Unbreakable Bonds of Friendship Bracelets

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‘True Friendship never dies’

A short sentence, but with a long and crucial meaning. A meaning such that a million words would not be able to completely portray. A meaning so deep, so intense that knowing it would be enough to make you go into utter, blinding realization.

Friendship is a key to finding yourself. Your friends are what bring out the life in you. From another person, an outsider’s view, it’s just laughing, sitting together, holding hands and parties.
For you, though, it is much, much more. It is private smiles, advice that help both of you go a long way, giving up your own spare time for them, phone calls way past midnight, a shoulder to cry on, sacrifices, friendship poems, letters and affection towards each other.
That is what really matters. It is not about doing your friend’s homework for her, it is not about the one who calls you the most. It’s what you think of each other, it’s your friendship that is the main thing, itself.

Friendship and amity is not about having a close friend who you can rely on for a year, maybe two, and then go back to your ‘old group.’ Accepting a person’s hand in friendship is like helping them uncover what is imprinted behind their faces, their brains and their smiles.

Friends really are forever, otherwise it is wrong, and it is completely off course to just use the word. Yes, it is true that friends have fights, and big arguments, but they aren’t supposed to last long. A day, or maybe a week, and then you would make up, apologize and forget about what has happened. But that is not always the case. Sometimes, the truth is staring you in the face, and you realize that you have stored your trust in the wrong person. Sometimes it is fate which gestures you away, which pulls you apart.
But, even if so, is it always necessary to let your ex-friend know that you have lost faith in her, that you no longer can trust her? Is that all that matters, not hanging out with a person anymore and not talking to them anymore?
I disagree strongly at this point. You may go around ignoring your friend, leaving her shattered, in tears, but always, always, you know what really matters is the past. The past is always difficult to forget, and you know that there were times, so what if it was just once, that your friend helped you out of a deep spot, gave you advice which is why you can still smile, and let you tell her about her feelings? You know that whatever may go wrong, whatever may pull you apart, somehow the friendship bracelet never seems to break. It’s always hanging on the last thread, but it’s hanging on, and you know that’s what you have to do.
True friendship lies deep, however deep it may be, at the bottom of every friendship. Every friend is in a way or another, a true friend. There is no such thing as the ‘end’ of one’s friendship, because you can see it when the two happen to catch each other’s eye. You can see the pain reflected, the remorse, the regret, and the urge to go back into the past to change things.
Friendship has its intensities, it has its worries, it always has its arguments and problems, its tribulations, there was never a wavering doubt about that. But when you think about how the other person has always been able to be so there, does it even seem to matter anymore? Doesn’t the strength and passion of the closeness between the two friends just cloud out all the negative points, drown out the cries? It always tends to do so, someway or another.
Each friend is always there for another, and no matter what goes wrong, whether you don’t talk to each other, see each other, you grow old, you loose your memory, there is someone whose memories will always be etched in you, whose name will ring in your ears, who will be always there for you, from the day you met her at school, till that day, decades later, when she will be crying her eyes out at your funeral.
Whatever breaking-down paths you may climb on, you have always endured the pain and all the joys of your life together, counting on one another. There are facts you can not ignore, there are emotions and feelings that hit you hard, and it is not always so easy to avoid these things, because you know they have a meaning, a reason, and you have to come to your senses at one point in your life. It is unimportant and meaningless how tight and rigid you tie your friendship bracelets, as long as you are ensured the last knot will never unwrap, the last thread will never let go. The times when you need to unleash are not even significant to the bonds of friendship; after all, in spite of everything, true friendship never dies.





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faye said...
Jan. 26, 2009 at 5:44 am
i like it... i agree with you...
 
Joy26 said...
Jan. 17, 2009 at 4:04 am
What a great outlook on friendship; you sum it up very well. I think you could maybe include more of the positive side of friendship? No offense but it seems a little sad near the end.
Again, wonderful. And can other people PLEASE stop putting their links as comments??? It's rather selfish and kind of mean to detract from the article Elishbah wrote. Kay? Thanks.
 
onelastday- said...
Jan. 16, 2009 at 12:31 am
Good job!

