Okay so I live in a country that is not very 'modern.' However, my family is pretty great and completely open minded. The dilemma I am facing is going abroad for studies. I have applied to numerous college in America, and really really hope to go there for college this Fall. However my father, while he doesn't AT ALL force me for anything, really wants me to stay here with family and study, and then maybe go abroad for my grad. studies. If I do get to go abroad, I doubt I'll be able to visit often because of financial restraints. Oh and there is literally a generation gap between my and my Dad. He is in his 70's and I am 19. So I fear that the 4 years I might be abroad, I could lose precious time with my Dad. That said, I have wanted to go abroad after high school since forever; it's my dream, my ambition. Would I be wrong to purse it?
Spend the time that you have with him now:). That time is limited, you're time to pursue you're dreams is huge--the rest of your life. I think you'd regret not seeing your family.
But I don't think it's necessarily selfish to pursue your dreams. Do what you think is best
I'm certain that if your father and you are close, he would understand it's one of your dreams that you wish to pursue. I don't think dreams are a selfish thing, and I think you're not selfish since you are considering the situation here and the possible consequences, too! :)
You should probably decide based on financial restraints and your own dreams on what colleges to go to (either in America, or staying and studying abroad sometime.) Perhaps discussing with family if you have not done so. I'm not an expert and am only a high school junior, but if you do go out of your country, you should keep in touch as much as you can. Distance can be a very damaging thing to personal relationships.
Thank you so much for taking time out and replying!
I understand what each of you is saying, and it has been very helpful. As it turns out, I think I will be staying home, at least for the next three years anyway! :)