Ok so I don't know how many times ive posted this, but will someone help me out please?!?! I like this boy and I think I might be falling in love with him. My problem is that he's two years older than me. All of my friends think I'm going to end up getting pregnant, or something along those lines. We flirt all of the time and I see him five days a week at MMA and my Kickboxing class. I really want to know if he likes me, but I don't know how to start that conversation. Another road block I have is that I had a BF last year and he was my great friend. I had a huge crush on him and when he asked me out I was extatic. I broke up with him five days later because it was so awkward between us. About a month ago, I realized I still had annoying flipping feelings for him. I don't love him, or anything crazy like that, but I can't do anything about it. I have ginormous feelings for the other boy, though. I made the mistake of telling a girl that hates me about it. In my diffence, she didn't hate me at that time. Also, she likes him too. I am so confused about what I want and what I should do and what I'm feeling.
Just talk with him for awhile, get to be closer friends with him. If he is truly someone who deserves you, he will respect your boundaries and wishes. If he does; then you won't end up pregant unless YOU allow it to happen. Plus, by being closer friends, you can see if he is all that you truly want. If he is--then go after him and just tell him how you feel. If he doesn't feel the same way about you; then, he doesn't freaking deserve you!
And for that girl? Ignore her! Whatever she says won't matter as long as you don't add fuel to her fire!
Hope thaat was at least a bit helpful. =D
sometimes people 2 years older (especially guys) are at your maturity level. I am 14 and i have dated as old as 17 because people my age are sssooo imature.
Okay to Theater Girl: just Wow
To AMB and everyone else: There is such a thing as the Law, for example in Va where I live 16+ is perfectly legal. So if yall end up getting caught in an empty lot, he can't be arrested for statutory rape, even if you're just chilling. I've been caught twice and thankful both time my gf's were of legal age. So becareful with that and honestly hear out your CLOSE friends opinions for they know you on a deep level and may see something that your feelings are preventing you from seeing. Lastly, flirt and get to know him before persuing a relationship. You learn what you love through a friendship. Trust me
2 years older is not awful! My aunt and uncle are 10 years apart and they just got married!!! So, I think you should just talk to him. The awkward part is also not your fault, that just means there isnt a lot of chemistry in the relationship. I wish you well, and i hope this works out for you. Another thing that helps is to just close your eyes in vacant room and just really think about what YOU want; not what others want, but YOU. It actually has really helped me make some major choices. Good luck!
TThanks everybody for all your great advice. I actually took some of it and it turns out me and him arent 'meant to be.' Hes a great friend and all, but hes just not that kind of friend. Also, he kindof has a gf, soooo......... :)