Look to the Eyes

June 27, 2010
By OfficialApprover PLATINUM, Orefield, Pennsylvania
OfficialApprover PLATINUM, Orefield, Pennsylvania
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Favorite Quote:
Grab life by the balls. -Slobberknocker
We cannot change the cards we're dealt just how we play the hand
Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted
It's pretty easy to be smart when you're parroting smart people
-Randy Pausch


Everyone knows, from the time they’re a few months old, that a smile means a person is happy and a frown means they’re sad. But who exactly decided that, may I ask? Who decided that when your lips turn down you’re upset and when they turn up you’re delighted? Because I’d like to have a word with them.

If we try to frown but make our eyes happy, we encounter some difficulty. Why? Not because a frown automatically makes your eyes incapable of mirth. Just because we’re taught: smile=happy, frown=sad. What if people said, just do whatever you feel like when you’re happy? What if there had never been the concept of fixed facial expressions? Some people would probably frown. Some people would probably smile. Those who are unobservant might be hopelessly confused.

But here is my advice: Look at their eyes. The eyes don’t lie. Whether the person was smiling or frowning, if their eyes were happy, they were happy. If the eyes were sad, they were sad. Your eyes are like small channels to the soul, reflecting your mood in their glassy surfaces. So if you want to know if someone is happy or sad, don’t look to the lips; look to the eyes.


The author's comments:
I just had the thought one day...who decided that a frown means you're upset? And I've always found the part about the eyes true. Try it.

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on Aug. 19 2010 at 7:27 am
OfficialApprover PLATINUM, Orefield, Pennsylvania
48 articles 0 photos 1754 comments

Favorite Quote:
Grab life by the balls. -Slobberknocker
We cannot change the cards we're dealt just how we play the hand
Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted
It's pretty easy to be smart when you're parroting smart people
-Randy Pausch

Exactly. Things like crying, smiling, frowning--these aren't fixed.  The eyes show how you really feel.

We-R-3 BRONZE said...
on Aug. 18 2010 at 3:59 pm
We-R-3 BRONZE, Orlando, Florida
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A picture is worth a thousand words, however it takes a real artist to turn words into pictures.

Have you heard about the new Lebron Iphone, you have to set it on vibrate because it doesn't have any rings

I like the piece it is ver correct because even through tears you can see there emotions like when the cry when they are happy.

on Aug. 16 2010 at 4:15 pm
OfficialApprover PLATINUM, Orefield, Pennsylvania
48 articles 0 photos 1754 comments

Favorite Quote:
Grab life by the balls. -Slobberknocker
We cannot change the cards we're dealt just how we play the hand
Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted
It's pretty easy to be smart when you're parroting smart people
-Randy Pausch

Thanks! :D

Aro13 BRONZE said...
on Aug. 16 2010 at 1:31 pm
Aro13 BRONZE, New York, New York
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Favorite Quote:
"Don't worry about your background whether its odd or ordinary, use it, build on it" Gloria Steinem

"All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way." Leo Tolstoy

i really enjoyed this piece- i myself have thought about that concept but never considered writing about it or expanding on the idea. you articulated it beautifully- it was a joy to read. I think you could take this piece even farther by talking about other automatic reactions human beings have to things and what they mean

great work!


on Jul. 31 2010 at 6:13 pm
OfficialApprover PLATINUM, Orefield, Pennsylvania
48 articles 0 photos 1754 comments

Favorite Quote:
Grab life by the balls. -Slobberknocker
We cannot change the cards we're dealt just how we play the hand
Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted
It's pretty easy to be smart when you're parroting smart people
-Randy Pausch

Thanks! :D

on Jul. 31 2010 at 5:59 pm
christin.bass SILVER, Eagle River, Alaska
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you will never make it big if you dream small. youll never learn if your living in the past and youll never understand if you were to fast forward, just press play and live!

