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Open your average Seventeen magazine and look at the ads. What are they selling? Razors. I find that perfectly acceptable; people shave and therefore need razors. There is something, however, that I’m not comfortable with: the message. Gillette Venus advertises that shaving your legs will help you release your “inner goddess.” Schick Quattro for Women says that shaving will free you. Nair has its own brand for women called Nair Pretty! What is this saying to the young women of America? They are being forced into an unnatural mold that is ruling their lives and ravaging girls’ self-esteem. What we eat, what we wear, how we act – it is all guided by the ultimate (virtually hairless) woman every man supposedly desires, and I have had enough.

Shaving is an American custom, and a foolish one at that. If we took the time to see the injustice in the social hierarchy our nation is built ­upon, perhaps we could understand beauty in a natural body. I realized how much time I wasted mutilating my body with a razor blade. How can people look positively on that? Whenever I shaved, I cut myself, which isn’t enjoyable. The constant stress of wondering Do I need to shave? is a nuisance. There was no reason for me to continue shaving if I didn’t want to.

So I stopped. The first day of summer, I put down the razor, thinking, Maybe I’ll just try this for a week. At that point it wasn’t even about the media’s incessant pressure, or rebellion against conventional thinking; I stopped purely for comfort. Even though my hair has grown, I realize how comfortable it has made me. It feels as though I’ve opened up a whole new part of my body I didn’t know I had. I feel ­closer to myself and more confident in my body. I wear tank tops and skirts; I’m proud of my body hair. I like to show it off, even for shock value. The choice is mine and I made it.

People talk about it, of course. I’ve lost friends ­because of it, which makes me realize that if someone is ignorant enough to worry about the state of my hair, I shouldn’t be associating with that person in the first place. It hurts to know that those I once valued and cared about are simply conforming clones, and it hurts to hear strangers, even small children, make rude comments about my body hair. I know my friends talk about it with their friends, saying, “She’s the girl with the armpit hair.”

Sometimes I feel like it’s going to prevent me from getting dates, with the way people react to it (mostly teenage boys, howling about how disgusting it is). One of my best friends told me that it was a bad choice. He said the fact that I didn’t shave made him angry, that my body hair made him angry. Needless to say, I don’t speak to him anymore.

Teenage girls judge me just as harshly. Another friend threatened, jokingly, to shave me in my sleep. I know there are girls reading this right now thinking, Shaving ­isn’t that hard. Stop whining and making such a big deal. Body hair is nasty! You were raised to think that way. In your home, on your television, in your bathtub, by your peers, they raised you to believe body hair is gross. I was raised that way too, but I broke through it.

My closest friend tells me that she considered not shaving under her arms, but she would never stop shaving her legs because she thinks she is too hairy. Nobody should judge you as too hairy. I want to scream, “Stop letting other people decide what you are and what you’re not!”

Acceptance is important to people, and yet I don’t understand how some can accept the biggest differences in people – sexual orientation, race, religion – yet find my disdain for shaving revolting and intolerable. You wouldn’t tell Jewish people that their yarmulkes are gross and that they should take them off, so why would you tell me that my body hair is vile and I should shave?

I question the fate of our generation. Think about it: if Miley Cyrus stopped shaving, adolescent girls all over the world would too. Most people will venture to say that they are different from everyone else, but they aren’t.

You can choose to focus on the physical aspect of what I’m doing, and you can point and laugh at my body hair. Or you can take the time to look deep into your beliefs about American culture and see that I have actually freed myself from corporate oppression. You can look down on me for being happy with the natural state of my body, or you can look up to me for thinking for myself and having the guts to say no to peer pressure. The choice is yours.

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QueenOfAirAndDarkness said...
Apr. 6 at 9:30 am:
I respect you and your views. If it makes you uncomfortable shaving, then go ahead and not shave. But I personally feel disgusting if I don't shave. Don't tell me that I'm conforming to peer pressure, but I feel all gross and hot and... just disgusting if I don't shave. But it's your own choice to not shave, and I respect you for standing up for what you believe in.
 
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FrenchHippieThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
Dec. 27, 2011 at 2:15 pm:
Thank you so much for this article! I think that your ideas are true about so many things. I do shave and will continue to do so, but that isn't even really the point of what you are doing. We do things and think things just because we have been taught to do that. Be strong and do what YOU believe, not what everyone else believes.
 
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monkeyfeet said...
Dec. 17, 2011 at 11:38 pm:
I think you're ridiculous.  This girl is absolutely right--people shave because of peer pressure and the standard 'norm', and because they grew up with it.  People in Europe don't shave because they aren't pressured to do so.  I don't shave, and it's hard with the pressure, but it has made me more confident, and you shoudl try it too: accept yourself!  
 
