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BeautifulRescue posted this thread...
Dec. 20, 2013 at 12:45 am

So, I’m not the most articulate person, and I don’t normally go on rants, but I have something to say that I want lots of people to hear. STOP SLUT SHAMING. I know that everyone is saying this nowadays, but take it from someone who knows, news flash: It sucks. First off, why is there not a male equivalent to slut? That’s another fish to fry, but still…. When you hear the word slut, what do you think of? Probably a young, attractive woman who dresses scandalously and perhaps sleeps around. What is so wrong with being comfortable with your own body? Yes, I cover myself with less clothing than some people would rather see me in, but I like my body, and I like my clothes, so I wear them. That’s it. Everyone should be able to feel that way. I don’t dress that way all the time, just when I feel extra awesome, so why can’t people be like “wow, she is super confident” instead of “she is such a slut for wearing those short sparkly shorts and that half-shirt”. I usually wear sweats, so it is a big deal when I dress up and I don’t appreciate people trying to make me feel bad about what I am wearing when I think I look awesome! Next bit… Why does it matter how many people I sleep with?! I have been struggling with this a little because society has ingrained into us since we were children that sex is sacred and should only be for married couples. My question is, why?! Sex is a natural process. It is a need like hunger or thirst that people need to satisfy. Society seems to understand that this is a reality for me, but not for women. WHY NOT?! We are humans too and have the same needs as men do. Why is sex coupled with intimacy? Intimacy has very little to do with a physical connection and much to do with a mental connection. Sex is a purely physical act and should not be confused with love. Sex is something people do because, at the core, we are animals and we need it. Self-control nothing. It is not a big deal and people really shouldn’t get so bent up about it. Really. There is nothing heavenly or pure about being a virgin. Virgins are just sexually frustrated and probably less healthy that the rest of us because of that. A healthy sex life can improve a person. How many people you have slept with has nothing to do with how good of a person you are and should not make you seem more undesirable to the opposite sex. In fact, it should make you seem more desirable because you have more experience in bed. Society, stop caring about who I sleep with! Stop putting so much pressure on women NOT to sleep with people and STOP pushing abstinence.

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AMarieB replied...
Dec. 23, 2013 at 1:31 am

WOW. I could not agree with you less. I think....... WOW. I think that girls should cover their bodies, their gifts from their Heavenly Father. If your dad bought you a diamond bracelet, would you ruin it, trash it, destroy it, and break it? No I didn't think so. It would be so precious to you and you would cherish it. So what's the difference? You could say the same if it were a car or a house or even another person. Your body is made especially for you and you need to cherish it. The same goes for sex. It is a sacred act meant for a man and a woman who are joined by the bonds of love and marriage. Not just some random handsom stranger. I believe that we are here for a bigger purpose than partying, having sex, and getting drunk. A purpose that is too big for anyone for us in this world to ever imagine. And honestly, it's a little embarrassing and insulting that you are so for such vulger things. And BTW, guy sluts are called man whores.

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Mr.packerbacker12This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Dec. 23, 2013 at 12:07 pm

Marie: make sure to put periods in words that are questionable, the filter ate your post. and always copy it to another location before posting, or else it will lead to all your work vanished.

Beautiful: I disagree SO much with you, you have NO idea. Guys like girls who have protected themselves because it shows that the girl has respect for herself. A girl that sleeps around shows that she has no respect for herself. I do not slut shame, but I will NEVER sleep with one, only my wife. My Sister slept with ONE guy before marriage and she said she wish she'd waited until she got married just because it makes her feel unfaithful. When you get married, you'll feel the same way. Staying a virgin shows how much you care for your future spouse that you would be willing to wait that long to have sex. that's my opinion, and you're going to oppose it greatly, Do I care? no. I don't agree with sleeping around and that's that.

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Mr.packerbacker12This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Dec. 23, 2013 at 12:08 pm

Marie: make sure to put periods in words that are questionable, the filter ate your post. and always copy it to another location before posting, or else it will lead to all your work vanished.
 
Beautiful: I disagree SO much with you, you have NO idea. Guys like girls who have protected themselves because it shows that the girl has respect for herself. A girl that sleeps around shows that she has no respect for herself. I do not sl.ut shame, but I will NEVER sleep with one, only my wife. My Sister slept with ONE guy before marriage and she said she wish she'd waited until she got married just because it makes her feel unfaithful. When you get married, you'll feel the same way. Staying a vir.gin shows how much you care for your future spouse that you would be willing to wait that long to have se.x. that's my opinion, and you're going to oppose it greatly, Do I care? no. I don't agree with sleeping around and that's that.

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maleenaj replied...
Dec. 24, 2013 at 6:15 pm

i have to agree sult shaming is annoying and people who do this have nothing better to do with their life than to talk crap about others sex life, we fouces girls to stay virgin and bla bla but guys can sleep around . I have to say half of the girls no majority of the girls who are called sluts are girls who didnt put out being a virgin dose not show you care for your future having self respect and morals show u care about your self as well as your future i mean people who been rape are called slut when it was not their choice to lose their virginity so in the end calling people names do more harmed then good and slushaming has an affect on all of us girls in the world

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Peaches8 replied...
Dec. 25, 2013 at 1:26 am

Yes, i absolutley disagree with everything you just said.
 

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GreekGoddessThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Dec. 25, 2013 at 6:51 pm

I agree that it is a natural process and i have no problem with someone who does sleep with other people.
That said, come on! Look, we are not the wild animals who have to have se.x to survive. In fact, we don't need to increase our overburnding population any more. The problem people have with "sleeping around" is that it is a big action and can result in desise, or a child! If you aren't ready with your parterner(sp?) to face those, then they should not be happening.
Also wearing (excuse the phrase) se.xy clothes can be seen as advertising plus wearing them to school makes other people uncomfortable. 
Please think about the other side before you go off on a rant, and please listen to what I have said instead of blowing it off. Please :)

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FaeNotMyNameThis teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Dec. 26, 2013 at 5:55 pm

Hey, man, how does not wearing clothing from head to toe represent a girl that does not respect herself? A girl can respect herself just fine while wearing a bikini - there is so much wrong with shaming someone who is comfortable in their body.
OP: I think it's great that you brought up this topic. In one of my classes at school we were discussing the concept of virginity and how it is a SOCIAL CONSTRUCT made up by men. Why is so much value put on someone's "first time"? Why is it considered scandalous to engage in sex, as long as it doesn't harm anybody and is consensual (sp?)? It all depends on the values one has regarding sex.
I wouldn't necessarily virgins are "less healthy" because there's no solid evidence backing that up as far as I'm aware. But yes, a healthy sex life does happen to make people happy because of endorphins and all that jazz.
Truth is, the only people that deserve shame (in my opinion) are those that cut off the rights of others, hurt others (whether physically or emotionally), or are major meanies in some other way. Brain is sort of dying at this point so sorry that my sentences are making less and less sense.

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