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The Thought of Growing Up Scares Me!!!!!!!!

WriterHead posted this thread...
May 18, 2013 at 1:23 am

as i've gotten older, i've really started to think about the "grown up" life....... and it scares me a little. im in high school and time goes by really fast. i think im having a hard time grasping that in a few years, i will no longer be a child and i will have to be more independent. im very mature for my age, i know this and people have told me this millions of times. im very responsible, and im a good student. i work hard and i know i have a promising future ahead of me, but becoming an adult is nerve racking. yes, ill have my freedom and be able to do what i want to do, but there's so much more to being an adult. i know ill have a strong support system from my family, but.... i don't know. does anyone know where im coming from?????? am i thinking about too much too fast????? i think that the economy is making me feel this way. worrying about finding a good paying job that keeps a roof over your head, food on the table, and a good car isn't easy these days.

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JRaye replied...
May 19, 2013 at 7:02 pm

I totally know how you feel. I'm only a Freshman, but I'm always reminded of what I'm gonna have to deal with after high school. It's really scary, especially when it comes to money and the economy, all that stuff. I like to think of it as just another transion through life. It was scary going into gradeschool. It was scary going into middle school. It was DEFINETLY scary going into high school lol. I guess it would be a good idea right now to find something you're good at, that you'd like to make a carreer out of, and take the first step to pursuing it. You're pretty lucky if you can do something you love everyday and get paid for it.
Hopefully this helps! :) Have a good day lol

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Murcielago replied...
May 20, 2013 at 12:10 pm

Im a Junior in high school (transitioning to Senior this summer) and I just wanted to let you know youre not alone as far as this feeling goes. I was thinking exactly how you were before I found the military and government agencies. Just breathe and believe in yourself! YOU CAN MAKE IT!

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WriterHead replied...
May 22, 2013 at 5:14 pm

thank you guys soooo much, lol!!!!!! @JRaye I want to be a writer. One of my articles on here has been published already. @Murcielago im a sophmore, going on junior this summer, lol!!!!!! this really made me feel better. i really think ill be fine. there's a high possibility that ill be getting a job this summer and ill be working more on my driving skills, lol!!!!!!! driving kind of scares me too, hehehehe.

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Murcielago replied...
Jun. 24, 2013 at 10:13 pm

*chuckle* driving is no big deal, but remember cars are WEAPONS. So treat them with the care you would handle a gun. but dont sweat it! About 20min circling the parking lot you'll do fine ;). And parallel parking is no big deal either

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WriterHead replied...
Jun. 26, 2013 at 12:14 am

Thanks @Murcielago!!!!!!!! I actually drove on the road for the first time a few days ago. I did really good, I just need to work on turning. :D

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ColorsOfTheWind replied...
Jul. 1, 2013 at 7:53 pm

I'm in college, and i feel this way and have felt this way since applying to colleges Senior year. It is scary and I think the worst part is that you just don't KNOW about the future. Will it be good? What if you grow up and find out you don't like yourself anymore? But surround yourself with friends and support. If I didn't have people to lean on, I don't know if I could have made it through the past few years.

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WriterHead replied...
Jul. 1, 2013 at 11:29 pm

thank u for the advice. :)

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prettynino14 replied...
Jul. 4, 2013 at 11:54 pm

I think the only reason growing up scares you is because most of the time we don't know what will happen later in life. For me the thing that scares me the most is falling in love, but I know that it will happen one way or another. I have no idea who I might fall in love with (, Im not a homophobe i support the LGBT community Boy or girl, im not bi or lesbian) I just feel like there is no point in being scared if you know its going to happen anyways. Yes there might be a little anxiety but I think we all should try to do our best and live for now, and just wait for whatever is going to happen in the future. When you grow up you would be laughing at what you were thinking as a kid. I'm 15 and I think that im getting closer and closer to the real world but i know that its going to happen so let it happen.

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chloejane replied...
Jul. 15, 2013 at 1:00 am

I am in my last year of high school, I have one term and a half to go, then school is over for me. The thought of finishing school scares me because I honestly do not know what I am doing when I leave. I am currently studying my cert II in hospitality and I think I am going to continue with my certificates. I have my responsible services of alcohole certificate, my resturant certificate which means I can work in a five star resturant as a waiter and I also have a barista course certificate. All I need is my RSG, its so I can work in a place that has gambling. The hospitality indrusty would be my best bet once I leave.
I am going to miss it though, I won't see my friends as much, I will lose friends when I leave. I won't see my best friend very often. School is in all honesty the best time of my life. So many things have gone wrong for me and so many things have been amazing. The people, the experience. High School has changed me for the better.
I am counting the months until I leave because it couldn't come any quicker and this year feels as if it's only been a week long. I cannot wait for freedom I cannot wait to move out and live on my own, make a family on my own, make mistakes on my own. I do not know what is coming for me in the future, but I do know that I want school to end.

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WriterHead replied...
Jul. 17, 2013 at 3:04 pm

I kinda feels both things with it. I'm scared of being on my own, but I also want it to hurry up and happen at the same time, lol!!!!!!!!!! @chloejane good luck entering the real world. :D

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Osvaldo_C replied...
Jul. 18, 2013 at 1:34 pm

I will be going to college in a month..... scary....

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ohana.d replied...
Jul. 28, 2013 at 3:11 am


Nobody is alone...and being a teen definitely growing up is scary. i always either want to go back to those childhood days where we didnt really have  workloads and problems like we have now, or just wished this thing got over without much problems.
But believe me, 10 years down, we will miss all the good memories that these scary things gave us. Moreover later on we will just be like..."Ahh that was nothing compared to this!"
No one can change our fate..so just make use of the moment to the fullest and...keep calm and smile! :)

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Philia replied...
Aug. 13, 2013 at 4:01 am

So am I! I have not even spent a week away from my family and the thought of not seeing them for months makes me scared. Added to it my fears of coping up with people's expectations and thinking of the time ahead when I will have to earn for and manage myself!! But I guess I am glad to know that I am not the only scarycat and also the many replies were comforting!

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WriterHead replied...
Aug. 16, 2013 at 5:42 pm

hehehe yeah. :D

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Sept. 7, 2013 at 2:41 am

I think that everyone goes through that stage at some point, and it's probably usually around 14-17. Personally, I'm not actually nervous about it. I am actually very excited about it, and looking forward to it. To me, adulthood couldn't come sooner. I think I went through that earlier than most people. When I was around 8 I first though of it, and it worried me a lot. For a couple months it was all I could think about, and it kept me up at night. Then I relaxed and didn't think about it again until I was 10, when it happened again. But now I'm all for it.

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