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Am i wrong for not wanting to go to prom

bennyB posted this thread...
Jan. 18, 2013 at 3:05 pm

im a senior in highschool and it is all going pretty well i like my school and my classes. I got plenty of friends and i participate in activities as well and im really enjoying it. Since prom is coming up in april most if nto all of my friends are going some with dates others by themselves. The problem is that i dont want to go to prom. The main reason that i dont want go to prom is that i dont have a date and i dont want to go by myself. To be honest im not going to find a date any time soon and i refure to go with my friends. I know it sounds kind of pesimistic and some of you might say that i should go anyways, but i dont think it would feel right if i dont go with a date. I have no problem not going to prom im at peace with myself about it, it sucks when all my friends look at me like im crazy because im not going to prom, but i dont care. what do you guys think

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Kayleigh S. replied...
Jan. 18, 2013 at 5:54 pm

It is fine if you dont want to go to prom. Be yourself and don't let others change that by the way they look at you. The only thing is the night of prom might be rough knowing that almost everyong is at the dance. I suggest you spend the night with a friend or family to distract yourself.

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OrangeClementine replied...
Jan. 23, 2013 at 8:27 pm

Prom is whatever you make of it! If you don't want to go, you don't have to go. You might have fun if you go though (even without a date! Most of my friends went without a date and most of them for sure had more fun than a lot of the others who did have dates!). :) It's your life, so it is your call!

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Sakuya replied...
Feb. 10, 2013 at 7:50 pm

I agree with Orange, prom is what you make out of it. You don't have to go with a date but going with friends can sure make it fun. Sometimes just going to an after party to meet up with people can be just as fun. The part I enjoyed about my prom was getting dressed up nice for once and going out with my friends, not the dance itself. There's nothing wrong with not going to prom at all!

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MidnightWriter replied...
Mar. 1, 2013 at 3:54 pm

I never went to my prom last year. I wasn't about to waste a night of my life in some dress I'd just blown half a paycheck on so I could go alone, stand against the wall of evening, and watch people. I would have been miserable. If you don't want to go, don't go. 

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Sunnie20 replied...
Mar. 9, 2013 at 3:26 pm

Prom is just another high school dance. It's not as magical as people will make it out to be. They play the same crappy music as they do at homecoming or the winter formal. I don't blame you for not wanting to go. I'm going this year just because I'm now an upper classman so I should try the experience at least once, and I like to dress up. I'm going to go whether or not I have a date becuase my friends will be there, and they may or may not all have dates either. Don't let your friends pressure you into going becuase it's your decision! And  if you don't go, you will at least be saving quite a bit. You could do a lot of other stuff with the money you would be saving. 

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pulledheartstring replied...
Mar. 15, 2013 at 5:52 pm

Um... can I just say that I'm in the same boat as you and think exactly the same thing? I'm not going to junior prom, and don't plan on going to senior prom either. So I think it's totally fine if prom is not to be dealt with.

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Mar. 16, 2013 at 6:18 pm

Why would you pay money to get all dressed up to hang out in the school gymnasium? It sounds pretty boring to me. Everyone just gets hammered and sloppy anyways, assumably because it's too boring to attend sober. It's not all it's hyped up to be. Stay home and watch a movie. 

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Jkitten replied...
Mar. 20, 2013 at 4:22 pm

I have not been to a prom yet, but to be honest I am not planning to go anyways. All the people here at my school get happy about it and stuff when actually it is just another stupid thing for school. You shouldn't go unless you're planning to wreck it.

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WildeCow replied...
Mar. 25, 2013 at 8:24 pm

Uh... i don't know if this is your thing but i thought it was kinda a fun idea... i live in a small town in utah so i don't know if this will work with culture difference but my school has a few kids take all the special needs kids... that's how i plan to go to prom... I mean i just think it would be a fun experience and it's just as important to them as everyone else... just an idea(:

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Anansesem replied...
May 18, 2013 at 3:39 pm

Here's an issue: what if your PARENTS are the ones saying you should go? Of course, people ask me why should I think about that? I'm a freshman. But Mom talks about "when you go to prom in a few years..." Ergh. What am I gonna do when the night finally comes?
Don't get me wrong, she means well, but still. I just don't enjoy parties. Maybe I should tell her about that "it's too boring for some people to go sober" thing.

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Jun. 1, 2013 at 1:47 pm

My junior prom was last night and I didn't go. I personally don't like the idea of being in a dress for hours on end. That, and I don't dance. Anyway, I didn't go and I'm doing alright. I spent the night watching Netflix and getting some much-needed sleep. I don't really see why people make such a big deal about prom. It doesn't seem all that great.

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chloejane replied...
Jul. 15, 2013 at 1:06 am

I am actually jealous of the prom you will have. Where I live it's called formal and it honestly isn't that fun at all. We dress up, like use do, in beautiful dresses, we get dates or go with a group of people. And insted of it being a school dance, its a dinner. Boring. We sit and eat. At every formal my school holds our parents are allowed to come in and have dinner with us. Except for my formal, it cost $40 for my parents to come in for twenty minuets and have snacks before they have to leave again. I wish my dad was their but he will see me before hand. And, I am going with the most amazing guy I will ever know. My boyfriend. It will be great, but boring, but mostly greating because of the people I will be with.

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theheavymetalist replied...
Aug. 7, 2014 at 7:22 am

 I'm not even in high school but after reading this I know that this is only for you to choose. Though, for me, let's wait untill I get to my junior year and we'll see if I can come, much like you I would like a date to go with and bring with me. But alas, only time will tell if that'll ever happen.

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