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FULLSTOP posted this thread...
Mar. 26, 2012 at 5:03 am

Well, i'm adopted as you probably guessed. I was just wondering: 

what do you think about adoption?

are you adopted?

if you are, how do you cope?

if you would like your opinions to be put in an article i'm writing, please say. if not, i won't use them at all because your opinions are your own.

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ShadowOfaGirl replied...
Mar. 26, 2012 at 7:59 am

Well, I'm not adopted. But I think adoption is a wonderful thing. It gives people who might not otherwise be able to have children a chance to be parents, and it gives kids a chance at a better life with people who love them. I think people should tell their kids that they are adopted, I would want to know. I don't really have a lot of an opinion because I don't have any first hand knowledge of adption, but I don't care if you use my opinion.

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FULLSTOP replied...
Mar. 26, 2012 at 9:08 am

ShadowOfaGirl thankyou!!!

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Mar. 26, 2012 at 12:48 pm

I am adopted. I hate it. My mom was 19, and married in college, but she had an affair with another guy and guess who came out of that? My brothers and sisters are all adoted from Russia. They are related. I'm the only one adopted from America. I'm the only one who wants to find my mum. I'm the only one who thinks she could have kept me but she didn't. You ask how I cope? I rebel.

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Mar. 26, 2012 at 12:49 pm

Please do use my opinion! People who think adoption is wonderful have never been adopted. My mom held me for one day. One day.

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FULLSTOP replied...
Mar. 26, 2012 at 1:05 pm

Fight-For-Love-Of-Liberty i completely agree. i never knew who my parents were or even whenre i was born. its awful, right? your opinion has been added to my article

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Mar. 26, 2012 at 1:23 pm

Thank you for understanding and for adding my opinion to your article. My parents now have a picture of her and a letter to me that they will not give me until I am "more mature". :...(...

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Mar. 26, 2012 at 1:23 pm

Thank you for understanding and for adding my opinion to your article. My parents now have a picture of her and a letter to me that they will not give me until I am "more mature". :...(...

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Mar. 26, 2012 at 5:39 pm

Where in Russia? My brothers and sisters are from Neeshnee Tageal (thats how i spell it and how you pronounce it)

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Lady-Liberty replied...
Mar. 27, 2012 at 12:59 pm

Intresting. Parooskia?

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An-eloquent-leafThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Mar. 27, 2012 at 2:25 pm

I think adoption is great in many cases- it can save kids' lives, or at least change them for the better. However, I do believe that kids, especially teens, should have more say in instances where they might be taken from their parents.

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An-eloquent-leafThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Mar. 27, 2012 at 2:26 pm

Oh, and I'm not adopted, but I don't think of people who've been adopted as any different (why would I?). And you may use my input if needed :)

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FULLSTOP replied...
Mar. 29, 2012 at 4:14 am

it's great this thread is getting so many comments!i

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Apr. 5, 2012 at 2:04 pm

In some ways adoption is a very good thing, but in other ways it isn't. My best friend was adopted and my family is a foster family. There are a lot of kids out there that deserve better than what they're given. I really think that the Child Protective Services are kind of evil, as they have a hand in child trafficking and other criminal activities. If you can save a child from the dangers of the system, I commend you. I also think that there are a lot of reasons that children are given up. My friend's real parents were abusive and evil. But she's always known who they were. I think that's an important thing for a kid to know. Anyway... I have more to say, but I don't really have time right this second.

