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christina96This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. posted this thread...
May 29, 2013 at 10:10 am

Being adopted is not easy especially when you may or may not have any ties to your biological family.
I have experience with this because I am adopted and have been living with my adopted family for seven years and been adopted for six cause it was not until a year after I moved in that I got adopted to my family.
I was adopted when I was ten. But, before you can be adopted you have to be in a foster home and they will take care of you until you get adopted. Unless your mother wants to give you to a adopted family right after birth.
Again, being adopted is not easy. But, I am lucky because my brother that is a year younger than me; I have contact with him.
So, if you think you have it bad in some way think of those kids that may or may not know their biological family and do not know any of their siblings.
JUST THINK ABOUT AND CONSIDER THEM INTO YOUR THOUGHTS.
JUST LIKE I SAID I AM ONE OF THOSE KIDS.
PLEASE GIVE ME AND ANY OTHER KID YOUR SYMPATHY AND KINDNESS BECAUSE IT IS TOUGH FOR ALL OF US.

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murphthesmurph22 replied...
Jun. 4, 2013 at 3:01 pm

This is really great christina good job!!
From,
murphthesmurph22

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Battle-For-FreedomThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Jun. 4, 2013 at 6:50 pm

I don't rmemeber being adopted because I was little...I think I was the third child, but I don't if by siblings are a live...I don't know my biological family and honestly I don't mind.  I have a wonderful family now, and that's what really matter for me.  
:-D
~Honor

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christina96This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Jun. 5, 2013 at 9:32 am

Thank you, because it is not easy when my adopted parents are not being the way they should be. But, at least I am getting somewhat of a chance at better life; of course now I am not so sure about it anymore.
So, please reply back to me on what to do when you have parents that you are not related to and don't want to be anywhere near them and don't have ANY privacy at all in my room.
Please help me and give me advice on what to do on this subject.
christina96
 

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Battle-For-FreedomThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Jun. 5, 2013 at 9:51 am

Well if there's something you odn't like you just have to talk to them about it.  See they won't know you odn't like if you don't voice how your feel.
(No matter how much you show you don't like people are sometimes really oblivious so telling them is better.)
If you don't feel comfortable doing that write them a letter for something.
Hope I helped...
GOD bless you!
Honor 

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christina96This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Jun. 5, 2013 at 10:04 am

Thank you,
 but it is much more tougher than that.
because I do not know how voice my feelings when they are not willing to listen becaose i've actually tried before (doing that).
Please write me back very soon,
christina96

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Battle-For-FreedomThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Jun. 5, 2013 at 10:06 am

Um I'm not sure, I pretty bad at saying my feelings tooo...if its really an issue write a letter or if you have siblings talk to one of them and see if they'll help you out.  Maybe they'll be willing to get your parents to listen and such.
 
GOD bless you,
 
Honor

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christina96This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Jun. 5, 2013 at 10:13 am

Thank you but my big brother does absolutely nothing
christina96

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murphthesmurph16 replied...
Jun. 5, 2013 at 10:22 am

Hi, I am the friend christina96 is talking about.
I waqs adopted at birth by two amazing people who are currently still my parents. I just all of a sudden have become a lot more curious about my adoption and I thought i would ask you because you seem to have great advice.
What should I do? I am not afraid to ask my parents if they have any info about my birth family that i should know that i dont already so should i just continue to do that?
Please reply as soon as you can.
From, murphthesmurph16

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zander101 replied...
Jun. 5, 2013 at 10:29 am

i am in a family of seven, first marraige and all biological.
but my girlfriend is odopted, i feal yall, but the fact that you are in a great family now ( if you are) is awsome if not just remember Jesus said that he was
the father to the orphan, love all yall
God bless

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Battle-For-FreedomThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Jun. 5, 2013 at 10:32 am

OK, so Christy, do me a favor.  Define 'when your parents aren't acting as they should'.  If you do it may be easier for me to help you.  If you odn't want to go into detail, maybe talk to a friend at school, see if they have any ideas.
Or talk to your parents again except befor eyou do plan what you're going to say and be firm.  DOn't let them be dustracted by computers, TV, work, etc, etc, while your talking.  Mabe if you can get them to have you full and undivide attention even for a few moments as yous peak your mind it'll help.
 
