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Admin. posted this thread...
Mar. 28, 2016 at 12:03 am

I keep seeing this for religious denominations, but there have been so many g​​​a​​​y-related questions in other threads I figured I should make one thread here for that.
 
I'm a pa​​​nro​​​mantic h​​​et​​​ero-aut​​​och​​​orrise​​​xual ci​​​s girl. (she/her)
 
My buddy Allen might pop in, he has a similar se​​​xuality (p​​​anromantic/que​​​st​​​io​​​n​​​in​​​g a​​​ce) and is a guy (h​​​e/him.)
 
Together we'll try to answer any questions fielded to us!!
 
You can ask about terms, labels, visibility, het​​​eron​​​ormativity, and anything else that comes to your mind. Try to, um, stay polite though, and we'll do the same. @_@
 
-Admin (approved by Allen)

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JubilexThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Mar. 28, 2016 at 12:13 am

What does autochorrisexual mean? I'm usually pretty up with terminology, but I haven't heard that one before.
 
I'm a panromantic cis girl too. I'm unsure about my se.xuality. I think it has some fluidity and I get confused about how ace I am (or even if I am at all). If I'm not in an environment where I can explain I'll usually say pan or bi.

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Admin. replied...
Mar. 28, 2016 at 1:47 am

I explained it in the Opinions forum on this thread: TeenInk.com/forums?act=post&topic_id=15&thread_id=89947&rand=0.7606643578096615&page=3
 
also; here's the quick copypaste def of it!
 
Autochorissexualism - A disconnection between oneself and a sexual target/object of arousal; may involve sexual fantasies, or arousal in response to erotica or pornography, but lacking any desire to be a participant in the sexual activities therein. Commonly found in asexual people; an analogous feeling may occur in aromantic people for romantic fantasies.

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JubilexThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Mar. 28, 2016 at 2:58 am

Ohhhh! Thanks for the explanation!
 
For the times when I feel more ace, that's what I experience. I guess it's nice to know there's a name for it!

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Admin. replied...
Mar. 28, 2016 at 3:49 am

Same! I felt so lost before I had that label.

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Quantum1.0 replied...
Mar. 28, 2016 at 3:02 pm

Hopefully its clear from the little bit I've contributed to the other threads on this topic but I consider myself open/accepting/free of moral judgment for non hetersexual/cis sexualities and genders, so don't take this as an attack in anyway - I'm genuinely curious, but...
 
Why all the labels? You say you felt lost before and I wonder why a label helps with that? It seems like there are always new ones being added, and honestly I'm confused why people feel they need such super specific ones. It's a bit overwhelming to me honestly and the need to call everyone exactly the right thing seems a little...unnecessary to me.
 
As an example, I can describe myself as either an agnostic or an atheist or something in between, and I really don't feel any particular attachment to one label or another. I don't feel the need to group myself in that way, except for shorthand when I'm not in a place to have a detailed discussion with someone.
 
As an extended question, why do people need to do this at all. Perhaps its because of who I am, but I honestly don't particularly associate in anyway with being a straight, white guy except when I feel like I'm getting lumped into some negative category because of it in which case I don't like all the labeling as opposed to liking it. Thoughts?

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Quantum1.0 replied...
Mar. 28, 2016 at 3:03 pm

As an addendum, obviously it has no bearing on me what people call themselves, so I don't particularly care. People can label themselves however they like - it has no impact on me. I'm just curious.

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Quantum1.0 replied...
Mar. 28, 2016 at 3:17 pm

On that note, P is pansexual and A is asexual, correct?
 
What does I stand for?

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deafening-fan replied...
Mar. 28, 2016 at 3:35 pm

Quantum: ON LABELS
 
Labels help us describe ourselves in ways that weren't offered when we believed we were straight. You, as a straight person, don't need to question. Thats what you are. No one questions who you 'like' or 'are' because the label of straight tells you everything you need to know. When you are in a community of non-straights or non-cis, then it becomes confusing. For example, I am Pan. This means I am attracted to people regardless of their gen.der. If I was to say I was bi, or ga.y, or straight, it wouldn't tell you what you 'need' to know. It's easier to say I'm Pan than it is to say "I'm bi but like not really bi? like I like people regardless of who they are?" I mean sure if someone doesnt understand at first, you explain it, but its a lot easier than just putting a vast spectrum under the labelling of ga.y
 
It also gives us a sense of person. It's a part of it. When you get sick, you want to know what it is. When you enjoy a movie on tv or hear a song on the radio, you want to put a name to it. When we experience a different form of se.xu.ality, we want to find a name for it. At least thats how I've experienced it.

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Quantum1.0 replied...
Mar. 28, 2016 at 6:28 pm

deafening-fan: That makes a lot of sense. Thanks for the explaination.

