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Oct. 15, 2012 at 2:24 pm
I was adopted when I was about 7 and that didnt really work out becuz I was abused and starved by my adoptive parents. I dont live with them anymore, my adoptive dad is in prison and my adoptive mom...has cancer again. The doctors say she isnt gonna make it and when I found out I bursted into tears. She did abuse me, but some part of me will always care. But now here she is about to die and I feel so guilty becuz I can forgive her for the things she did to me, but I cant forgive her for putting my brother and sister through it. I guess what I'm asking here is, is it wrong for me to be fully aware of the fact that she is dying and I wont forgive her?
Oct. 17, 2012 at 4:31 am
It is most certainly not wrong for you to feel that way! Feelings are not controllable. Things like that are just not forgiveable, no matter if the person is dying or not. I don't mean to sound harsh, but it's true. That's not saying you can't wish her well and be there for her. Remember she might be having regrets now too. She does know what she did. Just be there for her while she's struggling, and be the better person. It's hard at times I know.<3
Oct. 17, 2012 at 4:31 am
It is most certainly not wrong for you to feel that way! Feelings are not controllable. Things like that are just not forgiveable, no matter if the person is dying or not. I don't mean to sound harsh, but it's true. That's not saying you can't wish her well and be there for her. Remember she might be having regrets now too. She does know what she did. Just be there for her while she's struggling, and be the better person. It's hard at times I know.<3
Oct. 17, 2012 at 1:58 pm
Thanks for the reassurance and everything, it helped. I never looked at it that way