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billy12 said...
Dec. 1, 2011 at 7:41 am:
Wow... shave please....gracias
 
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ManekiNeko said...
Nov. 29, 2011 at 8:06 am:
I used to be embarressed of my hairy arms when I was younger. I never wore short sleeves, ever. And then I started shaving; I did so on and off for four or five years before deciding that the itching and the nicks were just not worth it. Because I'm virtually blind without my glasses, I always  had such trouble anyways and what was the point when I had red itch bumps for three days afterwards? (My skin is really sensitive.) So I stopped shaving my legs. But I do occasionally shave my armpit... (more »)
 
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ADifferentKindOfPrincessThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
Nov. 16, 2011 at 5:23 pm:
I am going to continue to shave! I do agree with you though...there ar a lot of things girls and boys feel pressured to do. This is really good! And good for you and the not shaving idea. You are braver than I am!
 
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schoolsforbabelfishThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
Nov. 4, 2011 at 7:38 pm:
Unfortunately, this is only the tip of the iceberg. There are so many more things with seventeen and other teen magazines like it that I want to scream. If you want some thing at least a bit more constructive, I suggest Rookiemag.com, which is wonderful and trying to combat seventeen and the like from polluting our minds and pushing us into sexist molds...
 
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HarebelleThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
Aug. 19, 2011 at 7:15 pm:
Well, this has inspired me not to give in to peer pressure! Thanks for your deodorant tips on the side, too!
 
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Texas_HorsegirlThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
Aug. 10, 2011 at 8:46 pm:
Personally I enjoy shaving because it makes me feel clean and smooth. I like that you think for yourself, thats a brave thing you do. I remember in 5th grade I was made-fun-of because I had hair on my legs, and thats when I started shaving. idk, I do shave because others do and I was born into it, but also I like doing it.
 
Lilly3217This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Sept. 5, 2011 at 9:58 am :
I agree with the horse girl
 
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Current said...
Aug. 9, 2011 at 11:01 am:
Very well written and very true! I have to wonder though... were you shaving properly and using the right blades? I've only cut myself shaving a few times and that was due to cheap blades. I have to disagree with this being a simply American topic. Women have been removing leg hair as long ago as Ancient Egypt, using tweezers, razors, and sometimes burning it off. It is more than the media brainwashing people to believe hairless women are attractive, it goes so far back to be a tradition that wi... (more »)
 
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ekaterinahansingThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
Aug. 5, 2011 at 2:12 pm:
Hmmm, this is very well written. And I can fully see where you are coming from, but does that mean that those of us who STILL shave, are flakes giving into peer pressure? Don't get me wrong, girls today are SO body conscious, but hey, even I like it when my legs are smooth! But for me, it's straightening my hair. It seems dead, and artificial. I've had it strightened only twice, and it was by a friend or a cousin. So, I guess everybody gets to pick. Probably that's why we were made this way, so ... (more »)
 
MaxRideThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Dec. 22, 2011 at 4:08 pm :
omg i so agree! that and plastic surgery are so bad for people and girls think they need it! ~Max
 
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KenyaLove41This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
Jul. 28, 2011 at 5:52 pm:
i liked this article a lot and i thought that it was well written. i dont shave my legs though (my mom wont let me) but even if i could i dont think that i would and u're right it seems like women have to shave because society wants them to. 
 
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inkblot13This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
Jul. 23, 2011 at 9:15 pm:

this was really well written, good job! And kudos (I think that's how its spelled...) to you for doing what you want to do without caring what others think! I do shave my legs, but because I want too, not because I feel pressured too. Every girl should be able to decide one way or another what htey want to do. :D

(ps, check out some of my stuff?)

 
KatsKThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Feb. 15 at 8:10 pm :
Yes, the spelling is correct, and I agree. Hey, could someone check out my work, too? (Totally optional)
 
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Dfsah F. This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
Jul. 21, 2011 at 8:36 pm:
I dont shave my legs during the winter just because of the fact it was providing warmth and because I didnt see a reason why in shaving my legs during winter. And I didnt have gym, and really never go swimming during the winter, so I didnt see a point... Lol:)
 
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dreamgazer12This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
Jul. 20, 2011 at 1:16 pm:
Thank you so much for writing this, you make me proud to be who I am.
 
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fatchance96This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
Jun. 23, 2011 at 6:54 pm:
You are a very brave girl to do something like that. I loved your article, nice selection of words and interesting topic. Even though I've always opposed to the idea of shaving, your article really got me thinking about shaving. People, especially guys, think it's completely disgusting when they see a girl with hairy legs and black armpits. But I really wonder, why do boys have it good and are able to look totally normal without having to deal with a razor? It's not fair at all, and I think men ... (more »)
 
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gogreen1 said...
Jun. 7, 2011 at 9:37 pm:
This article is well-written but I disagree with the overall point. I honestly don't care too much about how I look. I hardly ever wear make-up or even do my hair nice. But I do shave. I personally find it gross to have hairy legs, for my comfort and other's, but mostly for my own, so I shave. So yeah. 
 
fire_ice4everThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Jun. 14, 2011 at 1:26 am :

I agree, although i shave i see the point the article is making. 

