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I enjoy doing a variety of things, especially reading. I can read a book in a day or two when left to my own devices. Lately though, I've had to skip out on activities with friends and give up reading at night because of all my homework. I am a straight A student and feel kind of like I have a reputation to uphold. My parents don't care if I get a B, but I beat myself up if I do. I'm not sure how to handle the stress. Any ideas on handling my homework would help.
I don't know if you've already tried this, but maybe you can try and do more homework in class? Also if you are able to, maybe you should drop a class and take study hall so that you have more time during school to work on homework and have more time at home to do things that you like to do.
I'm in the same boat as you, girl! And I agree with Carpe about doing as much work as you can in class. I've also started doing work or hobbie activities during lunch at school. For me, It's mostly art that I don't have time for. If you have a nice teacher, and if you can, you should ask him/her if you can stay in their room sometimes during lunch to do work. My art teacher lets me stay in her room sometimes during lunch to work on personal art projects and school work. Not all schools have open lunch, though...
Anyway, I hope things work out for you!
Thank you both for the insight. I'll try to get more homework done in school. Yeah art work took a lot of my time, and I didn't even get good grades :(. Oh well, thank you!
I know that you posted this thread a while ago, and that this response may seem a little belated. But, chances are you're still in school, and chances are this is still relavant.
I struggled with the same issue in high school, especially in junior year. All of a sudden I had too much homework, and too little time. And so, I shut everything out. I cancelled weekend plans, and snapped at my family when they interrupted my studying. I calculated my grades again, and again, and again to ensure that I could maintain my straight A's.
Because that was who I was. My personal identity and self respect were wrapped up in the letters on my report card. School was all I was good at. I NEEDED to get everything right. If I let my scores slip, I was nothing.
But in obsessing over my acedemic performance, I forgot everything else. I neglected my relationships with my family, friends, and God.
And eventually I realized that I'm not just a list of As on a report card. I'm a follower of Christ, a daughter, sister, and friend. I matter more than just my accomplishments.
As do you.
So search for who you are apart from your grades. What makes you unique? Is it your sense of humor, or your warm heart? Do you make a mean triple fudge cake? Who do you impact on a daily basis, and how do they impact you in return?
Because grades mean nothing. Sure, I was valedictorian, and that felt good in the moment. But looking back, I regret the time I spent earning that award, when I could have been fostering relationships with the people I love. I'd trade that medal for a stronger friendship any day.
And remember: You are more than just your grades.
im not sure how much homework you get or what days you get it on, but if you have time, maybe you should start doing some of your homework at school. when you get home you have less to do. :)
Kayleigh, I get it. I'm an online schooler, and most people assume that means that I have a lot of discipline to be so self-motivated. The thing is, I now need the discipline to STOP schooling. Weird, huh?
Well, I don't know if this is an option for you, but I've started setting time limits for myself. Set a timer. Don't allow yourself to go beyond that. Don't go over 2, 2 1/2 hours in your time limit either. Make it realistic, but don't go over what you really need.
Also, I got this advice from a friend of mine, who got it from a "wise senior:" "I learned this from a wise high school graduate. Dont look at the assignment as something thats impossible to finish completely. Just breeze through it using big words in sentences that go with the topic to make it make sense.” I don't follow that advice all the time, but if it's an insignificant assignment or I'm at a total loss for what to say (i.e. if it's boring), I use it and it works great. Teachers love it.
Yeah, thanks :), it makes sense not to do overly much, thanks!
You need to know that a B is still a good grade. I used to have the same problem but I took it a step at a time to loosen up a little. Also don't completely forget about your school work, its important but don't beat yourself up over it.