You make a great point. Your extremely talented girl. (: When i read your work i get so hooked on it i just can't stop once i start. Keep it up!!!!

on Jul. 30 2010 at 3:47 pm
OfficialApprover PLATINUM, Orefield, Pennsylvania
48 articles 0 photos 1754 comments

Favorite Quote:
Grab life by the balls. -Slobberknocker
We cannot change the cards we're dealt just how we play the hand
Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted
It's pretty easy to be smart when you're parroting smart people
-Randy Pausch

Siiiiiiiis.  :DDD

on Jul. 30 2010 at 3:44 pm
OfficialApprover PLATINUM, Orefield, Pennsylvania
48 articles 0 photos 1754 comments

Favorite Quote:
Grab life by the balls. -Slobberknocker
We cannot change the cards we're dealt just how we play the hand
Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted
It's pretty easy to be smart when you're parroting smart people
-Randy Pausch

Thanks:D  

guitargirl said...
on Jul. 30 2010 at 12:20 pm
Amazing writing.  I loved the descriptive language and the concept. You have a lot of talent =]

on Jul. 28 2010 at 7:04 pm
OfficialApprover PLATINUM, Orefield, Pennsylvania
48 articles 0 photos 1754 comments

Favorite Quote:
Grab life by the balls. -Slobberknocker
We cannot change the cards we're dealt just how we play the hand
Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted
It's pretty easy to be smart when you're parroting smart people
-Randy Pausch

Thanks:D 

on Jul. 28 2010 at 6:45 pm
XXXXXShIaNeNeIsMeXXXXX SILVER, Rio Rancho, New Mexico
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Favorite Quote:
"love is complicated but wonderful"

wow this is really good! I have always wondered that too

on Jul. 28 2010 at 4:20 pm
OfficialApprover PLATINUM, Orefield, Pennsylvania
48 articles 0 photos 1754 comments

Favorite Quote:
Grab life by the balls. -Slobberknocker
We cannot change the cards we're dealt just how we play the hand
Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted
It's pretty easy to be smart when you're parroting smart people
-Randy Pausch

Yeah, I don't always smile, but that doesn't mean I'm upset.  The thought just struck me one day, and I decided to write about it:D

on Jul. 28 2010 at 4:17 pm
MidnightWriter SILVER, Ontario, Other
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Writers are a less dangerous version of the career criminal. Everywhere they go, they see the potential for the perfect crime. The difference is that writers have better self control.

I've never thought of it before. It's a good point. I sometimes get people asking me "what's wrong" because i'm not smiling, but I'm perfectly happy and I'm sure my eyes do show it.

on Jul. 28 2010 at 10:57 am
OfficialApprover PLATINUM, Orefield, Pennsylvania
48 articles 0 photos 1754 comments

Favorite Quote:
Grab life by the balls. -Slobberknocker
We cannot change the cards we're dealt just how we play the hand
Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted
It's pretty easy to be smart when you're parroting smart people
-Randy Pausch

Thanks:D 

on Jul. 28 2010 at 10:49 am
TheOnlyWritician GOLD, Clermont, Florida
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Favorite Quote:
We loved with a love that was more than love. -Edgar Allen Poe

I find your essay interesting. I like how you say look at the eyes even when many are afraid to even do that. I'll remember not to stare at the smile or frown lol...good job.

on Jul. 27 2010 at 9:16 pm
OfficialApprover PLATINUM, Orefield, Pennsylvania
48 articles 0 photos 1754 comments

Favorite Quote:
Grab life by the balls. -Slobberknocker
We cannot change the cards we're dealt just how we play the hand
Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted
It's pretty easy to be smart when you're parroting smart people
-Randy Pausch

No problem.

windy_sunny said...
on Jul. 27 2010 at 9:05 pm
windy_sunny, FORKS, Other
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thank you!~

on Jul. 27 2010 at 9:03 pm
OfficialApprover PLATINUM, Orefield, Pennsylvania
48 articles 0 photos 1754 comments

Favorite Quote:
Grab life by the balls. -Slobberknocker
We cannot change the cards we're dealt just how we play the hand
Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted
It's pretty easy to be smart when you're parroting smart people
-Randy Pausch

Oh I'm so sorry!  I'm just used to people knowing, I forgot for a moment where you lived.  Sorry!  Lol is the abbreviation for laugh out loud.

windy_sunny said...
on Jul. 27 2010 at 8:55 pm
windy_sunny, FORKS, Other
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Okay~and sorry, could you tell me what LOL is....

on Jul. 27 2010 at 8:50 pm
OfficialApprover PLATINUM, Orefield, Pennsylvania
48 articles 0 photos 1754 comments

Favorite Quote:
Grab life by the balls. -Slobberknocker
We cannot change the cards we're dealt just how we play the hand
Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted
It's pretty easy to be smart when you're parroting smart people
-Randy Pausch

Thanks! And lol, yeah I know.

 

Just a question--could you possibly check out my article Gymnastics Is My Life?  I accidentally posted anonymously, so if you do advanced search, it's under nonfiction personal experience.



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