Although I once made the mistake of trying to shave my arms (honestly I have no hair there anyway...) It was awful it was itchy and scratchy and I feel like I did it for all the wrong reasons, because i felt that even though i had close to no hair on my arms it showed up more with my brown hair than it did for blondes.. I will still shave my legs, but for my comfort not to conform or impress others. 

 
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gucchi92 said...
May 5, 2011 at 1:53 pm:

I think there shouldn't be something like "one should shave or not".

If we are free citizens of this world, we should have the freedom of choices.

And its nobody's business to judge the choices we make as right or wrong.

Kudos to you for standing upto peer pressure.

I do like the smooth and shiny look when i wear skirts or dresses but otherwise i'm too lazy to do it.
Plus it hurts and spoils the skin.

 
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browneyedcat said...
May 2, 2011 at 3:06 pm:
This is really well written and has great depth but I have to admit i disagree with the point of the article. I shave and the reason why is for physical reasons. I am a swimmer and it makes it slightly more difficult to swim with body hair. though I know this article is about the cosmetic aspect i think that you should put more detail in your next story. Please do not get offended I am just trying to give you some constructive critism. Overall this article was great. :D
 
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paigeforemanThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
May 1, 2011 at 7:38 pm:
I totally agree with you! I don't shave because it's a hassle and it feels weird. I never thought about how corporations pressured us because I was so used to it. Awesome job!
 
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Hejlna said...
Apr. 20, 2011 at 12:25 pm:
I respect your point of veiw, and agree about the Miley Cyrus thing. Shaving your legs is something you do cause everyone else does, it's not important, really.
 
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ZalphaNekoThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
Apr. 14, 2011 at 8:55 pm:
I respect you for writing this but, *spasm* I don't think I could ever quit shaving. All that hair. It drives me crazy. Its not because I want to conform its simply because I can't stand body hair. I think guys should shave too if you ask me. XP Everyone would be so much cleaner and smooth. XD But if you wanna shave, I respect you. It's just the touching the hairiness on boyfriends legs or on my own. I can't stand it
 
fire_ice4everThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
May 24, 2011 at 8:37 pm :
I agree, I think it's really gross on guys. But I couldn't stop shaving, I feel itchy if I don't and I would probably get in trouble. But it should be gender mutual. 
 
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blublood said...
Apr. 8, 2011 at 1:15 am:
While this article sends a good messege to the average teenage girl, consider the fact that sometimes, shaving is what makes some girls comfortable. Not all, but some. I, personally, wouldn't consider stopping, but I respect your view on it. I agree that it is something that America forces upon girls (Women in Europe don't do it, do they?). But I think that you're very brave to stand for it. Good luck. :)
 
zarasis replied...
Jun. 6, 2011 at 2:32 am :
yes Europeans shave they are just like us, its very ignorant for someone to say something like that
 
massacre replied...
Jun. 6, 2011 at 7:55 pm :

Ok. Thanks for that. 

I mean, if you want me to get technical, then I'll restate. 

America forces many stereotypes upon girls and sooner or later, many American females (not all, just many) become obessed with self-image. 

However, many European women (and, here I am again, stating that many, not all women) do not shave their underarms, or their legs, ect. Whatever, and that's their own choice. But, overall, many European women do not s... (more »)

 
wooowww replied...
Jun. 6, 2011 at 8:01 pm :
I am not disagreeing with the opinion of the author, on the contrary it has a lot of truth in it. What I am saying is that if many people in Europe do not shave, then it is the same in America; actually there are even men in Europe that shave as opposed to the men here who do not. So my point is that many European women (and men) do shave sometimes more then here in America.
 
massacre replied...
Jun. 6, 2011 at 9:57 pm :

Thank you for clearing that up. 

I am totally open to hearing different opinions and open for debate over several topics. 

I wish that could have been stated in the comment in the before. Thank you. 

 
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strictlykennedyThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
Apr. 2, 2011 at 6:18 pm:
I really like this article. I currently shave but this has made me reconsider.  I've never really ever thought about not shaving.  Our society has made shaving as required as eating.  I don't know if I will stop now, but I admire you for it. 
 
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Ilovelife said...
Apr. 2, 2011 at 8:37 am:
you have a really powerful article! I agree with you completely!
 
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Carabear said...
Mar. 31, 2011 at 10:18 pm:
I love what you wrote, it was well written and the message itself is great. Although I'm sorry to say that you haven't turned me into a non-shaver, it's become purely habit, and a part of me as a person now, I don't bag other people on there body hair and never will. I love that the idea can be turned to any other topic as well, like fashion, or hair styles.
 