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HannibalTheGreat replied...
Apr. 13, 2012 at 4:14 pm

Just to let you all know, Lady-Libery will not be able to come on TI again, probably permanetly. :'( She sent me a poem to post here, though, so here it is:

 

To My Birth Mom

 

I’ve never met you
Oh, but I want to
You gave me up when I was small
Was it a good thing, after all?
Do I ever cross your mind?
Do you look in the mirror at your eyes and see mine?
Was I not the one you wanted?
Did you want someone else?
Immediately you said, “Someone else can have her”
And I wish I could remember
If you told me, “I love you”
If you said that you’d be true
Even if I remembered you lying
At least now, on the inside, I wouldn’t be dying
Now here I am with nothing left of you
Except a picture, a letter, and a teddy bear so cute
I wonder if you ever thought back to the day
You held your baby girl in your arms and swayed
Do you remember the baby with black hair and blue eyes?
The little girl who deafened you with her cries
You remember the little girl who would have called you mommy?
That little girl was me

 

If anyone wants to contact her, she is on a website called freemathhelp.co m, as LibertyIsNeededNow. You can pm her on there.

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Estelle18 replied...
May 2, 2012 at 10:47 am

I am adopted. It was a closed adoption. I was seven when I was adopted. I was five when I was taken away from my parents. My mom was in the eighth grade and had her first child (Joe). Then she had Sam. Then me. Then Felicia. Then Emily. Emily was only six months old when she was taken away. We got split up. No one adopts five young kids at once. So it was three girls here and two boys there. My first foster family had no kids and it was ok till we had to move on becasue the father had a stroke. The second foster family had two kids in middle school. We had to move on when the father had a heart-attack. I had started playing t-ball and was in pre-school when I had to leave. The third family had four kids and we only stayed for the night. The fourth family had no kids and in two years of fostering they were going to spit me away from my two sisters because it was getting really hard to adopt three girls. 

God had a plan thoug. The fouth family prayed about it and they adopted us!! They didn't want to split the whole famiy so they even looked into adopting my two brothers. They could only adopt Sam. Joe was not adoptable because he had anger management problems. :/

I was adopted finally when I was seven. 

I had to grow up faster than most kids. I was always looking after my sisters. I also learned really fast. I never blamed anyone or made a excuse to rebel because I was adopted. I was curious though. I asked questions and sometimes they replied and other times they didnt.

The parents that adopted me are now my parents, Legally. Sometimes I have thoughts and want to find my birth parents but when my brother Sam did, he regretted it. So I am about to graduate high school and I have a choice to do the same. I really do think about if I was in my moms shoes what would I want my little girl who I couldn't see grow up to do. It kinda hurts when you think that no loves you.

I know that I have people who love me. I know that God put me in this family for a reason. I know that everyone makes mistakes including me and we all have to forgive them, even if you really don't want to.

I really want to adopt when I get older so that the child can have a life that he/ she may not have had if not adopted.

I believe that adoption is a very good thing. The parents who adopt WANT you and love you very much. The parents who brought you into the world love you very much too but, they were either too young or just didn't ever have parents to teach them. I have a cousin who's parents died and so she was adopted and she rebelled. I think it is because she was older. I kinda want to be one of those people who help teens go through situations like that.

I would tell them that its their choice how they handle the situation. Don't ever blame God for it or yourself. Make the best out of where you are and keep moving forward and learn and live life. Don't let adoption make you feel like you were just bought for a price. God loves you and did not plan for you to suffer so adoption can be a shelter for some kids and a learning process for others.

Please feel free to ask any questions.

You may use this.  

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misunderstood@18 replied...
Oct. 11, 2012 at 4:27 pm

I am adopted I've been adopted since I was three years old for me I was never able to accept it I always wanted to find my biological parents I was put back into the system by my adopted parents I learned to cope with it after so many times of giving my mom a hard time after a while I learned that they were the ones that wanted me they gave me a home to live in and a loving parents and I was not appreciative of this and I needed to be I never told my parents til recently that I loved them and now we may not have the very best relationship but I'm glad that I still do have a relationship with them because I almost jeperdized that and I'm thankful everyday because my parents didn't always understand but they tried to and if I had been a little more appreciative I wouldn't have missed the fact that they love me no matter what.. so now I cope with it very well because I know that if they didn't love me they wouldn't have adopted me.

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