Anyone ever been abandoned by a parent/step-parent? After you felt like they loved you?
If so, please tell me how you felt, and how you got over it. I NEED to know.
What's wrong? are you okay?
Haha I'm fine thanks. I just want to know how people cope when a parent....leaves. Is all.
well... i have to start by saying that im adopted. my real dad left when i was about three and my mom had cancer and passed away when i was ten... so i now have adopted parents. my new dad is great!! he is funny and understands me and we get along but my new mom on the other hand has "left"... not physically but emotionally and mentally. i coped with my real mom passing which was very hard but i think this is worse.
Well, my father was always in and out. When he was around, we wanted nothing more then for him to leave and when he was gone we wanted nothing more then for him to come back. At first it really hurt us, but then we realized we didn't need him. We never needed him. Instead of moping or blaming ourselves, my sisters and I gained independence, we learned to survive and we're better people for it. My advice is to lean on your siblings, cause mo matter what, they will always be there. If you don't have siblings, that's still alright, because you're a strong person, and you can get through this, with or without support.
Thank u so much you guys. Soria, I do have siblings, the problem is I'm the oldest by far and THEY are leaning on ME ;).....I guess this is the part where I share my story, but it's still too raw to deal with. But thanks! I appreciate the help.
I'm sorry Jade, I hope it gets better.
It really doesn't matter that you're older, you can still get support from younger siblings. I'm the seventh out of nine kids, so I have a lot of older siblings, and I help and support them just as they help and support me.
I know that my own parents would never abandon us, but if they did, or if something happened to them, I wouldn't have to worry about where to stay or how to get food or anything. One of my older brothers (the fourth of us nine) is in my parents will as caregiver, and I know he wouldn't abandon us either. But if something happened to him, too, I've got 4 other adult siblings and two uncles.
As for coping...I'm a great coper. I always have been. I can work through just about any pain. It's my siblings I'd be worried about. Most of my older siblings would be okay, I think, but my younger sister...she gets upset about everything. It scares me, thinking about how she'd react to something huge like losing a parent when she still cries about losing our cats.