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Lex2011 said...
Mar. 20, 2011 at 12:11 pm:
I think this is GENIUS! I absolutely hate shaving. My mom nags at me for it. She's always like, "The hair on your legs is black. Shave!" Well, it's not my fault I was born with thick black hair that happens to sprout out every chance it gets. I used to not let my boyfriend see my legs without me shaving first. Now I don't care and he doesn't either. He always says, "Hey, obviously I'm hairy. You are, too. We will just have hairy kids." It makes me smile. I don't care. It's my legs and my hair. D... (more »)
 
butternut jones replied...
Apr. 15, 2011 at 12:21 pm :
u are awsome and funny
 
TheInnocentOne replied...
Jun. 23, 2011 at 6:40 pm :
Big thumbs up for you!
 
fatchance96This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Jun. 23, 2011 at 6:57 pm :
You are soo lucky! Boyfriends like that are hard to find, and yours in one in a million:)
 
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dreamgazer12 said...
Mar. 19, 2011 at 6:18 pm:
Thank you so much for putting that story out. I don't shave either, except maybe armpit hair when I'm older. But I'm proud of my leg hair. Even if people tease me it makes me who I am. You just boosted my self confidence about 10 notches. Thanks!
 
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Aderes18This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
Mar. 16, 2011 at 3:55 pm:

I love your comment! I hate shaving! I barely do it! I do it when it gets all nasty. Like about every month or so. It doesn't hurt when you use an electric razor. That's what I use. 

I find it so weird how people get obsessed about body hair. 

That boy who was angry.. he's messed up. 

 
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erikalewyThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
Mar. 8, 2011 at 5:23 am:
It's all about how we wish to perceived. If I do not shave, I will be defined as the girl with the body hair. I have other ways I wish to be defined, through different forms of "standing out."
 
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hellooooooo said...
Mar. 2, 2011 at 6:14 pm:

Well, I think that what you said about questioning the fate of our generation isn't accurate; do you think your mom would have stopped shaving if somebody they looked up to stopped? It isn't a matter of our generation; it isn't as if twenty years ago people didn't experience peer pressure. Even one hundred years ago, peer pressure was a part of our life. Personally, I don't like body hair and I think it's kind of disgusting. But, I would never be mean to somebody about it and say, "That's gro... (more »)

 
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the_HorsegirlThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. This work has been published in the Teen Ink monthly print magazine. said...
Mar. 2, 2011 at 5:27 pm:
This was really intelligently written and articulte. I admire your will to resist accepted "norms".
 
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Huuki said...
Feb. 27, 2011 at 11:49 pm:
i agree, we should all just let the women grow out their leg hair!
 
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LOLOLOLOLOL said...
Feb. 22, 2011 at 10:17 am:
Ridiculously interesting. I'll admit, at first I just saw it as a sign of attention and a search for indivuality that flourishes in our adolescent years, but after reading all that, I completely support you. If my girlfriend didn't shave, I really wouldn't mind it. She's got a great personality anyway. Whatever makes you more confident, comfortable; whatever you want to do, with or against the current, you should. Never make it a goal to completely oppose society and comformity, but to find the ... (more »)
 
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Funny_Girl said...
Feb. 19, 2011 at 7:50 pm:
I think tha the writer is an exceptional person, highly intelligent. It takes a lot of maturity, and independence to make up your mind the way she does. She takes something so small, and reveals not really its depth, but her own.
 
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magic-esiThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. This work has been published in the Teen Ink monthly print magazine. said...
Feb. 17, 2011 at 8:55 pm:
This wins for my favorite article. You express your opinion so well. I don't shave my legs either because, well, it never occurred to me to. People are constantly really rude and say, "Why don't you shave your legs?" like I'm some freak of nature. I don't even care; I just tell them, "Because I don't need to." Good for you that you don't conform to society's needs. I love this article more every time I read it. I hate that there's a bunch of rude guys commenting saying, "Oh, it's just nasty and ... (more »)
 
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michealangeloThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. said...
Feb. 13, 2011 at 2:53 pm:
I can understand what you mean.  I still shave, and I don't think I would ever stop, but I wouldn't judge another person for not shaving.  One of my best friends doesn't shave!  And she's still my friend.
 
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hopeiscrucial said...
Feb. 12, 2011 at 2:32 pm:
I totally relate to you on the whole "(mostly teenage boys howling about how disgusting it is)" part. I told them if they think that body hair is so disgusting, they should shave their own. I also told them "sorry to break it to you, but not all females will lie down before you and make up their bodies just so you'll like them". Anyway, I think shaving is ok, and i think not shaving is fine too. I just don't like it when people don't respect other's opinions. The guys can have preferences, but t... (more »)
 
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