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Admin. replied...
Mar. 28, 2016 at 9:52 pm

I totally agree with deafening-fan, but I'd also add 'community.' When I realized autochorrise.xual was a thing I felt like... there were other people like me. So often people with different se.xualities are made to feel freaks or something, and really we're not. We have a community for people just like us, people who understand!
 
That's what the label means to me. A legitimate identity that people share. 
 
also!
 
The 'p' is for 'panromantic' or 'panse.xual'
 
The 'a' can be for ase.xual, aromantic, or agender (as far as I know. some add another a so they have the se.xuality/gender as different things.)

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Mr.packerbear12This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Mar. 28, 2016 at 10:34 pm

Admin: but what's they I? between the Q and A.
 
Also, I am curious about the need for these labels as well, why do you have to get it narrowed down so much to every nitty gritty detail to associate with a se.xuality label. For instance, I'm straight, but, I also happen to have a foot fetish, and I like girls with long brunette hair. Do I need a label that explains more than just being straight? I mean I could say I'm(this isn't real..I don't think..just making an example haha!) "fethairstraightse.xual" and then I see that label, and I'm like, "oh yeah! that's totally me!" Like..what's the need for it? I'm just curious not attacking..

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Admin. replied...
Mar. 28, 2016 at 11:58 pm

....That's not a se.xuality, but you'll notice you do have a name for your fetish, hon. Also, please don't turn our se.xualities into fetishes. They are not the same thing, and you are not oppressed for liking feet.
 
And the I is for 'interse.x*.' Those whose se.x does not fit into society's categories of male or female.
 
goo.gl/8DDJxV
 
*note that the term 'h*rmaphrodite' is now considered very offensive and inaccurate.

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Admin. replied...
Mar. 29, 2016 at 12:00 am

As an aside, it's not detailed. It's very broad.
 
I'm an ase.xual person who experiences attraction. That can still hugely vary. It doesn't get down to the types of people I'm attracted to at all, just how.

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deafening-fan replied...
Mar. 29, 2016 at 12:14 am

I understand where you are coming from, Packer. Even I thought I was stretching it when I found out that pan was a term. I don't think it's so much a NEED. If we lived in a world that didn't automatically assume you were straight, we wouldn't NEED labels. The fact is we do and these labels help explain ourselves, sometimes not for other people but for ourselves...if that makes sense?

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JubilexThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Mar. 29, 2016 at 8:35 am

On the topic of labels:
 
Personally I fluctuate between liking them and not bothering much with them. I think the fact that I don't strongly identify with any particualr se.xuality may have something to do with that.
 
I strongly identify as panromantic and for that reason, I'm happy to throw out that label. As Admin and deafening-fan said, it's like this combined sense of belonging and what I'm experiencing being a real thing.
 
In terms of se.xuality I used to fluctuate between labels a lot and for that reason I don't really like to use any all that much. If someone asks, I might say pan/bi and sometimes throw in the potential ace stuff. If I have time or feel comfortable enough to explain further, then I will.
 
For me no label for my se.xuality fits, so a descriptive means of explaining it is much more accurate. Wheras, if a simple and easily understood label is available, why not use it? The main downside is being flooded with huge volumes of labels. And of course people who won't accept the new terminology.

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Mr.packerbear12This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Mar. 29, 2016 at 9:53 am

I suppose that  makes sense. But, I guess it's just hard for me to understand coming from a straight only background(whole family is conservative and straight..well most of it..one grandfather who is g.ay..though I suppose he probably goes by a different label, then one aunt who's pretty liberal..other than that a very conservative family).

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stuntddude replied...
Mar. 29, 2016 at 6:56 pm

deafening-fan:
 
That's far from the whole story. The label of "straight" really doesn't tell a person everything they need to know, because, like anyone else, straight people experience se.xuality differently from one another. I, too, could find a super-specific label or group of labels that captures the nuance of my experience of se.xual and romantic attraction, but I don't care to. By contrast, some people do care, whether because they find value in having a categorized and organized understanding of their personality, because it gives them a community to be a part of, or for some other reason or combination of reasons. And that split doesn't happen along demographic lines like you claim it does. Rather, it exists because of differences in personality and situation, similarly to how some people keep their room perpetually clean while others leave it perpetually messy, depending on each person's personality and living situation.
 
As for keeping track of other people's labels, I'm terrible at memorizing anything, so I'm bound to forget most of them, but of course I actively try not to mislabel people (easy enough if you just use general terms when you don't have specific ones). From what I know, that seems to be the approach that most people take, and I think it's a reasonable one.

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MorganRF replied...
Apr. 15, 2016 at 10:53 am

I know the LBGTQ thing, but I've not seen the I and A in there before. What do those stand for?

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Allen. replied...
Apr. 15, 2016 at 1:12 pm

A is generally for aromantic, ase.xual, or agender!
 
-Allen.

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