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Solitude and Aloneness - Does it still even exist?

Bluehumaninavacuum posted this thread...
Dec. 28, 2016 at 1:10 am

So what does everyone do when they go to their bedrooms to get away from it all? Please, please, please don't post any dumb or inappropriate answers.
 
I am interested because I've been noticing that I mainly go online in some way shape or form (COD, YT, FB, etc.). So, this means that I'm not actually alone, but with other people - the only difference is that these people are online! Am I the only one who does this? I mean, when are we really alone anymore?
 
I would like some thoughtful answers please. A discussion would be nice.

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Dec. 28, 2016 at 3:58 am

For the most part, when I want to be alone, I write or I read. Although neither are necessarily isolated depending on how immersed you are in the world.

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FunneThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Dec. 28, 2016 at 9:35 am

In my bedroom I usually end up watching way too much youtube, although I sometimes read. I'm not really one to interact with others online often.

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Lucy-AgnesThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Dec. 28, 2016 at 2:43 pm

Hmm, the topic of this thread caught my eye. I think solitude and aloneness, in a negative sense, exist more than ever in our society today, partly because of the internet. Socializing online is just so different from socializing in person -- there's nothing like seeing someone's face, hearing someone's voice, feeling someone's hand. The internet might give us a false sense of having "lots of friends," but without that real person-to-person contact, there's something profoundly missing from human life.

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stuntddude replied...
Dec. 30, 2016 at 10:01 pm

It's kind of a tricky question. If you're reading a book, you may feel solitary, but how alone are you really? You're still communicating with another person - the author of a book - even if the conversation only goes one way. I don't think there's a hard solid line between activities that are social and solitary. I think there are many varying degrees.
 
Lucy-Agnes, I disagree that communication over the internet is fundamentally different from communication in person. The limitations of any medium will affect what forms of communication are most practical, and each form has its advantages and disadvantages. That's as true in the context of technology as it is in the context of art.
 
Personally, I'm extremely grateful for the opportunities the modern internet provides. Next semester, two of my best friends from high school will be living permanently hundreds of miles away. But the internet gives us the opportunity to keep in touch, share cool things, talk to each other, collaborate on projects, hear each other's voices, see each other's faces, and even inhabit the same virtual worlds together, despite the distance. The same goes for people across the globe, who I might never have known otherwise, and who I may never meet in person.

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Lucy-AgnesThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Dec. 31, 2016 at 9:06 am

I agree that the internet is a wonderful thing, if it's used properly. Without it it'd be hard to keep in touch with some of my best friends, too. I just think there's a danger of falling into the idea that (for example) because you've got so many friends on facebook, you must have all you need from friendship. The internet can provide large quantities of friends; but can it provide the same quality of friendship?

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Bluehumaninavacuum replied...
Jan. 2 at 10:16 am

Ha! you sound like you are a time traveler from the 1980s to me. Very inspiring stuff. Hope is not lost. Keep reading.

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Bluehumaninavacuum replied...
Jan. 2 at 10:19 am

Wow, I didn't expect such a thoughtful response. Thank you. So you actually feel isolated online because you are physically alone? I agree completely.
 
But I'll tell you what's odd (at least for me). I know how to fix it (e.g., get out of my bedroom and socialize!), but I never actually do it. I'm... stuck. Am I alone here? It's just easier to stay inside, doin' my online thing...

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Bluehumaninavacuum replied...
Jan. 2 at 10:23 am

I read Lucy-Agnes' reply before I read yours. I must admit that I thought about your reply for several minutes. I completely see your perspective, and I think that I agree with it to a degree. But I must ask you, does it bother you that keeping in touch with your high school friends will be online in the future? I mean, has something been lost for you in the virtual work that you will have all migrated to?

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Lucy-AgnesThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Jan. 2 at 3:57 pm

I guess how I feel is that the internet is a catalyst for isolation. Just spending time online doesn't make you isolated, but if you replace real person-to-person time with internet time, then there's a problem.
 
I know what you mean about it being hard to get away from the internet. :) I'd go so far as to say there's something almost ad.dictive about the screen. It's just a hard habit to break. Lots of times I find that when I get away from it for a few days, though, it's not only easy to stay away, but hard to go back. :)

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Bluehumaninavacuum replied...
Jan. 4 at 12:41 am

Very isightful, thank you.

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maybeKiraThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Mar. 13 at 5:26 pm

I agree that being online sometimes makes me feel more alone than if I'm physically alone. 
That being said, I do have a lot of online friends who I've never met in real life. But it is a little depressing thinking about how often I feel alone among people, even and especially online people, but when I'm reading or writing or drawing by myself, I don't feel lonely at all. 
Does anyone else agree with me that sometimes you feel less lonely when you're alone?

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