 4:00 am:

This is a great essay! I enjoyed reading it and the point you have come across is totally brilliant and is something all of us most learn while living in this cruel world. You are definately a talented writer, but something I felt while reading it was that it was a bit cold somehow... very black and white and sort of rehearsed in a way. While learning the art of writing this is something important, but to totally capture an audience you need to be a bit spontaneous too! :D

 
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BroadwayBaby92 said...
Dec. 26, 2009 at 3:42 pm:

WOW! That's all I can say. Truely, an amazing article and I loved every bit of it! I think it was really good how you wrote about not winning the contest but how you didn't really "lose". Can't wait to read your articles to come!

 
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Ellie_Michelle said...
Dec. 25, 2009 at 12:57 am:

This is a truly well-written and engaging piece of art! I thoroughly enjoyed reading it. :)

 
Candace M. replied...
Dec. 25, 2009 at 1:33 pm :

Thank you so much! Your feedback means a lot!

 
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Hannahnanna said...
Dec. 13, 2009 at 3:32 pm:

Love it! I really liked the beginning where you explain that 3rd and 2nd arent you, but you never actually state that 1st isnt either. Please dont ever stop writing.
If you could, please check out some of my work. Thanks!

 
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superspaghetti said...
Dec. 3, 2009 at 11:24 am:

I really enjoyed reading your essay. You are a spectacular writer!

 
Candace M. replied...
Dec. 3, 2009 at 3:13 pm :

That's the first time in a while I've heard that. Now that I'm in college my writing never seems to be good enough. I'm just learning how to take it to the next level. Thanks for the feedback!

 
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Matt said...
Nov. 14, 2009 at 7:10 pm:

man this was a good read...
ive read a lot of essays to day and i gotta say this refreshed me....
im sorry you couldn't win the contest but then again im thankful for this essay
well written....lol
i just hope we dont try apply to the same college

 
Niki replied...
Dec. 1, 2009 at 10:54 pm :

You did a wonderful job hooking the reader. Very descriptive language, excellent use of personal knowledge and strengths. I hope you get into the school you are seeking!

 
Candace M. replied...
Dec. 2, 2009 at 8:38 am :

Thanks! I actually used this last year, and I was accepted to the school of my choice, where I am now!

 
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confusednature said...
Oct. 30, 2009 at 9:19 pm:

I have been looking for college essays to give me some ideas for my own. Thank you for this great this piece of work and reminding us that losing isn't the end of the world.

 
Candace M. replied...
Oct. 31, 2009 at 11:04 pm :

Thanks! I just wanted to say that I used this essay for the Common Application, and I was accepted to my #1 choice, where I am now!

 
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algie said...
Oct. 30, 2009 at 8:23 pm:

I didn't think it was as good as everyone is saying. The quotes didn't add much to your piece, and I don't think you showed anything about yourself other than the fact that you lose

 
Candace M. replied...
Oct. 31, 2009 at 11:01 pm :

Thanks for the feedback. What I wanted to show about myself is that even though, I lost, I did not give up, even though it would have been the easy way out. Since I was paralleling Lincoln's life with my own, I thought the quotes were a nice touch, but not altogether neccessary. I believe that this piece demonstrates my tenacity. It also shows that I did not allow losing to get in the way of a learning moment.

 
TragicMoose replied...
Nov. 29, 2009 at 8:06 pm :

I disagree with algie completely. This was superb, and without the quotes, this piece loses some of its value.

 
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PurpleMidnight said...
Oct. 21, 2009 at 4:03 pm:

Wow! This piece is unbelievable! Its one of the best college essays!

 
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brezec said...
Oct. 8, 2009 at 6:25 pm:

This article was surprisingly interesting. I loved the quote from Abraham, "I felt like the 12-year-old boy who stubbed his toe. I was too big to cry and it hurt to bad to laugh." I also like the idea of "failing successfully." Take for example when you were preparing for the speech. It did not matter that you didn't win, it mattered that you recognized the journey you took get there and what you learned while on the journey. Overall, if you look deep enough into it, thi... (more »)

 
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brezec said...
Oct. 8, 2009 at 6:20 pm:

This article was suprsingly interesting. I loved the quote from Abraham, "I felt like the 12-year-old boy who stubbed his toe. I was too big to cry and it hurt to bad to laugh." I also like the idea of "failing successfully." Take for example when you were preparing for the speech. It did not matter that you didn't win, it mattered that you recognized the journey you took get there and what you learned while on the journey. Overall, if you look deep enough into it, this ... (more »)

 
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Katie P. said...
Oct. 7, 2009 at 6:26 pm:

Its a really great essay, and it is definitely a good piece for your college applications. It says something about YOU, which is important. I'd recommend editing the '(ouch - minor) (ouch - major)' lines though. It sounds like slang which takes away from the tone of your piece.

 
legaleagle replied...
Oct. 7, 2009 at 7:01 pm :

Thanks for the feedback! I really worked to put a piece of "me" into it. I also had in keep in mind that my initial intended readers had probably been reading hundreds of similar essays, so I wanted to catch their attention at different points throughout the piece, so that was why I sometimes included slang phrases. I used the essay to apply to Centre College, and that is where I am now!

 
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Hurricane said...
Oct. 7, 2009 at 8:41 am:

i agree, this was a great piece. it said something to me - not to be completely cheesy and weird sounding - but it did. it screamed to me not to give up, as you didn't. all i have to say, even though i have said a lot, is thank you. :)

 
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sojohnitis said...
Sept. 17, 2009 at 12:12 am:

haha cool story bro!

 
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DIPTI said...
Aug. 1, 2009 at 6:03 am:

I LIKED IT ITS INSPIRATIONAL.

 
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joykim92 said...
Jul. 8, 2009 at 7:07 pm:

This was a real fun essay to read. Nice~ I hope that you will/did get into the college of your choice.=]

 
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Jia M. said...
Jun. 20, 2009 at 3:15 am:

Wow, this essay is really inspiring, i actually just received notice that i was rejected to some program i was applying to, i felt really bad about it until i read this essay: now i feel motivated to apply again next year.Thanks

 
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