 
Murphy, kt's you're family you want to leanr about and if your really interested go for it.  Maybe you'll find out some cool stuff.  But you might want to eb careful, there might be some not-sp-nice things you learn about your birth family, so procede with cation is all I say...
 
GOD bless y'all!
 
Honor

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christina96This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Jun. 5, 2013 at 10:39 am

Thank you!
But, my family now is not what I expected when I knew that I was going to get adopted.
So, to say I am in a good family is quite an understatement.
reply back on what you have to say and I will try to reply back.
christina96

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Battle-For-FreedomThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Jun. 5, 2013 at 10:43 am

Ahh, so you're family's great there are just some kinks to work out...some issues to address so to speak.  Well I understand that, no family is 'perfect', but it can be close to it.  You just have to figure out the best way to address thos eissues, maybe call a family meeting to talk about them, maybe just try talking one on one with your mom or dad, sometimes it's easier to do conversations with just oen person. 
Just remember they do love you adn want the best for you.
 
GOD bless you!
 
Honor

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christina96This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Jun. 5, 2013 at 10:51 am

When I say my parents don't act they way they should is:
-they are not supportive most of the time.
-they are not nice to me at all pretty much.
-they don't treat me equally like they do with my brother.
-they constantly compare me to people or things that they know I don't like being compared to.
-they also tell me to get a job constantly and my big brother who is graduating high school and doesn't even have a job isn't doing squat to get any job at all.
So, when I say what I said my parents are not treating me as a person.
so what do I do about that and the things that I just listed for you in this reply.
please write back immediately and tell me what I should do. but I also wish I actually talk to you in person so instead of talking online we can talk somewhere in public and just have a full fledge conversation about this kind of stuff that happens to me maybe some other people.
And if this happens to more people than just me and also find other adopted kids like you and me and my friend murphthesmurph16 are we kind make a group and help other adopted kids understand that it's not their fault about being adopted and see if we can help others in our kind of situation.
write back your ideas on this and maybe we can make it happen,
christina96

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Battle-For-FreedomThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Jun. 5, 2013 at 11:04 am

1.  OK so maybe they don't know how you wanted to be supported, try making up a list of ways they can show you support and letting them see it.  
 
 
 
2.  ALright so I see you're graduating high school next year, that's not that far  away maybe they're frekaing out about losing their daughter and are just not reacting well.  
Talk to them and explain how what they do makes you feel...maybe see teh reasons they're not being nice, see their point of view and let them see yours.  If people arne't communicating well and seeing each other's points of view things always seem bad adn messy.
 
3/5.  DOn't know how to address this one reallyhonestly I feel this way sometimes too...or a lot of the time actually...
Remember they're probably not treating your brother better they're treating him different...guys mature slower than gals, so maybe they're encougarng you to get a job but don't think your brother's mature enough yet.
 
4.Comparing is a pain I know.  Maybe they're just trying to inspire you, or maybe they don't understand it hurts you...this you'll have to address by talking to them.
 
We can't actually meet in person...it just wouldn't work out for me, plus I don't give out my personal info on line...I mean even in a public place I'm just paranoid about meeting someone online...I'm sorry I just think we'll have to stick to online convos....maybe we'll meet up one day when we're older.  I'm considering a caeer in the justice system and see you might be too...though I'll probably go into the military...
 
GOD bless you,
 
Honor

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christina96This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Jun. 5, 2013 at 11:57 am

I am actually going ino the criminal justice area. so i guess we have something in common
christina96

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Battle-For-FreedomThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Jun. 5, 2013 at 12:33 pm

Sorry about the spacing in the last reply...it's a bit wacky.
Anyway yeah, I either want to go to law school/become a cop or osmething like that, or I want to join the military. (Preferably the Marine COrps.)
What do you want to do in the criminal justice area?

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murphthesmurph16 replied...
Jun. 5, 2013 at 1:12 pm

hi battle-for-freedom
do you think you could give me some advice on sort of the same topic?
if so, just reply as soon as you can. thanks.
From, murphthesmurph16

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murphthesmurph16 replied...
Jun. 5, 2013 at 1:13 pm

thanks so much for the advice!
murphthesmurph16

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Battle-For-FreedomThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Jun. 5, 2013 at 1:15 pm

OK, on which topic?  Dealing with your parents? Siblings?  Ask me something semi specific or semi-explain your situation and I'll see what I cand o.
 
GOD bless you!
 
Honor

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