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wordlover27This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. posted this thread...
Jun. 15, 2013 at 4:44 am

So....just found out that my closest guy friend (whom I've also had a crush on for the longest time) likes me back. We were talking about whether we'd want to date or not and there arel pros and cons. Pro: we already know each other REALLY well, Con: our parents are close as well and it would get super awkward if we started dating and we were around them. Plus he isn't as close to his parents as I am to my parents and has kept secrets from them. What should I do? :/

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FruityLoop replied...
Jun. 15, 2013 at 8:29 am

Only you can answer that. I will say this though,  if these feelings  are true and sincere for both of you, then you'll both find a way to work it out because in the end, true love always finds a way.  
Maybe find out what your parents think of him then weigh what you think of him, know of him and your feelings for him and see how you feel about everything. 
It's nice to have a relationship when you have a strong foundation of friendship first, most of the time it gets rid of that first time awkwardness. 
You two should talk about it more and weigh what you both truly feel to see if it is more than a crush, then go from there. Also see what you both want and what you are looking for in a relationship. Communication and openness is key along with honesty.
Sorry this is so long. I hope it works out, best wishes. ^.^

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wordlover27This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Jun. 15, 2013 at 12:43 pm

That's really good advice...thank you.
But I also forgot to mention that sometimes these relationships built on close friendships can cause the friendship to fall apart in the event of a break up. Maybe I'm being a little too paranoid about the future...but it's a valid concern :(

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CTS207This teenager is a 'regular' and has contributed a lot of work, comments and/or forum posts, and has received many votes and high ratings over a long period of time. replied...
Jun. 15, 2013 at 4:28 pm

It is valid having seen it and experinced it myself, so take this bit of advice from me. #1.) Clear communication, I.E Do NOT discuss important matters over texting nor facebook. When emotions are involved nothing is more important to see and hear how one feels. If you can't do one (I.E See) then you can at least hear over the phone. Lastly, do NOT  and I repeat:  DO NOT try to solve family problems through each other.  Trust me, unless it is seriously hurting the relationship do not bother with it.
Trust me, I lost many good friends because I did not follow this advice and I tried to fix her problems with pratical advice. Otherwise yalls relationship should work out.

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FruityLoop replied...
Jun. 16, 2013 at 7:49 pm

 I agree 100% with CTS207

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