"What's your boyfriend's name?"
"I don't have a boyfriend."
Pause. "Oh."
It is interesting to me how many people have not had the courage to ask me why I don't date. Normally after a conversation much like the one above, I notice that they act much differently around me. They don't ask, or mainly don't try to understand.
Maybe it's because they assume: 1) I'm hard to please, 2)I have a deficiency socially, or 3)Unattractive in some way.
First of all, none of these are reasons why I don't date.
Many who know me would say none of the above things apply to me. But, like everybody, I'm not perfect as well. I'm capable of saying stupid things, I'm not flawlessly attractive, and I'm sometimes a bit difficult to get along with. But isn't that true of all of us? None of us is perfect, and it's not like I haven't been given any chance to have a boyfriend. I've simply chosen not to.
I believe that love means more than feelings that come and go. If a guy is interested in me, he should be willing to fight for me. He'll respect my space and my body; he won't try to get a cheap kiss from me but instead regard me as a young woman worth fighting for, worth pursuing, until he realizes that I'm valuable; not just any guy gets to kiss me; not just any guy gets to claim my central attention.
I have not kissed any guy, ever. Why? Because I know that I'll be giving my future husband an incredibly special gift. Wouldn't you feel important if someone saved their all--everything--just for you, and you alone?
That is a sacrifice I've been more than willing to take. It hasn't always been easy. But it'll definitely be worth it.
Anyone can date. But not everyone can wait.
"I don't have a boyfriend."
Pause. "Oh."
It is interesting to me how many people have not had the courage to ask me why I don't date. Normally after a conversation much like the one above, I notice that they act much differently around me. They don't ask, or mainly don't try to understand.
Maybe it's because they assume: 1) I'm hard to please, 2)I have a deficiency socially, or 3)Unattractive in some way.
First of all, none of these are reasons why I don't date.
Many who know me would say none of the above things apply to me. But, like everybody, I'm not perfect as well. I'm capable of saying stupid things, I'm not flawlessly attractive, and I'm sometimes a bit difficult to get along with. But isn't that true of all of us? None of us is perfect, and it's not like I haven't been given any chance to have a boyfriend. I've simply chosen not to.
I believe that love means more than feelings that come and go. If a guy is interested in me, he should be willing to fight for me. He'll respect my space and my body; he won't try to get a cheap kiss from me but instead regard me as a young woman worth fighting for, worth pursuing, until he realizes that I'm valuable; not just any guy gets to kiss me; not just any guy gets to claim my central attention.
I have not kissed any guy, ever. Why? Because I know that I'll be giving my future husband an incredibly special gift. Wouldn't you feel important if someone saved their all--everything--just for you, and you alone?
That is a sacrifice I've been more than willing to take. It hasn't always been easy. But it'll definitely be worth it.
Anyone can date. But not everyone can wait.
HisPurePrincess
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