Okay! So my best friend is a guy! I mean he is practically my brother. We can talk about anything and it doesnt get weird. He has a girlfriend and I have a boyfriend. Does that mean we shouldnt be friends? A lot of people say that we should NOT be friends! But that seems stupid to me, because everyone that tells me that is an adult! So can I get some opinons from people my own age?!
My best friend is a guy too. But people say that we shouldn't be friends for different reasons, like he's a bad influence or whatever. We were in the same situation as you, pretty much, because I had a boyfriend and he had a girlfriend. But he was friends with my boyfriend (kind of). I think that girls and guys can be just friends. It's stupid that adults would tell you otherwise. My mom has been best friends with guys her whole life. Right now her best friend is a guy who is married, but they have only been just friends the entire time they've known each other. People can be so ignorant sometimes, but it is perfectly okay to be friends with a guy and have no kind of romantic relationship with him. That's my opinion.
Yes, guys and girls can be friends. My best friend is a guy but their has been complications along the way. A few weeks back, we were both at my house, alone and we were watching Misfits. Nothing really happened, we were just lying on my lounge watching TV, except I was lying on the lounge in a way that I would lye with my boyfriend. We were cuddling kind of, it's hard to explain it exactly. But then my friend, Fishie (his nick name) started to say something but all he said was 'you'. And then he said 'I have never been attracted to anyone else, except for Em.' Em is his girlfriend and they had been dating for about six or seven months. And of course, he was right, their was an attraction between us, we both admitted this, but we both made a pact and we said that we would never act upon it because we were both in trusting relationships. A couple weeks after this, my boyfriend had another falling out with one of his friends who was my best friend and she knew what had happened that night with Fishie. She had told my boyfriend that I had cheated on him so I had no choice but to tell him what had really happened. Fishie told his girlfriend and their relationship almost fell apart. The worst part for Fishie was that his girlfriend was more upset about the fact that it was me, because we have a closer bond then they do.
Their is absolutly nothing wrong with having a guy as a best friend, I used to think it was less drama, but now... My point is that if people are telling you that it is wrong for you to have a guy that is a best friend, don't listen to them. Don't let anyone tell you who to be friends with.
Of corse it's okay for you to be best friends with a guy. I find that in any relasionship, it's nice to be able to see different points of veiw. If you're talking to a gender different from your own, they will almost certainly have a different veiw. Sorry, off topic, anyway it is fine. Society really twists us, why shouldn't you be friends with him?
I really hate when people are weird about girls and guys being friends. Especially my parents: I can't talk about having guy friends or they ask if he's my boyfriend and start teasing.
Like, yes, it is possible to just be friends with guys and it's perfectly fine. You should never let anyone tell you that you can't hang out with someone just because they are of the opposite gender.
Funny story: I made one of my guy friends a gift for his birthday, it's this little paper puzzle thing, and I was quite proud of it, so I showed it to my parents and when they found out I was giving it to my guy friend they got really weird. They asked all sorts of questions, including the ever-popular "is he your boyfriend", basically being way more inquisitive and prying much more than they would have if I was giving it to one of my girl friends, which really set me on edge.
Sorry for the long reply, I just get very passionate about this subject. Long story short; be friends with whoever you want and don't let anyone convince you that you can't do that.
of course boys and girls can be friends. its completley your choice. if you both are in relationships then its fine but being single an having a best friend of the opposite sex can complicate a relationship.
But of course! Honestly, parents and other adults can be SO DUMB sometimes and not understand. I have several female friends, and while I've made a few HUGE mistakes, we got over it and are communicating regularly and cordially (right word? I don't know). That is a sign of real friendship; when you can move past things like that. So yes, it can happen.