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A reoccurring thought plagues me; how are we so condescending of one another, as well, why is it that we abandon our moral systems in the sight of something that isn't even remotely important? This post has two parts, a segment for the guys and one for the girls. But before that, allow me to stress the importance of this article; this is not a "How to" for dating or winning over the opposite sex, its simply a compilation of thoughts that have come to me time and time again like flashbacks to a desolate war-zone. Here are my thoughts:

First off, to the guys; stop looking for everything with your sex drive. Everyone knows that teenage and young adult males have a rigorous libido, but seriously, stop. If you treat everything like a walking piece of meat, then you are going to be a "sexed up", disease ridden, lonely guy. Women are to be respected, they have ideas, morals, and beliefs, some are just willing to put them aside for you because you said all the right things. It's not about who "gets the most action" because in the long run, no one really keeps score. I'm not saying that sex is a bad thing, its perfectly natural, but apply some restraint for God sake. What's the point of looking for happiness if all you seek is the "Restless sheet syndrome." You give the good guys a bad name, and to top it off even further than that, you take a good girl that believes in you, puts her faith in you, and destroy her! Honestly, there is no pride nor comfort in what you do. If you stop and think about it, simply treat women with some respect. You go around stealing all the good girls, breaking them, and leaving the good guys lonely because all those girls now want is people like you, and honestly, you aren't much to look at. Good guys, keep doing what you're doing, there will come a day when the other guys break down and aren't the "fittest" thus knocking them off the marital food chain. Its simple Darwinian Evolution; the fittest will be the guys with the biggest hearts and the best degree. Natural competition will favor you then, and you will reign supreme.

Now then, to all the gals; first off if you would dress with some integrity then a lot of guys wouldn't let their overactive sex drive come unraveled at the seams. If you leave nothing to the absolutely mind boggling powers of the imagination, then you are doing yourselves no favors. Not saying that either side is more responsible for the mess than the other, what I am saying is this: both sides are playing fast and loose with the rule book. And with more and more teenage pregnancies and school dropouts seeking employment in a society where you need a BA or BS to work at McDonald's, it isn't good. The less than reputable girls are making a bad name for the entire female population, making guys think that all women are "sluts" and that sex is an easy hand out. News flash: YOU CAN CONTROL IT! Our population is at an all time high and with the economic times becoming worse by the day, more teenage parents are definitely NOT needed in today's day and age. Show some restraint, if for any other reason than self-respect. Is that really hard? To the good girls, I say nothing but Kudos. You're perseverance in this time is nothing less than saintly. I commend the good ones on both sides. While it may seem like the "Good guys" may only want the less than reputable girls, it isn't true in the least. Personally, I've always wanted a pretty, smart, caring, good girl. But all they want is the jerk guys. Its a vicious cycle.

The cycle is vicious; Good girls want jerks, the jerks want the sluts, the sluts want the good guys, and the good guys want the good girls. The cycle never ends so it seems. Especially in an overly materialistic world. To those that are reading this, I'm assuming that you're the good side of either grouping. I commend you to look where you haven't looked yet. If you're in high school, quit caring about what your friends will think and how it will make you look, ask that person out! Who knows where it will lead, and even if it never happens, what have you lost? If anything you've gained a little self worth self-respect and perhaps the admiration of the other person. Seriously, go for it.

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Feb. 26, 2013 at 9:21 pm
I think this was a well-written article except for one thing: the cycle doesn't always work like that. I'm no s***. And the last thing I want is to chase some hyperactive boy with two, maybe three brain cells. Yes, there are some good girls who fall head over heels for some jerk, and they get hurt in the end. But other good girls don't even flinch at that. Just thought I should point that out.
Braden-Davis replied...
Mar. 9, 2013 at 9:14 pm
First off, let me thank you for taking the time to read this. Secondly, I did state that there are exceptions. This is just the experimental normal that I have found, just like with any idea, there are always exceptions to the rule, I wrote this after studying Bateman's Principle and watching events unfold at my school. Thanks again!
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