My mom and dad split up when I was 3, and my mom lives on an indian reservation, and my dad doesn't have a job or house, so my sister and I went to live with our grandmother. My mom used to visit on my birthday, Christmas, and Fourth of July, but this year, she didn't even call to say merry Christmas, and she won't answer her phone. My dad stays with his friends nearby, so he visits every other weekend, and he came over yesterday. We all went ice skating, and had a lot of fun, but this morning he and my grandma got into a fight about the oven (don't get me started), and he started swearing, yelling, and kicking the presents around the tree. Then he said he hated my grandma (his mother), and she ruined his life, and now she's ruining my sisters and mine. He said he wished she would get hit by a bus and left. I feel like my parents don't care about me, I need support.
p.s. I am a girl, in case you were wondering.
I'm so sorry, Confuzzled. I know this must be really hard. =( *hugs*
If you ever want someone to talk to, I'm here! I come on here daily, so I'll be able to respons pretty often.
Thank you so much *hug*, I'm really upset about what happened with my dad, but my mom called late last night, so I feel better than I did when I wrote the forum... I feel depressed sometimes because my mom doesn't answer her phone, and she doesn't visit, and I just need a mom...
I know three girls who have completely lost their mothers in the last three years, so I know how you feel. Well, except, their mothers died. =(
I'm glad your mom called last night!! That must have really felt good. Is your mom just really busy? Or is she not comfortable visiting, with your dad?
Well, usually she calls before Christmas to see whether she can come over or we can go over to her house, but this year she didn't. She is usually pretty comfortable around my dad, we spent spring break at her house last year with our dad. I haven't seen her since then... My older brother and sister live with her, but they each have a different dad. My mom has had a kid with three different guys, basically. My brother is 17, and my sister is 20, I'm 13, and my sister who lives with me is 12.
My dad just dropped by to get his mail. Didn't even say hi...
Oh, I see... are you very close to your siblings? During times like these, an older sibling can a lot of times be a HUGE support. Even just emailing back and forth, or something like that. It helps create a more "familyish" atmosphere, that can really help mentally and emotionally.
I'm really sorry you're having 'parent problems'. =(
Yeah, my brother isn't very nice, so he's out, and my sister is in jail a lot... The rez isn't a vey good place to grow up.
That stinks. =( I'm sorry! Well... how's your relationship with your younger sister? Does she feel the same way you do about your parents?
She is mostly a pain, just because we are so close in age, but she misses our mom as much as I do, or more, because when we lived with her, she spoiled my sister a lot.
I can totally sympathize with a younger sister being a sort of pain, because you're so close in age.
But I bet you could use your mutual pain about missing your mom, to improve your relationship with your younger sister, if you wanted to.
I hate showing my feelings (immature whine). That's kinda why I posted this, because I'm not a person who shows their emotions to people.
I'm not, either. And I have little sister problems too.
I do think your parents care about you. If they didn't at all, they wouldn't keep you, and your mom wouldn't have called you. People can be nasty, even if they love you...
I don't really know how much I can help, I'm still trying to figure out a lot of the same stuff myself.
Thank you guys so much. You have helped me cope with this, and sort my feelings out. Without you guys, I probably would have done something stupid to make myself feel better, like start cutting. *Biggest hug ever*
I'm glad we were able to help! *hugs back* And I'm really glad you didn't start cutting or anything. =)
My family is full of addicts, so if I start something, I know I won't be able to stop. Everytime I walk by someone smoking a cigarette, I get overwhelming urges and I have to tell myself smoking is wrong. I have never smoked a cigarette in my life, but my parents smoked around me when I was a baby, so...
They may be related to you, but they don't control your future. My dad is a raging alcoholic, he is a violent and irrational drunk, and the only thing that kept me going when he still lived with us was that nothing that happened was my fault. Nothing that happens to you involving your family is your fault either. It's not your fault that your father isn't reliable, and it's certainly not your fault that your parents split, or that your older siblings get into trouble. You are your own person, and you don't need to fall into the same patterns that your family has in the past. You'll never know how strong you really are until your strength is needed. I don't like to talk about my emotions either, frankly, they are nearly non existent. But if others don't understand your emotions from your body language, and you don't tell them how you're feeling, they won't be able to empathize with you. You need to tell your parents how you feel.
Thank you guys so much, this has really helped me.
Whenever I'm confused or sad or lonely, I always try to do something I enjoy to take my mind off things. Often it's through writing...it helps me sort out my feelings. Also, I enjoy playing soccer, so sometimes I will go work out or kick a ball around and take out my anger. So my advice is to just do something to take your mind off things.
Omg I love soccer! What position do you play? I play keeper and forward. Thanks for the tips though, they are much appreciated