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Latley I've been really depressed. With the stress of school, family, my boyfriend, and theatre I've been getting really stressed. But worse thanthat, I've also been feeling depressed. I hate being in drama now. I feel down all the time. I cry way more than usual and I feel alone even though my boyfriend is being the best boyfriend in the world. I don't know how to cope with depression. I feel hopeless and usless and i hate it. I'm not at the point of suicide. But i need help before i get there. Can anyone help me?
Have you told a parent, teacher, guidance counselor, boyfriend, friend, etc? You need to tell someone, an adult would be best.
My boyfriend knows. he's trying his best to help me. But unfortunatley, it's not working as much as i need it to be. I plan on telling my guidance counselor at lunch today. I just want to be my old happy self again. But right now, all I ever want to do is listen to music and block out the rest of the world.
What you need to know is that you're in control of your emotions. It's not them who have the upper hand. Emotions in human beings date back in stone age, when our ancestors used them in order to survive. Anger helped them to deal with hindrances between them and their goal. Fear alerted them of a threatening danger, while sadness drew the attention of others that you had lost something. Now ponder a bit: is there any roadblock in your way to feeling fulfilled that you need to remove through force? are you really menaced by something? have lost anything? If not, then there is no reason to linger any longer in this depressive state. You sank in an emotional wildfire, which impedes from having access to any positive thoughts that might quench it. Only the negative ones that support it are coming forward. If you manage to enter a reflective state and analyze your situation, you'll gain an objective insight into it and be able to switch your disposition to a brighter one. Your emotions have been stired up automatically by the so-called auto-appraising system, which helps us deal with near-shave occurences every day (e.g. if you didn't get scared when a car suddenly skids towards you, you wouldn't have the instant reflex of moving the driving wheel and avoid the mishap). However, you are the one who decides what you want to feel in each and every second of your life. So ruminate on it with a bird's eye view and you'll be astonished by the outcome.
You should take a day to do that. Take a day to just block out the world and really try to think things through. Take some time to just dig deep inside yourself. That's what I do when I feel like that- just block out the world for awhile. It always helps.
A few things you might do:
1. Write. Journal it, write an essay, just rant somewhere about what you feel. Let it all out. Maybe you can start to understand why you feel that way- I always get enlightenment from writing.
2. Talk. I'd talk to my mom if it were me, but I don't know what your relationship with your parents is like. Talk to someone you trust.
3. Unhappy Hour. This one's fun! Do it with someone or alone, it's up to you. Set the timer for 1 hour, and just gripe. Yell, scream, punch a pillow, cry- whatever you need to do. The catch? When that timer goes off, you have to stop, put it all behind you, and keep it away from you for at least 2 weeks before you do it again. O.o
4. Do what you need to do. If you just want to lock yourself in your room, turn on music, and drown the world out, do it. But only do it for a day or two. Take a weekend to yourself. But then "snap out of it" and go back to being your happy self.
5. Do It "Like A Boss!" ;-)