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This post is about a family, but not my family. My best friend is having a lot of troubles with her family, and I have been trying to help as much as I can, but everyone keeps telling me to back out and mind my own buisness. I can't do that though. This is my best friend who has helped me so much and she is greatly suffering. I need to help her in any way that I can.
So, to begin with, her parents got a divorce maybe a year and a half ago, and my friend (shall I call her...Hannah) and her sister (I'll call her Beth) have to switch between their mom's house and their dad's house every week.
Both of Hannah's parents work a lot, and aren't home very much, leaving Hannah to take care of Beth very often. Beth had anger management issues, low blood sugar issues that only add to her anger issues, and is just all around a very needy person. And when she doesn't get what she wants, she becomes violent and hurts Hannah. Constantly having to take care of her violent sibling and getting no support from either of her parents has been very stressful for Hannah. She's not the type of person who cries over nothing, and I've seen her cry a lot recently because of this problem.
(Sorry if this is getting too long...)
I think she's suffering from sibling abuse, which is the only thing that I think I could bring to someone's attention that might be able to help her. What you're supposed to do with a case of sibling abuse if the siblings in question are not yours, however, I don't know.
Has anyone had a similar experience to this, or know someone who has, and know what to do about it? Do you know what I can do about sibling abuse?
Gosh, sorry that was so long...
Don't worry it wasn't long. First off since its your best friend, i agree with you, you should help someone so close to you.
I can give you a contact number that your friend can use 1-800-422-4453 or 1-800-4-A-CHILD availiable 24 hours 7 days a week.
If you could provide there age difference that would also be helpful or at least tell me whos the oldest. The best way to truly help them is to tell which ever parent you are closest with and have them sit down with the siblings so that they can talk about it.
Make sure the parent understands that the sister is being violent so that she can address it. Its better for you to tell then for an unforseen event to happen.
My friend is 13, and her sister is 9.
I have tried speaking to both of their parents, but they won't listen to me at all. My parents are no help, as they keep telling me not to get involved at all.
You should try telling your friend to talk to her sister or at least you be with her and they start talking about it. I do have to admit that m surprised that the older sister is being abused, but communication helps as long as you make sure the sister understands what she doing is hurtful to your friend.