You've got one last day to live. What now?
TeenInk.com/raw/Opinion/article/74317/One-Day/
 
JOJOD said...
Jan. 15, 2009 at 11:57 am
 
Sauron. said...
Dec. 30, 2008 at 9:55 pm
 
claudia.94 said...
Dec. 27, 2008 at 5:44 am
I think your poem is beatiful and I agree with it, but in my case I had to put this in my head clea: some people pretend to be friends, others really are friends until one finds out how the other truly is and suddenly doesn't want to hang out with 'such'a person, and the others are the ones that say they are your friends and treat you like ones, but in the end,they leave you as if you were 'another extra'. Even though, the true friends are always there and they will ride your rollercoaster life ... (more »)
 
hellz harlot said...
Dec. 22, 2008 at 5:35 pm
wow, this is really good and so true, i love this article :]
 
SloopyMcCoy said...
Dec. 20, 2008 at 5:58 pm
I love it.... i wish I had a friend as true as the one you were describing....(sob) you're an amazing author!
 
Sakii <3 said...
Dec. 17, 2008 at 9:59 pm
So very true.
You're a wonderful writer; the introduction is extremely inspiring. You've tied together your opinions, pros and cons pretty well and made an agreeably persuasive piece of work.
Very impressive, keep it up.
 
Lolalady said...
Dec. 11, 2008 at 7:29 pm
I like this poem, although i don't agree wiht all aspects of it...it was written very well.
Vheck out my poem, I can, I'm very proud of it!
 
Scarlet Victoria said...
Dec. 9, 2008 at 3:20 pm
Wow... That's all I can say. Wow. You just expressed everything within me that I did not know how to let out. Through the whole thing I was thinking of my best friend and smiling and nodding. I always thought that no one besides us would understand what a deep friendship is. But you seem to! This is truely beautiful.
 
sabss said...
Dec. 7, 2008 at 10:33 pm
love it!
 
ladybug23 said...
Dec. 8, 2008 at 1:30 am
My friend and I are in a fight and although I still believe that what she has done is wrong your article helped me see things differently. Keep writing you're amazing :)
p.s. it may or may not have made me cry when I read this (shh...)
 
baller5 said...
Nov. 22, 2008 at 12:48 pm
Your article reminds me of him,my best high school friends.Three yrs school life was gone like the wind.I miss the big arguments with him , the funny jokes...... unfortunately ,we are apart in two different colleges, and there is a gap between us .Don't you know that you are unique to me?
But he doesn't wanna see me again,coz I hurt him.sorry.I will wait until the moment he forgives me .
"The true friendship will work on even when there is a break,and then it will lasts lo... (more »)
 
Mariellen said...
Nov. 12, 2008 at 12:14 am
i agree 100%, but there are things in there that sometimes just don't work out very well.
 
awsomeaugust said...
Nov. 10, 2008 at 11:45 pm
Wow! THis article is amazing. Friendship goes deeper than the mind is able to fugure out, and you captured it just right...
 
mary said...
Nov. 4, 2008 at 2:46 pm
its awsum!!!!!!!! i luv ur article
 
Maine_Lover said...
Nov. 1, 2008 at 4:32 am
That is SO true. my friend had a eating didprder and i tried to ingnore it. but it got worse and worse. so i talked to her about it and she got totally mad and didn't understand. i then read ur article and sent it to her along with a letter from me to try and make hr understand..... she called me back with-in a hour and cried. she now understood and was totally regretting our fight. i cried to and said i promised to be the bestest friend she ever had! i started going to her classes together and ... (more »)
 
music 4 my soul said...
Oct. 28, 2008 at 4:59 am
this is amazing Elishbah! friendship is so important and many ppl don't know what it means 2 be a true friend...
 
Jasmine523 said...
Oct. 25, 2008 at 2:46 am
I agree with you all the way. Friendships are very important and that is the olny thing that I need to live in this world, is my friends. I know all my friends get on my nerves, but I still love them!!!
 
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