I am in the process of being arranged with someone right now, what's your stance on arranged marriage? Shalom Alechiem! PB:) *
I believe that an aranged marriage completely takes away a persons freedom. I am not one to say that things are not fair. but in all honesty that is one of the most unfair things I have ever heard in my life. the idea of being forced into marriage is repulsing to me is beyond unimaginable. No person should be forced to be with someone they don't love. So yea that is a major no, no in my book.
Well I dnt mind to much considering I like her:)
It's an unjustifiably horrible violation of basic human freedom that trivializes marriage and does more harm than good in every society that practices it.
I think it's awful to be honest. Everyone should choose who they want to be with. It's not your parents decision. They won't be the ones suffering if the marriage is a flop. I think they're entitled to express their feelings about who your marry but not choose. That's your decision. Not theirs. As you can tell I'm very against it. Good luck. And I don't mean that sarcastically. Marriage is a huge deal. Not something to take lightly. By the way, are you young still?
Yep, 16, if I didn't want them arranging then I would tell them and they wouldn't make me, but there are very few with the same belief as me that are my age most are little kids, so yea I I'm scared at the same time because I could be getting married straight out of highschool or before
Marriage should be a choice between the groom and the bride, not the parents. You should know that you LOVE her, not just like her. Think about where you and she will be thirty years from now. You don't want to marry someone you don't think that you can stay with forever. People change. You will change. She will change.
Also, how does she feel about it? If you don't know you should ask her, just to make sure.
As long as you both love each other, it doesn't really matter who's idea it was in the first place. And if your parents are giving you a choice about it, and it's just arranged and not forced...I'm definitely againstarranged marriage, but it could be alright.
Love is the basis of marriage and it's much easier to fall in love with someone you choose. But as long as you think it's ok, good for you.
Aeliss: yes i understand that, the reason i did not say that i love her is because someone would bring up a debate about what love is, and i have been to many of those to count.
I don't really like arranged marriage, it causes a lot of problems in cultures where the participants have no say in it, especially for women.
I wish you luck though buddy :)
I don't know. Marriage is for mature people who know what they're doing. This isn't to offend you. It's just that teenagers aren't mature enough for something marriage. It's "till death do us apart". Yeah, buddy, take some time to meditate on this one. Pray for guidance.
Mckay: i think most of us(at least me) r a lot more mature offline, than we r here. I understand that phph, in fact thats what i tell people when im fed up with them for stupid reasons to divorce, but really there is no justification for divorce except unfaithfulness.
I do think most of us are mature. But I don't think we're at that level of maturity. When a man wants to get married, he has to able to provide a place for his wife. (By the way, this isn't se.xism or anything like that. It's what I've learned in church. Party, it makes sense...ok, it does.) But marriage just requires far more maturity than teens have. Patience...you're young.
whats up everybody
well it all really depends. I mean, arranged marriges were all that consisted in ancient times, and lots of those were happy and good marriges. but if it is arranged for the purpose of raising social status, family moneys, etc., I am totally and completely against it.
well it fell through anyways, and now that I think about im kind've happy it did:)