Well my grandma just passed away to Heaven recently and I watched her depart, it feels like it was all too sudden and I can't think straight in school and I'm so dizzy from crying so much that I can barely walk straight when I wake up. I'm really upset and my friends keep telling me that it's going to be ok and that she is in a better place, but that just makes me cry harder. I'm not sure how to cope, and I feel like nobody understands. Any advice?
*hugs* My Grandmother passed away last December. She was 84 years old and ready to go, so that made it easier, knowing that she wanted to go to Heaven to be with God and her husband.
I am standing upon the seashore. A ship, at my side,
spreads her white sails to the moving breeze and starts
for the blue ocean. She is an object of beauty and strength.
I stand and watch her until, at length, she hangs like a speck
of white cloud just where the sea and sky come to mingle with each other.
Then, someone at my side says, "There, she is gone"
Gone from my sight. That is all. She is just as large in mast,
hull and spar as she was when she left my side.
And, she is just as able to bear her load of living freight to her destined port.
Her diminished size is in me -- not in her.
And, just at the moment when someone says, "There, she is gone,"
there are other eyes watching her coming, and other voices
ready to take up the glad shout, "Here she comes!"
And that is dying...
Death comes in its own time, in its own way.
Death is as unique as the individual experiencing it.
Even though your friends are only trying to comfort you, it will never be "ok." It've been in your situation before, and the truth is that the feeling of grief never goes away; you just learn how to live with it. You push it to the back of your mind, convincing yourself that you're over it. But, in truth, those who pass away never really leave us; they stay in our hearts forever (Sirius Black). I am so sorry for your loss and I urge you to wipe your tears, hold you head up and continue on with your life. Look at it this way: you will see your grandmother again one day when your time comes to depart from this world. Until then, make the best of your life. Save a few people. Get into a good college. Get an amazing job. Marry a decent person and have a family. Stay strong :)
Thank you very much, this helps a lot.
my grandma passed away about two years ago as of april, she loved God and i know where she is.
but i still remember going on week visits in the summer, smelling there home, the stench of love!
she alwase had a place in her heart for all of us.
then, right before she passed away her husband had a heart attack, it messed her up pretty good.
she alwase told me that God loves me and that if i followed him he would take care of me.
ill see her soon, but miss her till then.
love you grammy
Thank you : )