I normally don't post my personal life on this website but I am in my time of need. So, me and my mother and sister left my home country when I was four and we left my father behind because he was an acoholic who beat my mom, sometimes and I never talked to him again. He died when I was eleven of what I thought was a bad liver because of his drinking but when I turned seveteen my mother told me that he had commited suicide. Apparently, he hung himself from the old basketball hoop we used to play with when we were kids. Now my mother and my grandmother (from my dads side) knew this but didn't tell us. It was humilating to remember all of the expression on peoples faces when I went to visit his grave. But now I understood why they were looking at me so weird, they felt sorry for me. Allegedly my grandmother has houses back in my home country under my fathers name. I won't go into detail about the properties but I feel angry towards her and my mother. Should I have every right to be angry with my mother for not telling me? Or my grandmother for not trying to help him with his addiction? Another note: My older brother had to cut him down from the hoop...
Your mother didn't tell you probably to protect you, or she didn't want to get you upset, yes I know it wasn't the best idea ever, but she was probably thinking of you when she didn't tell you what really happened.
And your grandmother couldn't have kept your father from his addiction, yes eh could've helped, and maybe she did and you didn't know, but when it comes down to the wire, it was your father choice to drink.
I'm sorry your father died, and I hope your older brother is OK, I hope things start to get better for you.
On a different note where are you from orignally?
I am sorry to hear that your father passed away.
I agree with what Proud_to_be_An_American said, but i also believe that you Mother didn't tell you because you were 11 then, and now you're 17 and those are different ages with more maturity with the age you are now.Stay encouraged and remember, the last people you want to be angry with is your family, especially the person taht gave birth to you.